Shawna Robins of Kaia Health and Wellness: 5 Lifestyle Tweaks That Can Dramatically Improve Your…

Shawna Robins of Kaia Health and Wellness: 5 Lifestyle Tweaks That Can Dramatically Improve Your Wellbeing

The majority of women in the western world are suffering from the Superwoman Syndrome. What is this? It is social role that was created in the early 1980’s when women hit a 2nd wave of feminism. The desire to “have it all” — a high level career, children and marriage became attainable for millions of women for the first time in history. But now, almost 40 years later, women are sicker today than any other previous generation. Why? Because women carry the majority of the workload (both emotional and physical) at home on top of the stress of the workplace. They show up for everyone but themselves. They have an inability to delegate, ask others for help, outsource housework or cooking, meal prep, groceries and have consistent emotional support from their family and friends. This causes millions of women to develop chronic diseases many years before men do.

As a part of my series about “5 Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Dramatically Improve One’s Wellbeing”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Shawna Robins.

Shawna Robins is a #1 best-selling Amazon author, National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach and CEO of Kaia Health and Wellness. She supports accomplished women who want to create their own roadmaps to better health so they can prevent disease and increase their energy and vitality. Shawna’s best-selling book, Powerful Sleep — Rest Deeply, Repair Your Brain And Restore Your Life teaches women how to make powerful lifestyle changes that will help restore their sleep. A free copy of her book can be downloaded at http://www.powerfulsleepbook.com.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the story about how you first got involved in fitness and wellness?

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

2020 has been a very intense and interesting year. I published my book, Powerful Sleep — Rest Deeply, Repair Your Brain, Restore Your Life on March 12th, the day the pandemic was declared. I was in Washington D.C. with my publisher and all the stores were closed and the streets were empty. It was very eerie. We had no idea if book retailers would re-open again or just fade away. Luckily, the topics of sleep, immune support, stress reduction, diet, nutrition, health and wellness have all taken a front row seat in everyone’s minds. So, I have been able to help many more people get their health back on track during this challenging time.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

I am always working on my growth mindset — so mistakes are welcome in my life and my business. I see them as opportunities to show me where I can build more success. Sometimes I make mistakes in my custom videos that I record each week for my signature program, Health Your True Wealth. I accidentally mix up words, my cat likes to jump up on my desk, she bites at my foot or my kids are yelling all while I am recording or going live on Facebook or Instagram. I try to keep it as real as I can. I don’t edit or make any changes. Last week my daughters were both carving pumpkins and started throwing the seeds and guts at each other while I was doing a live video in the next room. At first, I was very annoyed with them, but their laughter and joy just melted my frustration. Working from home now and being around my kids helps keep everything I do more relaxed, authentic, funny and realistic.

Can you share with our readers a bit about why you are an authority in the fitness and wellness field? In your opinion, what is your unique contribution to the world of wellness?

I am a National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach; #1 Amazon best-selling author and graduate of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and I genuinely love to be in service to people who are motivated to stay healthy. By teaching them powerful lifestyle changes, they can live a more vibrant life, free of pain and disease. I have lived through a cancer diagnosis which set me on this path to educate myself as to how we can prevent disease before a diagnosis. My knowledge came into play when my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. I’ve helped him in his fight using lifestyle changes. I deeply believe in the body’s ability to heal itself when given the right tools.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

My biggest inspiration in my life is my father. He was very successful entrepreneur, mentor, philathoper and leader. When he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease at the age of 64, he made some significant changes to his diet, sleep, stress management and exercise that have helped to prolong his longevity and quality of life. He is now 10 years past this diagnosis and still fighting this devastating disease like a champion. He inspired me to write my book about sleep, nutrition and brain health. His tenacity, perseverance and ability to shift and grow with every new challenge shows me how powerful a growth mindset can truly be.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. We all know that it’s important to eat more vegetables, eat less sugar, exercise more, and get better sleep etc. But while we know it intellectually, it’s often difficult to put it into practice and make it a part of our daily habits. In your opinion what are the 3 main blockages that prevent us from taking the information that we all know, and integrating it into our lives?

The first blockage I usually see is that people start off strong with high motivation levels but then it fades over time. To make lasting lifestyle changes that will create long-term health and vitality, I tell my clients to pick only 2–3 small changes they can make so they feel successful and start to see immediate improvements. Too many times people jump into a new diet or exercise routine only to give up after a few weeks. It becomes too hard to sustain and the results are not quickly attainable. By taking smaller steps and building slowly over time, successful outcomes increase, confidence increases, and motivation is much higher. I remind them that “Rome was not built in a day.” Bad patterns need time to be replaced by new, healthier neuropathways.

The next blockage is to asses a client’s stress level. Everyone has a different level and tolerance for stress. If a client’s stress level is causing them to eat sugar and carbs for comfort, do mindless activity like online shopping or Netflix bingeing, or consuming too much alcohol to relax, the best thing to do is identify the stress trigger and find a stress reduction technique that they like and can use every single day. By looking honestly at the underlining stress and its triggers, my clients can feel empowered to make better, healthier choices.

The third biggest blockage I see is unresolved childhood trauma. Many of my clients have suffered from “Adverse Childhood Experiences” (or ACE) and have high ACE scores. It’s incredibly important to know what your personal ACE score is and to find a good qualified therapist to help you resolve any childhood trauma. You might think that your trauma was “in the past” but it actually lives on in your cells. It can augment your DNA and shorten your lifespan. This is true for generational trauma as well. There are many websites that offer the ACE test and I encourage all of my clients to know their scores before we begin working together. Resolving childhood trauma is one the best ways to improve your health and longevity.

Can you please share your “5 Non-Intuitive Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Dramatically Improve One’s Wellbeing”? (Please share a story or an example for each, and feel free to share ideas for mental, emotional and physical health.)

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My top 5 non-intuitive lifestyle tweaks that will dramatically improve your wellbeing are very simple: less is more, develop stress management skills, create healthy sleep habits, build a community and stop suffering from the Superwoman Syndrome. So, let’s dive into each one.

First, the idea is novel in our western society but truly less is more. And it applies to almost all of our daily lifestyle choices — less meat, less dairy, less processed foods, less soda, less caffeine, less alcohol. Pick 2–3 things on this list and try to cut your consumption in half. We are always so focused on “more is better.” But the power lies in what you take away that creates more balance, health and wellness. I especially love the idea of fasting, where you simply remove eating food for a certain number of hours each day. By not eating for 12 or more hours, your body can trigger its rest and repair mechanism call “autophagy” and heal many imbalances, remove toxins and rogue cancer cells and stimulate the growth of new stem cells.

Second, as my cardiologist client tell me, “stress is worse for your body than cheesecake.” And I wholehearted agree. We all have very high levels of chronic stress which leads to a higher level of inflammation, exhaustion, burnout and a shorter life expectancy. Therefore, find a stress management technique that you love and do it every single day. It could be exercise, gardening, reading, meditation, breathwork, yoga, music, gratitude journaling. Anything that helps you to calm down your nervous system, lower cortisol levels and feel peaceful. Commit to it every day, 7 days a week. For me, I use a meditation app to help me release stress from each part of my body while I breathe slowly. This makes me feel centered, takes only 12 min and is easy to fit into my lunch break. Convenience and ease help me to stay on track when life tries to pull me off.

Third, you must learn to develop healthy sleep habits. So many people are not getting the 7 to 9 uninterrupted hours of sleep that they need to stay healthy. Sleep is an active time for your brain to clean and repair tissues, store memories, and regenerate itself. It is also the time when your gut makes important immune cells. So, it is impossible to be healthy if you have disturbed or shortened sleep. Some important tips for better sleep are no eating or drinking anything 3 hours before bed, no blue light in the evenings, make sure to get 30–45 min of cardio exercise during the day and create a sleep sanctuary in your bedroom that is cool, dark and quiet. Having low vitamin D levels will also negatively impact your sleep so check your levels with your doctor. I also recommend using a magnesium supplement at night before you go to bed. More than 80% of Americans are deficient in magnesium, so many of us can benefit from taking this amazing supplement to help us relax and sleep better.

Fourth, make sure that you have a community around you. According to a study in 2018 by Cigna Health Care, “loneliness has the same impact on mortality as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, making it even more dangerous than obesity.” This study also found widespread loneliness, with nearly half of all Americans reporting they feel alone, isolated or left out some of the time. “The nation’s 75 million millennials and Generation Z adults are lonelier than any other U.S. demographic and report being in worse health than older generations.” It is extremely important for your health to connect with your loved ones, make time to see your friends, or join a spiritual, hobby or exercise group with other like-minded people. It will reduce stress, build positive bonds and help your body lower inflammation and chronic pain. Even doing online group workouts from home or zoom book clubs with friends can have a positive impact on your overall wellbeing.

Fifth, the majority of women in the western world are suffering from the Superwoman Syndrome. What is this? It is social role that was created in the early 1980’s when women hit a 2nd wave of feminism. The desire to “have it all” — a high level career, children and marriage became attainable for millions of women for the first time in history. But now, almost 40 years later, women are sicker today than any other previous generation. Why? Because women carry the majority of the workload (both emotional and physical) at home on top of the stress of the workplace. They show up for everyone but themselves. They have an inability to delegate, ask others for help, outsource housework or cooking, meal prep, groceries and have consistent emotional support from their family and friends. This causes millions of women to develop chronic diseases many years before men do. As women learn better skills to be more honest, communicate clear boundaries, say no without guilt, delegate tasks to partners, co-workers or family members, and make time for self-care, they can decrease the amount of chronic stress, anxiety and destructive anger which results in a shorter lifespan, higher levels of chronic illness and heart disease.

All of these lifestyle tweaks can make a big different in your overall well-being. And now is the time to start before a diagnosis takes hold of your life. The statistics are grim. Women lead men in premature death from every chronic disease — Alzheimer’s, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, obesity and auto-immune diseases. Learning to make a few small, powerful changes can redirect your life in a whole new direction.

As an expert, this might be obvious to you, but I think it would be instructive to articulate this for the public. Aside from weight loss, what are 3 benefits of daily exercise? Can you explain?

Daily exercise is one of the most important investments you can make to improve your health and overall wellness. Let’s start with exercise’s most important benefit — improving your brain health. Aim for 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity (like walking, jogging, biking or swimming) a week, but realize that any physical activity can benefit your brain health. When you exercise daily, you saturate your blood stream with oxygen. This inflow of fresh oxygen creates sharper memory and clearer thinking. Your brain also uses this increased blood flow and higher oxygen levels to regenerate itself, stimulates the growth of new brain cells and helps prevent age-related cognitive decline. Added tip- learn something new while you exercise (listening to a new podcast, watch a TED Talks or experiment with new music) for an added brain power boost.

This bring us to the second biggest benefit of daily exercise — getting good nighttime rest. Exercise plays a critical role in decreasing insomnia because it reduces stress naturally, creates fatigue in your muscles and releases neurotransmitters that help you feel relaxed and calm.

These neurotransmitters are the third great benefit of exercise. Serotonin is the key neurotransmitter that is released during aerobic exercise when you get your heart pumping and body sweating. It stabilizes your mood, creates feelings of well-being, and happiness. In fact, it impacts your entire body. Serotonin will help you fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. Just don’t exercise within an hour of your bedtime.

The best time to exercise is in the morning or early afternoon. And bonus points if you can get daily exercise outside with bright sunlight which will help to regulate your sleep-wake cycle.

For someone who is looking to add exercise to their daily routine, which 3 exercises would you recommend that are absolutely critical?

I always tell my clients that the best exercises are any three that you love and will do 5 to 6 days each week. If exercise is just one more thing on your to-do list, you will be more inclined to skip over it or procrastinate. So pick three heart pumping, fun, and convenient workouts — whatever you like that will not feel like a chore. With Covid-19, many gyms are closed or exercise class sizes are restricted, which means now is a perfect time to try something new in the comfort of your own home. Want to learn African dancing, kick boxing, Tabata, Barre or HIIT? You can find all of these classes and more online. Just don’t forget to mix up your routine — and do a combo of cardio and strength training plus stretching.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

I really enjoy reading about the science behind longevity. So, a friend recommended an evidence-based book about the research findings of two extraordinary scientists — Nobel Prize winner Dr. Elizabeth Blackburn and Dr. Elissa Epel. Their book, The Telomere Effect is a brilliant description of how to adopt lifestyle changes to prevent chronic disease and premature death. It describes in detail their findings on how the length and health of our telomeres (the tips of each DNA strand in every cell in our body) will impact our vitality and lifespan. One of the chapters in this book was about adverse childhood experiences (known as ACE) and how children who experience 6 or more traumatic experiences will live 20 years less than the average person. This idea really shocked me. The concept of childhood trauma impacting an adult’s longevity because of the damage done to the telomeres has become my new passion. Now all my clients first begin by understanding their telomeres and how to take care of them, heal them and preserve them so they can keep their chromosomes and cells healthy, allowing them to live a more vital and meaningful life.

You are a person of enormous influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Educating girls is my passion and is the movement I think would bring the most amount of good to our world.

According to Malala.org, 130 million girls worldwide are not currently in school. We must change this immediately, because educated girls are less likely to marry young or contract HIV — and more likely to have healthy, educated children. Each additional year of school a girl completes cuts both infant mortality and child marriage rates. Educated girls also means more working women with the potential to add up to $12 trillion in global growth. Plus, The Brookings Institution calls secondary schooling for girls “the most cost-effective and best investment against climate change.”

What is good for women is good for all of us. Women already are the backbone of our society, our economy and our political system. Educating girls is the best way I see to fix the global crisis we are in.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

My favorite life lesson quote is from His Holiness, The Dalai Lama:

“Man sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result is that he does not live in the present or the future. He lives as if he is never going to die and then he dies never really have lived.”

To me this quote sums up everything that is not working in our western society. We are taught to prioritize our financial gain instead of learning healthy habits that will provide us with a disease-free, pain-free life full of vitality, happiness and overall well-being. When I was diagnosed with cancer in my early 30’s, I was so scared that my life would be over, and I would leave my two small children with no memory of their mother. So, I sought out every possible lifestyle change I could make to keep my body free of cancer. Today I am 14 years cancer-free and I find my work of teaching others how to prevent chronic diseases deeply rewarding. It brings me great joy and satisfaction to be in service to others.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

I would love to have coffee or lunch with Arianna Huffington. We share a deep respect for sleep, wellness and journalism. She is a great role model for women on how to manage success, family, stress, exhaustion and burnout. She has spoken openly about her struggles with the Superwoman Syndrome and how she was able to overcome it to discover a better way to care for her health and her mental well-being. She is a powerful role model as a successful businesswoman, mother and journalist.

What is the best way our readers can follow you online?

Instagram — @KaiaHealthCoach

Facebook — Kaia Health

LinkedIn — Shawna McKinley Robins

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!


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Maureen Borzacchiello: How To Thrive Despite Experiencing Impostor Syndrome

Make a list of what you are good at, what you are GREAT at. Write it all down, knowing that no one has to ever see your list. Own your greatness.

As a part of our series about how very accomplished leaders were able to succeed despite experiencing Impostor Syndrome, I had the pleasure of interviewing Maureen Borzacchiello.

Since 2001, Maureen Borzacchiello has created multi-million dollar businesses, mentored and coached women and spoken at events around the world. Her newest endeavor is her soul mission: to make a difference in the lives of women entrepreneurs by becoming a part of theirs. Creating a community which acknowledges the trials and celebrates the triumphs, while providing relevant content with actionable strategies and execution tools to facilitate progress in their businesses and most importantly, within themselves. She is an advocate for women entrepreneurs — including roles on Board of Directors for organizations supporting economic independence and entrepreneurship, as well as a consultant to large corporations regarding initiatives for small business. Learn more at maureenborza.com Borzacchiello has been featured in a variety of media including Good Morning American, The Today Show, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Inc Magazine, Entrepreneur and CNBC.

Thank you so much for joining us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you tell us a bit about your ‘backstory’?

Thanks so much! I am a serial entrepreneur that spent over 20 years in the experiential marketing and live events space. Fun fact, I am the oldest of 7, who married the baby of 5, have one cool son, 14 nieces and 9 nephews! I’m a huge lover of wine, especially red wines and a bit of a coffee snob to boot! I’m all about creating amazing experiences that make an impression and leave a remarkable memory behind and… I believe in the immense possibilities of the human spirit and love travel and adventure where I can experience different cultures and people.

Can you share with us the most interesting story from your career? Can you tell us what lessons or ‘take aways’ you learned from that?

Just one? 😉 I could give you some glamorous celebrity interactions, but I guess the most useful story to tell is when we were growing and scaling and I ran out of money — we had no liquidity, a ton of outstanding accounts payables from our larger corporate clients and a large overhead. We had increased our staff and I didn’t realize (or frankly, even know to realize) the impact on cash flow. It was one of the most humbling experiences of my life. I had to sit my team down, explain what happened and how we were going to get out of the situation, but that it required all hands on deck and some people agreed to go part-time for a month while we corrected. It worked and turned out the be the most impactful situation, but in the meantime, it taught me: 1) transparency and vulnerability with your team is key 2) know your numbers and your cash flow situation at all times (and if you have no idea, have your accountant come in and show you how to run reports and evaluate) and 3) have an emergency back up financing plan in place BEFORE you ever need it. Fast forward, I was asked to tell the story to Donna Fenn (author of Alpha Dogs) and contributor for Inc Magazine and I had to swallow my pride and share, so that I could help other entrepreneurs avoid the landmine that I detonated. Fast forward two years, and McGraw Hill came calling and asked to include in a business textbook! So my problem and lesson learned was etched in history! Talk about a blow to my struggles with Impostor Syndrome!

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

Our signature program RealTalk for Business Growth™ is uniquely designed to support growth-minded businesses who have success, but may be struggling to accelerate it to the next level as they stagnate within the $250K-$5million revenue range. Underscoring this need, the 2019 American Express State of Women-Owned Businesses Report reveals over the last five years the number of women-owned businesses has grown by 21% compared to 9% growth of overall businesses during the same period, yet only 12% exceed $100k in revenue and 1.7% ever achieve $1M in annual revenue.

There is an abundance of information available online, which can be overwhelming, so we’ve made it more efficient for women by pulling together what they need to take their businesses and lives to the next level. Being authentic is key to the RealTalk journey. I personally had to overcome Imposter Syndrome and shake off the stigmas associated with asking for help. Doing so was incredibly empowering; it changed the game for my business and in-fact contributed to achieving our first million in revenue. I started this program so more women can experience this forward motion and lift others up along their way.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

Isn’t that the truth? There have been many wonderful people who have contributed to my success. One person in particular that I am so grateful for is Susan Sobbott. During her time as the President of Global Corporate Payments at American Express, she sponsored a program for women entrepreneurs. As an awardee in the pilot year of that program, and the years to follow, I had the opportunity to get to know Susan. In addition to the learnings and takeaways from the program and access to experts, I gained insight into the power of mentorship and my desire and passion to help other women was born. It led to my participation in a variety of efforts, organizations and programs to support women’s economic independence and business success. It also led to having the gift of Susan’s friendship and mentoring, observing her leading by example and now, the gift of her serving as an Advisor to me with my newest venture. I was always amazed at how Susan led her organization. How she innovated and supported programs for small business owners including the creation of Small Business Saturday and ShopSmall which brought illumination and focus to the impact that buying from small businesses has on our economy, on communities and on job creation in the US. Her willingness to push beyond the norm, to create programs and products that had such impact, was inspiring. My success to push for more, to innovate, to create alignment within my own small team as well as to find a passion for what was important to me and invest the time to make a difference, were some of the many gifts that I have gained from knowing Susan Sobbott. I will always be grateful for her support, her encouragement and her belief in the possibilities of making a difference. I feel like she’s the “butterfly whisperer” — helping women go through their own personal metamorphosis to impact change.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s shift to the main focus of this interview. We would like to explore and flesh out the experience of Impostor Syndrome. How would you define Impostor Syndrome? What do people with Imposter Syndrome feel?

I would define Impostor Syndrome as self-doubt of someone’s value, accomplishments, skill set, brilliance or gifts. People who suffer from Impostor Syndrome tend to put achievements into the category of “luck” and fear, when they should celebrate deserved success with pride. In fact, many people feel that if people “really knew who they were”, they would be discovered to be a fraud. People with Impostor Syndrome share feelings of fear, anxiety, overwhelm, doubt, even guilt or shame, that they don’t deserve to be (fill in the blank — successful, in a great relationship, a parent…). Funny enough, many overachievers suffer from Impostor Syndrome.

What are the downsides of Impostor Syndrome? How can it limit people?

Impostor Syndrome can have a negative ripple effect throughout your life — both professionally and personally. It can limit your willingness to take risks and truly experience life. People with Impostor Syndrome tend to negate compliments or achievements, which can project a lack of confidence. There’s a big difference in being humble vs. negating or downplaying a compliment; by default, you make the other person wrong. In the context of business, the world expects a business leader to project confidence, so the inability to own your gifts, your greatness or your achievements sends the wrong message to your team, your sphere of influence, your clients and can certainly limit your success path in life. Impostor Syndrome limits your ability to personally recognize and acknowledge the things that you do well, and ultimately the way that you show up in this world.

How can the experience of Impostor Syndrome impact how one treats others?

If fear, guilt, shame, and lack of confidence are drivers for Impostor Syndrome, it’s easy to see that interpersonal relationships can be impacted as well. The experience of how the person suffering from Impostor Syndrome shows up in the moment and treats others can range from disconnection and self-deprecation, to overreaction and paranoia, to dismissive and abrupt. The unintentional projection of one’s feelings around Impostor Syndrome can create consequences that exacerbate the feelings associated with the syndrome.

We would love to hear your story about your experience with Impostor Syndrome. Would you be able to share that with us?

There are several that come to mind but for the sake of time, I’ll share two that are interconnected, but completely different in how the Impostor Syndrome showed up. As a small business owner, 2006 became a significant year — a year that I almost ran out of cash because we were growing quickly (guilt and shame) but then made a huge pivot and ended up not only recovering, but surpassing our first $1Million in sales. I was given a bottle of Dom Perignon champagne from a friend, to celebrate this milestone. It was a big deal. In the US, only 1.7% of women owned businesses ever get to that level of revenue or beyond. The champagne sat in my little wine refrigerator for two years. Each time my friend excitedly asked if I popped the cork to celebrate, I downplayed the victory. II didn’t take a moment to say, “heck yeah, we ended up slaying this year by tripling our revenue from the year prior and surviving a near miss crisis!” Guess what happened? That friend stopped asking. She was so excited for me and what my team and I achieved, but for me, my Impostor Syndrome was making me feel like I needed to repeat the success and prove that it wasn’t a fluke. We continued to grow year over year and became a multi-million dollar company. Related to that, I’m a big vision board fan. I had a photo of a new car on my vision board, taped to my computer screen etc. for almost two years. I had a specific revenue goal attached to it and when I achieved it, I went and got the car. I love cars and always have. It was symbolic to me of what I busted my ass to earn. However, I found that when people would compliment the car, I would find myself downplaying it, instead of just saying thank you. It took me at least a year to get to the point where I could just own my success and if someone made a comment, just say thanks.

Did you ever shake the feeling off? If yes, what have you done to mitigate it or eliminate it?

There is hope! It comes with acute awareness and the ability to catch myself when I have those moments of Impostor Syndrome creeping in. It also came with lots of self-discovery and the realization that many of the drivers — the fear, the guilt, and the ability to recognize that they were not true. They were stories that I was allowing to control the narrative in my mind that had no basis of truth.

In your opinion, what are 5 steps that someone who is experiencing Impostor Syndrome can take to move forward despite feeling like an “Impostor”? Please share a story or an example for each.

I’ve coached and/or mentored women for years and the common denominator for many successful women is Impostor Syndrome. In fact, research shows that professional women and entrepreneurs suffer significantly from Impostor Syndrome. Here are some steps that you can take to cope and move forward:

Step 1: Make a list of what you are good at, what you are GREAT at. Write it all down, knowing that no one has to ever see your list. Own your greatness.

Here’s an example: Joanne works for a Fortune 50 company and got wind that a leadership position was opening up. She mentioned that she wasn’t going to bother applying because that role was historically filled with men. I challenged her and asked her to break down the qualities and skills that the role required, then had her go through and identify how she matched up. She was a perfect fit. That lens and a little confidence boost to go for it and try, helped her move through the paralysis of Impostor Syndrome and yes, you guessed it, she got the promotion!

Step 2: Reach out to a few of your inner circle peeps and ask them what they think your biggest strengths are — be quiet, don’t interrupt them and let them speak. When they are done, say THANK YOU! Don’t negate what they said. Take it in, absorb it and let it validate what you probably had on your list already. I had to learn this the hard way. About 10 years ago, I took a course on leadership development and one of the exercises required me to reach out to 10 people that know me well and get feedback. They were advised that the survey would compile the results and their feedback would be anonymous regarding the specificity of their comments. The experience was validating but the most poignant comment that came out of it was, “I wish she could see how others see her — her strength, her brilliance and strategic mind and her huge, compassionate heart.”. I was beyond humbled, but the point was, that I was overlooking what others saw and this exercise debunked every possible fear or story around my Impostor Syndrome that I was telling myself.

Step 3: Create a coping mechanism: How can you stop yourself or catch yourself and identify when those Impostor Syndrome thoughts kick in? As a New Yorker, the mechanism is a voice in my head that literally says “STOP, are we doing this?” Figure out what works for you — find a way to catch the thoughts before they have time to do damage.

Step 4: In the moment, when you start having feelings and thoughts and you recognize what’s going on (from Step 3) do some quick analysis. Ask yourself, what’s the story? What am I feeling? Is this true? What is the real truth to the situation? Ask yourself: How can you own your power, your skill, your value? My ability to ask myself these questions was so valuable to me in learning how to navigate. I have shared this technique with many women who have experienced immediate relief from debunking the lie, the story that was never true but was at the root of their Impostor Syndrome. It doesn’t go away, but it’s so manageable when you get it all in context, have coping skills and a way to navigate through it.

Step 5: Take Action. Figure out what steps you can take to move through your bout of Impostor Syndrome. I was talking with a client last week — she’s a mom to five-year-old twins, has a successful business and was feeling overwhelmed and like a total failure in both. Why? Because her clients were demanding time on her schedule, her husband’s work schedule was overlapping with Covid-19 home schooling and she felt that she was juggling it all and not doing anything well. At the root of the issue was scheduling and learning to say “no” to things that didn’t align with her priorities in the moment. The solution? Create a schedule of availability that blocked time for the twins and family obligations, time for HERSELF (which is a subject for another day) and time for her clients and business appointments. Then, releasing the availability accordingly and being able to say to her clients for example, that on Tuesday at 4 PM she’s booked. The client doesn’t need to know that she’s booked to sit with her twins doing a Zoom ballet class. You get the point, it’s optics and managing your priorities. She sent me a note a few days later, saying how empowering it has been and how the guilt is gone and she’s feeling like the badass Mama and Entrepreneur that she knows she is.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the greatest amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I’ve just founded and created my passion project for women entrepreneurs — RealTalk for Business Growth — a platform combining content, community and connections for established businesses looking to grow and scale to the next level and create the businesses of their dreams. While at the same time, leveraging a community of like-minded women who speak their language, where women can be vulnerable and celebrate the chaos, the mess AND the victories. My dream is to make an impact for women globally, in both their businesses and their lives, and that this movement takes more women-owned businesses beyond the $1Million threshold.

We are blessed that some very prominent leaders read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US, with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch, and why? He or she might just see this, especially if we tag them 🙂

I would LOVE to have a private breakfast or lunch with the Queen of Compassion herself, Ms. Oprah Winfrey! She has been number one on my bucket list for the last 25 years. She’s just such a successful entrepreneur, has overcome obstacles, shared her personal development and growth with the world, remained curious and open to learning and exploration, and has used her success, position of power and influence to make a difference in this world….Philanthropically, emotionally, spiritually and socially — she’s just an amazing human being. If I could make a quarter of the ripple that she has in this world, I would know that I’ve accomplished something remarkable. So, tag away! #lifegoalofmeetingoprah

How can our readers follow you on social media?

FB, IG and Twitter: @maureenborza

I have a free Facebook group for women entrepreneurs: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1466011170262937

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maureenborzacchiello/

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!

Thank YOU! It was my pleasure. Grateful for the opportunity.


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Women In Wellness: Ashley Ellis of Compwell on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support…

Women In Wellness: Ashley Ellis of Compwell on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

Prioritize rest. — Sleep is crucial for our body’s ability to reset and to effectively achieve our daily goals. It even impacts our reactions to other people and situations. You should practice good sleep hygiene. If falling asleep is a problem, look up sleep meditations or yoga videos and slowly work toward a more relaxing nighttime routine. In my family, we have always made sleep a top priority. We protect bedtime, even for my husband and myself, so we can keep our energy up for the kids and work during the week.

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ashley Ellis.

Ashley Ellis is a pharmacist, an educator and a business owner. She co-founded and works full-time as director of clinical operations for Compwell, a Memphis-based chronic care management company. In addition to her day job, Ashley is a mother of three and an advocate on the national level for eczema, an issue affecting 9.6 million of the nation’s children, including Ashley’s daughter.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

I’ve been a pharmacist for more than a dozen years and have spent my career weaving together innovative practice settings with evidence-based health care to provide every patient with the highest level of care. I’ve worked in primary care, academia, pharmacy ownership and consulting, and I am particularly passionate about diabetes care. In my clinical experience, I began to recognize the impact the lack of preventive care for chronic conditions has on both patients and our health care system, leading me to co-found Compwell in 2019.

In addition to my day-to-day chronic care management role, I also use my expertise to fight for young people with atopic dermatitis (severe eczema), which affects my daughter. I serve as a mentor for the “Support for Eczema Caregivers Program” with Global Parents for Eczema Research, as well as a spokesperson for the organization’s “Understand AD” campaign.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

I once had a patient with uncontrolled diabetes who told me that his five brothers and sisters, none of whom were living, were each buried with the amputation of at least one limb due to diabetes. He went on to say that he knew that would happen to him, too, so he didn’t really see a point in putting too much effort into his own care. I stopped dead in my tracks and told him “That is not happening to you — not on my watch.” I then explained to him that it was simply a myth that his diabetes couldn’ be controlled, and things like amputation can be totally preventable. Through working with him on his medication, a new diet and working to help him implement other lifestyle changes, we were able to get his diabetes-related labs under control within three months, significantly decreasing his risk of amputation. I know these stories are commonplace, especially in the South — where I was born and live today — and this is one of the many reasons why I feel such an imperative to make lasting change for our communities.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I had a mentor-type relationship with an older practitioner before I went to pharmacy school. Over the course of that relationship, we maintained that “little sister” dynamic despite my professional growth and years of experience, awards, residency and network. He made several statements about his perceptions of my strengths and weaknesses, as well as which areas he thought I shouldn’t pursue, and I allowed both my trust and our history to color my view of myself — doubting my abilities for several years. What I learned is that I am capable of achieving any goal I set for myself. Although others might have motivations to doubt those goals, I cannot allow those people, no matter who they are, to set my limits for me.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person you are grateful toward who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I am grateful to Dr. Randall Huling at Olive Branch Family Medical Center. Dr. Huling is a primary care provider and clinic owner who employed me for three years. I admire his progressive leadership and management style, as well as his openness to ideas. He always let me — at minimum — explore every idea I brought to him without shutting it down. I am also forever grateful in his belief in my abilities — specifically that he was open to having me on staff as a pharmacist and diabetes educator at his clinic. I learned so much in that position, not only about my role and how clinics should run, but also other intangible pieces of knowledge that benefit me to this day, as I now work with numerous clinics, physicians, nurse practitioners and physician assistants.

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

Chronic Care Management (CCM) is a program that Medicare initially designed to help beneficiaries remain in better communication with their providers between scheduled visits. Things may happen during that “between” time, such as falls, rising blood glucose or rising blood pressure readings. In that time, patients may even experience changing housing or transportation needs, hospitalizations, specialist visits, or a new need for refills or immunizations. With CCM, a care coordinator calls a patient once a month to coordinate these needs. That includes making sure they have medication refills sent to the pharmacy, test results sent to the provider so medication dosages can be adjusted, etc. This monthly call can help prevent small problems from going unchecked and progressing into something more complicated and costly. We have also adapted this service for employer groups so they can help employees to prevent diabetes, achieve a healthy weight, stop using tobacco products, or even help them find a primary care provider to access preventive screenings their employer already pays for.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey toward better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

  1. Identify your “why.” — What makes you want to be healthy? For me, it is that I do not want to miss out on any memory with my children — like riding amusement park rides or hiking or camping — due to my health. I want my children to remember their mother being present.
  2. Reframe exercise. — Exercise isn’t a punishment for what you ate, and it’s not just for weight loss or bikini body purposes. Exercise is a way to celebrate what your body is capable of doing, and it can be something you enjoy doing. After my third child, I had a herniated disc that suddenly burst, causing severe pain and a loss of flexibility. After I was told that exercise was the primary treatment for this injury, yoga and walking became lifelines to me. Now, almost three years later, my flexibility is better than it’s ever been and every time I practice, I leave feeling proud of what my body can accomplish. This stands opposed to the views I had earlier in my life, when it was just about figuring out how many calories I burned versus how many I consumed.
  3. Routine for activity is important. — While COVID-19 has made this harder, whether we are working at home, virtually schooling or still commuting — find a routine. Maybe it’s walking at lunchtime, after the kids go to bed, on Saturday mornings, or for 10 minutes after each meal — whatever works for you. Decide what that routine is and commit to it. For me, it was committing to virtual yoga twice a week, using my Peloton two times a week and walking outside on days with good weather. Pre-COVID, it was going to the local park for a walk during my lunch hour. Regardless, I have always found that when I can automate it, like a routine, instead of being consumed with decision fatigue, I am more likely to accomplish it.
  4. Don’t let distractors get you down. — Everyone is on their own wellness journey. It is much easier when those who live with you are on the same track. However, if others you work or live with don’t share your goals, you shouldn’t feel the need to win them over. Just set expectations with them as to what YOU will do. Tell them you will exercise or bring a healthy side dish to a get-together — and THEY will adjust. My family has now made a joke out of me packing healthy snacks or making a Christmas tree shaped veggie plate for our family gatherings. But it not only provides healthy appetizers, it makes great leftovers for lunches and snacks the week after!
  5. Prioritize rest. — Sleep is crucial for our body’s ability to reset and to effectively achieve our daily goals. It even impacts our reactions to other people and situations. You should practice good sleep hygiene. If falling asleep is a problem, look up sleep meditations or yoga videos and slowly work toward a more relaxing nighttime routine. In my family, we have always made sleep a top priority. We protect bedtime, even for my husband and myself, so we can keep our energy up for the kids and work during the week.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

I would prioritize investment in preventive care and early intervention in chronic care identification. Our entire health care system is built on a model of seeking care when we are sick or need something. The problem is, by the time we can detect those problems ourselves, they could often already be catastrophic. In fact, some people live eight to 10 years with undiagnosed diabetes. For example, if a person has a headache from high blood pressure, that means it may already be at stroke level. It would be much more effective if we were to prevent these conditions from the beginning or detect them in their early stages with up-front investments such as making cities more walkable, free gym memberships and ensuring the availability of healthy eating education. If we were to accomplish this, it would not only pay off in dividends on the backend, every American could be on the pathway to creating a future of healthier familial and social cultures.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  • Be flexible! If you don’t bend, you will break.
  • Everyone makes mistakes. Own them quickly and learn from them.
  • The only one who can tell me that I can’t do something is me.
  • There are so many ways to be successful. Be open to possibilities.
  • Never apologize for being 100% authentically yourself.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

Mental health is a topic that is near and dear to my heart. I think everybody can benefit from therapy, learning more about themselves and how to better relate to others. My daughter’s eczema has affected her mental health, and I also see it impacting so many of my patients’ physical health. To manage my own mental health, I find yoga and outdoor exercise to be beneficial. They help me to reset and pay attention to how intense situations affect my physical body and overall wellness.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

You can follow me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-ellis-pharmd-cdecs-98558714/.


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Women Of The C-Suite: Sydna Kelley of Alert Logic On The Five Things You Need To Succeed As A…

Women Of The C-Suite: Sydna Kelley of Alert Logic On The Five Things You Need To Succeed As A Senior Executive

Make leadership organic; Allow people to lead in a way that feels genuine to them and they will be much happier and productive in their leadership roles. Everyone has special talents that they bring to the task at hand and allowing each person to demonstrate their own unique value allows them to fulfill their purpose.

As a part of our series about strong women leaders, I had the pleasure of interviewing Alert Logic’s Sydna Kelley, Chief Services Officer.

Sydna Kelley has spent 20+ years streamlining operational efficiencies, eliminating waste and creating scalable business models for disruptive and emerging companies, resulting in exponential valuation increases and acquisition.

As Chief Services Officer, she applies her passion for operational excellence, cultivating a “customer-obsessed” culture and enabling 360-degree visibility into customer deployments to ensure industry-leading cyber attack protection.

Cyber attackers are more relentless than ever and technology alone cannot stop destructive attacks. It’s for this reason that Alert Logic’s Security Operations Center (SOC) is in many ways the heart of its business — spanning continents and employing 24/7 security analysts who analyze network traffic and 60 billion+ log messages daily. Sydna has reimagined the SOC and Alert Logic’s approach to customer success.

Sydna has been responsible for $85M security operations budgets in some of the most heavily regulated industries.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

I started as a business major in college and took a computer engineering class and was instantly hooked! I love puzzles and process challenges, and computer science engineering was fun and logical. After graduation, I worked as a computer engineer in highly-regulated industries such as banking and pharmaceuticals and loved the transformational change these industries were going through at the time. There are special complexities with highly-regulated industries; the supporting processes that are needed for security and structure are both challenging and rewarding to create. I also learned throughout the years that I’m fanatical about customer service, especially when linked with technical operations, security and compliance. My love of the security industry grew out of dealing with dynamic change and complexity, and the desire to help people be successful with security technologies and protection.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?

Although there have been many interesting challenges I’ve faced over the years, the most relevant story is how the cybersecurity industry and my company (and team) responded to the COVID-19 challenges by creating a collaborative and productive virtual workspace that also allows for work/life balance and emotional support during this stressful time.

The experience over the last year has been unprecedented. I’m delighted to see how people can rise above the daily stress and challenges and reach out to each other for support. My entire global team has embraced the challenge to make sure everyone stays happy, healthy and connected during these potential times of isolation. We have utilized creative ways to stay aligned such as daily scrums, weekly round table discussions, virtual town halls and several other strategies creating enhanced levels of communication. There have also been fun events including virtual happy hours and a virtual house party — so the team has not lost its penchant for fun!

The combination of these virtual events and heightened collaboration has brought the cross-functional and multi-national teams closer in many regards including enhanced personal relationships as well as objective and priority alignment. It has been a ray of hope for me to see how we have seamlessly banded together across the globe through this shared challenge.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Early on in my career, I had to orchestrate an end-of-year computer processing run at a bank where I was leading the Consumer Loans computer platform. The amount of time I spent preparing, coding and orchestrating this for the company had topped anything I had ever done to that point in my career. One of the steps involved an operator in the data center. Their job was to load tapes in a certain way throughout the beginning of the processing (yes, that sentence just dated me). As the end-of-year process began, the operator mistakenly began loading tapes incorrectly and everything I had planned started to fail miserably. I didn’t keep my cool and needless to say, the operator began to cry and break down. I took a breath, apologized and we eventually figured it out together and saved the day so that everyone saw correct bank statements on January 1. The two lessons I learned were: 1) respect for people is always the first step to mobilizing a team and creating successful outcomes, and 2) automation always has an element of human intervention that we have to plan for.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I had several wonderful mentors along my journey and each one has provided lessons and examples of leadership across many different scenarios. One influential leader and mentor I worked with for 10+ years faced challenges with an element of laughter and I remember how effective that was. Keeping perspective even in the most critical situations was a huge leadership lesson for me.

My parents also had a huge influence on me and pushed me to never give up and do my best in every situation. Perseverance is one of the core competencies past mentors have teased me about!

I have also seen how strong personal ethics can influence leadership and build strong organizations with aligned purpose. I try to be selfless when I think through problems and make decisions. If you can put aside personal agendas for the good of the collective community, you will always do the right thing for the company and people on your team.

In my work, I often talk about how to release and relieve stress. As a busy leader, what do you do to prepare your mind and body before a stressful or high stakes meeting, talk, or decision? Can you share a story or some examples?

I believe keeping perspective in life is the key to dealing with challenges and stress. If you have the right perspective, even the most challenging day can have a silver lining. I’m happy to see more and more people creating work/life balance in their lives and I believe this creates a higher level of happiness and productivity.

My happy place is sailing and being on the water, so I always go back to that feeling when dealing with a stressful situation. I urge all of my leaders to spend time away from work to gain that perspective and then bring that energy and balance to their jobs and decision making. This has been especially important in the last several months as we’ve been exclusively working remotely due to the pandemic. This has created a strong need for everyone to establish their own work/life balance even in the most trying of times.

As you know, the United States is currently facing a very important self-reckoning about race, diversity, equality and inclusion. This may be obvious to you, but it will be helpful to spell this out. Can you articulate to our readers a few reasons why it is so important for a business or organization to have a diverse executive team?

I have always found that a diverse team with different perspectives and experiences creates the best overall solutions. Every team I have led has had diverse representation and I take great pride in that fact. I want to make sure I do anything I can to give everyone a voice, especially people who struggle to be heard based on old ways of thinking. Voices with new ideas create transformational change for the betterment of the organization and collective culture and hold the key to our future.

As a business leader, can you please share a few steps we must take to truly create an inclusive, representative, and equitable society? Kindly share a story or example for each.

Respect everyone, always. Everyone deserves to be respected and trusted and their input needs to count. Each individual has something unique to contribute and differences can be celebrated.

Make leadership organic. Allow people to lead in a way that feels genuine to them and they will be much happier and productive in their leadership roles. Everyone has special talents that they bring to the task at hand and allowing each person to demonstrate their own unique value allows them to fulfill their purpose.

Make every job a high-profile job. People need to see how their job contributes to the overall objective and each unique piece allows the group to be more successful.

Demonstrate your worth. I work to craft a vision to inspire my team so that they can see a better future, a better process, enhanced services, and overall improvements that will delight our customers. Ultimately, I know I’m doing a good job when they become the creative force and explore their own path to reach their unique potential.

Ok, thank you for that. Let’s now jump to the primary focus of our interview. Most of our readers — in fact, most people — think they have a pretty good idea of what a CEO or executive does. But in just a few words can you explain what an executive does that is different from the responsibilities of the other leaders?

In my opinion, decision making and accountability are the two most important and most challenging aspects of being an executive. Experience inherently provides you situations where you will win or lose, so trial-and-error learning is part of developing into an effective executive. When it comes to tough decisions, experience trumps education and relevant decisions come from relevant experience. A huge part of executive leadership is making the tough decisions and owning the outcomes regardless of what unfolds.

What are the “myths” that you would like to dispel about being a CEO or executive. Can you explain what you mean?

— One myth about being a C-level executive is that you have ultimate power through the decisions that you make and don’t worry about building support or ramifications for your decisions. Key decision making is a big part of being an executive but making hard decisions is challenging and extremely stressful due to the amount of people impacted by these decisions. When it comes to tough decisions, experience and education are both critical — relevant decisions come from relevant experience.

I believe the best executive leadership comes from people who want to serve first. This servant leadership mindset and leading an organization well, serving it as a good steward, can only benefit you, your company and ultimately the customers. Due to the importance of this, most leaders agonize over each decision that impacts the ability to do business more effectively and ultimately enhance employee and customer satisfaction. If you don’t like to serve and you aren’t ready to take ownership for key decision making, you probably won’t enjoy being an executive.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by women executives that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

One thing I have noticed recently during that last couple of months of quarantine and while working from home, women tend to be pulled more frequently into the challenges of work/life balance. During this time of less separation between work and family, there is a natural gravitation between women and their children and although they enjoy being home with their families, it is a challenge to switch off. It is certainly a labor of love but also a balancing act.

What is the most striking difference between your actual job and how you thought the job would be?

I’m always surprised at how invested I become in the outcome of my company and teams and it doesn’t feel like a job but more like a passionate pursuit! I’ve always been loyal to the companies I’ve worked for but over the last several months I feel extremely invested in seeing my company and all of our team members reach their potential. I’m happy to feel so invested about security outcomes but it’s something that continues to surprise me.

Certainly, not everyone is cut out to be an executive. In your opinion, which specific traits increase the likelihood that a person will be a successful executive and what type of person should avoid aspiring to be an executive? Can you explain what you mean?

I think the best executive leadership comes from people who want to serve first. This servant leadership mindset and leading an organization well, serving it as a good steward, can only benefit you, your company and ultimately the customers. Do business more effectively, more ethically, and in ways that create and enhance customers’ satisfaction and you gain success for your company. If you don’t like to serve, you probably won’t enjoy being an executive.

What advice would you give to other women leaders to help their team to thrive?

Keep moving forward. You can’t let others and their opinions impact your ability to succeed. Don’t listen to negative remarks. I remember a situation where remarks were made about a female executive who was a role model for me at the company. Someone made the statement that “she’s was in the twilight of her career”. That seemed odd to me considering she was younger than her male executive counterparts. We can no longer listen to the negative voices of the past and have to be confident and proud of our experience and our unique contributions as women.

How have you used your success to make the world a better place?

Day to day, I try to make small positive impacts by lifting up my team and taking the time to interact with customers. Hear what they need and how we can help. I love the quote from Mahatma Gandhi that says: “Be the change that you want to see in the world” and I try to remember that every morning. I think grass-roots efforts make a difference in a company and in a community, and the small positive interactions that make each day worth living and ultimately make the world a better place.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why? (Please share a story or example for each.)

1. Mistakes should be expected and tracked to create a dynamic process for learning and improvement.

To achieve top performance, we must first recognize and learn from our mistakes. And for that to happen within the workplace, for employees to willingly acknowledge errors, they need an environment in which it feels safe to have honest dialogue.

Early on in my career as a manager, I managed two operational teams. Consistently one team on average would have 0 or very few reported incidents per month while the other team would consistently show a higher number of specific incidents with a specific root cause identified. After digging into examples on both teams, I realized that the team reporting the higher incidents weren’t less effective or less careful, they were simply more comfortable admitting mistakes when they happened. This was an early lesson for me at allowing people to make mistakes and feel comfortable reporting them so we could track resolution and create a continuous improvement cycle. It also helped me think through creating metrics that supported the right behaviors.

2. Women add a much-needed perspective in technology and in the security industry.

STEM was not something I was encouraged to pursue in high school. I was lucky enough to have a supportive professor in college that observed my aptitude for computer science and process engineering. With the right opportunity, I excelled and that opened up my eyes to the challenges and opportunities in cybersecurity.

Supporting STEM across all genders early on and through creative outreach can provide the necessary talent we need for the future in key areas of technology and cybersecurity. I have always found that a diverse team with different perspectives and experiences create the best overall solutions. Every team I have led has had diverse representation and I take great pride in that fact.

3. Extroverts and introverts can both be highly successful and impactful leaders.

Extroverts are more likely to network and seek out opportunities which lead to the misconception that introverts are less desirable candidates for leadership or C-level positions. Introverts tend to be introspective and observant, naturally making them thoughtful listeners and strong leaders.

Don’t let any preconceived notions dissuade you from identifying your unique talents that create an advantage for you and allow yourself time to develop your leadership presence. There are many traits, including conflict resolution and high emotional intelligence that are equally or more important to being able to capture the limelight.

4. Your failures will define you more than your successes.

My favorite Winston Churchill life lesson quote is “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” It’s a wonderful way to look at life and anything that feels like a defeat.

I’m a competitive person and like most people, I don’t like to fail. It helps me to recharge when I remember that every lesson I have learned has made me a better person and leader. Challenges teach valuable lessons that help you grow and the important thing to remember is don’t give up and keep moving forward.

5. People are always the most important resource.

The most important lesson I’ve learned throughout the years is the importance of having happy, healthy, engaged people as part of your team and company. This is not just a stretch goal but a daily imperative. A few key elements to creating this engaged and inclusive team include the following:

. Respect everyone, always; Everyone deserves to be respected and trusted and their input needs to count. Everyone has something unique to contribute and differences can be celebrated.

. Make leadership organic; Allow people to lead in a way that feels genuine to them and they will be much happier and productive in their leadership roles. Everyone has special talents that they bring to the task at hand and allowing each person to demonstrate their own unique value allows them to fulfill their purpose.

. Make every job a high-profile job; People need to see how their job contributes to the overall objective and each unique piece allows the group to be more successful.

. Inspire people through your vision; I work to craft a vision that inspires my team to image a better future, better processes and improved services that will delight our customers. Ultimately, I know I’m going a good job when my team becomes the creative force behind change that allows them to reach their unique potential.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good for the greatest number of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.

I’d like to inspire more people to become aware of the fact that human trafficking is an industry of $32 billion in the U.S. and $150 billion worldwide that is causing untold heartache and tragedy. One major misconception is that this crime doesn’t happen in the U.S. and doesn’t pose a risk to U.S. businesses. It also can affect any individual of any age, race, gender and nationality. Everyone should be aware that this is something that is happening right now to someone in our country and unless we all admit that and become involved, it is not going away any time soon. The first step to eradicating this atrocity is to recognize that it exists, and then we can stop it.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

I love the Winston Churchill life lesson quote that says: “Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.” I just think that is a wonderful way to look at life and anything that feels like a defeat. I’m a competitive person and I don’t like failing so it helps me to recharge and remember that every lesson I learn makes me a better person and a better leader. Anything that is worth the effort will be hard. When you’re in the middle of something difficult it can look like you’re failing, when, in reality, you’re probably learning a valuable lesson that can help you grow. I think every role I’ve ever had has elements of this as an undercurrent and the important thing is to not give up and keep moving forward.

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Anne Hidalgo. Hidalgo is the first female Mayor of Paris and ran for re-election on what is considered the “third rail” of urban politics in France — car parking on city streets. She didn’t shy away from this hot button political issue and decisively won a second term. This decision to stick to her guns in the face of “conventional” or “prevailing” wisdom, achieve success against the odds and remain committed to her vision of ecological transformation for the city has applications for business and cybersecurity leaders.

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Jason Rosell of Caliente Fitness: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness

Read at least 10 minutes a day something that you are passionate about. This will aid you by simply keeping your mind in check which is super healthy.

As a part of my series about the “5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness” I had the pleasure of interviewing Jason Rosell.

Jason Rosell is a Television Personality, world-renowned Celebrity Life, wellness, relationship coach. He is also the founder of the wellness company “Caliente Fitness” and the author of “Yummy Healthy Dinners” available on AMAZON.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the backstory about what brought you to your specific career path?

After many years of being a TV personality on reality television, an actor on soap operas, commercials, films and being a singer recording artist, I noticed that although people were very excited and impressed with me being an artist, they were always more shocked to see how I dramtically transformed my mindset, body and life.

I was obese for 20 plus years, After a few years of hearing eveyones reactions, I changed my path of being not only just an entertainer/artist, I started training celebrities and later creating and becoming the founder of my life and wellness company “Caliente Fitness.”

The company took off and has been transforming the lives of 1000’s of men and women since 2010. I have a program within my company called “Caliente Mind Caliente Body” that has helped people from the inside out and it focuses on mindset coaching calls, along with a customizable food and fitness program that is easy to follow. I think that it is so cool that now I get to be on television and shows just by being myself, and helping people by serving them with knowledge to better their lives in a very fun way.

I help people think outside the box and be able to do things within their entire lifestyle to create a new and better version of their current one. Regardless if it is in their relationship with themselves, partner, food, fitness, branding, etc… I renovate and empower people to the highest potential they did not realize they can accomplish. Many times, most people are held back with their thoughts as we all have a mind “blueprint” of how life should be.

Once we realize that we are not our mind, and that are mind does not control us, we become unleashed from whatever is holding us back and that is where I come in. To open the doors of endless possibilities for people that are not willing to settle and want to achieve the best.

After people work with me regardless if it’s via my online programs, zoom coaching, or my books and in person training, you notice a major shift in them very quickly and that to me gives me so much pleasure, and most importantly a happy purpose in life in which I love waking up and going to bed happy knowing I have helped someone new everyday.

For most of my life, no one believed in me, I didn’t believe in me. I was obese, full of stretch marks, unhappy, sloppy and just an underachiever with no mentors. I changed, and I love changing lives.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

I would have to say training and coaching TV host Steve Harvey along with a group of mom’s front in front of a live audience on national television while dancing to my sexercise music workout video program was by far the funniest time ever! I could not keep my composure half of the time as Steve would take each of my workout moves and make his own fun version of it!

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

In the beginning of my career, I did a lot of small acting jobs on independent films and soap operas. I remember one of my first gigs having to do a dance scene and while dancing away, my pants split in half as I was heavier then, and needless to say, I was in little speedos in front of 90 people on set haha. That was one of many funniest times I have experienced for sure!

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I am grateful for my mother. She was a single mom most of her life working three jobs to help me even went I was forced to quit high school. She has been a true leader by example and my super hero.

What advice would you suggest to your colleagues in your industry to thrive and avoid burnout?

What advice would you give to other leaders about how to create a fantastic work culture?

Learn from people you want to become. Place yourself in places where people that you look up to are hanging out. Let them mentor you or hire a coach like myself so they can teach you many years of experience in a short amount of time so you can become the best version of you.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. Mental health is often looked at in binary terms; those who are healthy and those who have mental illness. The truth, however, is that mental wellness is a huge spectrum. Even those who are “mentally healthy” can still improve their mental wellness. From your experience or research, what are five steps that each of us can take to improve or optimize our mental wellness. Can you please share a story or example for each.

  • Do guided meditations daily (Not sure how to or what that is)? Find my free guided meditations via my podcast available on all platforms or youtube. Simple search: Jason Rosell Meditations or my show “Get Inspired With Jason Rosell)
  • Exercise for at least 30 minutes daily. This helps keep your mind and body happy.
  • Journal for 5 minutes every morning and evening. This helps clear all negative thoughts away and gives you a sense of grattitude.
  • Read at least 10 minutes a day something that you are passionate about. This will aid you by simply keeping your mind in check which is super healthy.
  • Talk to yourself nicely. How you talk to yourself is what sets the tone in how your day will go and how you treat others.

How about teens and pre teens. Are there any specific new ideas you would suggest for teens and pre teens to optimize their mental wellness?

I feel that teens or pre teens should make it a daily habit to incorporate productivity lists to not only feel happy, but also accomplished. They should put in work and get rewarded from a young age in which later will help them later be more successful and happy in the future.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

The book “The Power Of Now” is by far one of my favorite books as it made me realize that our brain and what we think has nothing to do with who we really are deep inside. Once we realize that we control our thoughts and not the other way around, life changes in the best way ever. This has helped me and many of my clients succeed.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I would start and have a global (Caliente Mind Caliente Body) morning ritual that everyone does. It would be a daily 10 minute guided meditation by me and 10 minute dance off daily first thing in the morning. This will bring people calmness, and excitement all in one. This is one of my favorite routines to get my day starting off awesome!

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

My quote which is the slogan of my company “Caliente Fitness” is: “Caliente Mind Caliente Body”

I believe and live by this quote as I am a firm believer that if you can train your brain, you can achieve not only great phyiscal results, but amazing results in any part of your life.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

They can visit my website http://JasonRosell.com to view all of my social or visit the links below:

Instagram: http://instagram.com/jasonroselllive

Youtube: http://youtube.com/jasonrosell

Facebook: http://facebook.com/jasonroselllive

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!


Jason Rosell of Caliente Fitness: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.