Women In Wellness: Kayleigh Christina of ‘CLEARSTEM Skincare’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Wil

Women In Wellness: Kayleigh Christina of ‘CLEARSTEM Skincare’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

Prioritize your mental health. If you can’t show up for yourself, you won’t be able to show up for anyone else. You and your body are what are most important, which includes your mental health. Going to a therapist, energy healer, or even just talking things out with a friend can make a huge difference.

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Kayleigh Christina.

Holistic Nutritionist Kayleigh Christina is the co-founder of CLEARSTEM Skincare, a non-toxic skincare line that targets acne, anti-aging, and scar reversing utilizing premium ingredients. Guided by a passion to make a positive impact, Christina studies the latest research on skin and whole-body wellness. She is the co-host of the Balancing Your Hustle podcast, which interviews thought leaders, entrepreneurs, and wellness experts, diving into their individual stories and journeys. Christina is also the published author of Healing with Apple Cider Vinegar: 115 Recipes for Health, Beauty, and Home and has been featured in numerous health, wellness, and lifestyle publications.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

Thank you so much! I am honored to be a part of this series! I used to work in the corporate world and also as a holistic nutritionist. During this time I experienced a lot of different health issues, which led me to expand my knowledge about how what you put into your body affects your overall wellness. I felt a personal responsibility to share my findings with others so that they could also gain control of their own health. I struggled with celiac disease, leaky gut, and, to top it all off, extreme cystic acne. I was able to get everything under control, except my acne, which led me to dive deeper into research and cross paths with my now business partner Danielle. Together we discovered the extreme lack of knowledge surrounding skin health and acne, and the struggles I went through with my acne turned into a company, CLEARSTEM Skincare. We not only created a line that tackled both aging and acne, but also provided consumers with information about nutrition, hormones, supplements, and whole body wellness.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

I was one of 20 female entrepreneurs invited to Lorna Jane’s house. Because I consistently shared the behind the scenes of my business and was vulnerable on my social media, I was noticed and invited. Danielle and I were also featured at FounderMade’s Discovery Show this past year, which was a career highlight.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

The funniest mistake in CLEARSTEM’s early days was when 2,500 bottles arrived from overseas with pink metallic labels. Our labels were white and blue. We had no way to reverse this and the company had an 8 week lead time, so we just had to roll with it, and, luckily, people went nuts over it!!! They loved it and still ask for it sometimes!

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I could never choose just one person. I am truly grateful for the friends I’ve made along the way creating my business who have also been huge mentors to me in many different ways. To name a few: Brandon Cohen, Steven Barelli, Rich Blankenship, Julia Broglie, Mark Mastrandrea, Sam Pantazopoulos and Christina Rice.

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

At CLEARSTEM, impact is our motivation. There’s so much misinformation about skin health that exists, particularly around acne and aging. These two pain points for people cause a lot of stress, anxiety, and confidence issues. We help people become confident in their skin by taking control of their health and helping them see positive results. When people become more confident, they let their light shine and are able to make a positive impact on others.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

I believe simple changes make the biggest impact. It’s also easier to make small habit changes that create massive change over time.

  1. Drink more water. I know you hear this all the time, but drinking more water is one of the greatest things health wise that you can do for your body. If you’re in a pinch, find a product like Liquid I.V. that you can put in your drink on-the-go.
  2. Sleep quality > sleep quantity. It’s not always about the amount of hours you get. Your body and cells do the most generation between 10pm and 2am. If you are missing these hours, you are missing quality sleep. If you’re anything like me, you have a grind mentality. Something I always prioritize is quality sleep because I can’t show up to do my best everyday if i’m not feeling my best.
  3. Prioritize your mental health. If you can’t show up for yourself, you won’t be able to show up for anyone else. You and your body are what are most important, which includes your mental health. Going to a therapist, energy healer, or even just talking things out with a friend can make a huge difference.
  4. Limit caffeine intake. Caffeine may seem like something that just gives you energy, but in reality it can spark anxiety and blood sugar levels for a lot of people. The combination of these two can put your body in a high stress mode that can lead to poor sleep, inflammation, high levels of anxiety, and overeating. Limiting your caffeine intake can help you avoid that.
  5. Reframe to the positive. Life is full of twists and turns and it’s never going to go the way you expect it to. When you learn to take things that seem to go “wrong” and find the learning lesson and positive experience from it, it shifts your mindset so you automatically start viewing anything negative as an opportunity to be a positive.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

A movement idea is National No-Makeup Day! Celebrities and models included. It would inspire everyone and connect us all in such a powerful way!

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  1. Pick what you say yes to wisely. There are going to be a lot of opportunities and directions you can go in. Always lead with your gut and focus on your main priorities.
  2. Prioritize your time. Having the flexibility to make your schedule can be both a blessing and a curse. Create routines to make the most out of every day and stay focused.
  3. There are going to be a lot of ups and down, so learn to pivot. Things are going to go really right sometimes and really wrong other times. Pivot when things go wrong. You’d be surprised how many amazing learning lessons come from that.
  4. Your network of people is everything. Who you surround yourself with is a direct reflection of you and can either inspire you or bring you down. As you grow, you realize that your network of people is your biggest support system.
  5. It’s ok to grow slowly. Growing takes time. There are a lot of changes that happen along the way so be okay with growing slowly and making small adjustments along the way. Sometimes growing too fast doesn’t allow for little tweaks and changes that can make a big difference.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

Mental health! We are saving people’s mental health by helping them feel confident in their skin again!

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

You can follow my personal Instagram account @kayleigh.christina and also @clearstemskincare.

Thank you for these fantastic insights!


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Women In Wellness: Julie Quick of ‘Cultivate Financial Wellness’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That…

Women In Wellness: Julie Quick of ‘Cultivate Financial Wellness’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

Consider All Dimensions of Wellness: Wellness can be viewed as a multi-dimensional approach to living life to the fullest — by cultivating and engaging the mind, body and spirit. To do so requires conscious and deliberate attention to what is referred to as the eight dimensions of wellness. Here’s a brief summary of each dimension:

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Julie Quick, CFP®, BFA™, CDFA®

Julie Quick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER TM professional with over 20 years of experience working with a wide variety of clients. Throughout her career, she learned that financial planning is about so much more than numbers. It’s about paying attention to the emotions and life experiences of each individual person.

Julie understands that women, in particular, face unique financial challenges. These may include the long-term effects of the gender wage gap, time out of the workforce to care for family members, and longer life expectancies — all of which can be compounded by a death, divorce or other major life events. As founder of Cultivate Financial Wellness, she uses her personal and professional experience to help women take charge of their financial lives and move from feelings of uncertainty to a place of freedom in pursuit of overall well-being.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

I am the third of four daughters. My early childhood was pretty idyllic. We lived in the country where we could run around, explore, build forts, ride horses and eat carrots out of the garden after a quick rinse with the hose.

My parents divorced when I was eight years old. Overnight, my mother went from a stay-at-home mom to a single mother of four girls who had to work as she put herself through nursing school. Money was tight and a persistent source of stress. Even at that young age, I understood the vulnerable position my mom was in and how quickly financial security could change — especially for women.

The next formative money moment in my life came much later, when I was in college. I wanted work experience in business and I came across a listing for a part-time job at a consulting company — which turned out to be a financial planning firm.

I quickly fell in love with the idea of being deliberate with money and understanding how all the pieces of our “financial puzzle” (income and expenses, investments, taxes, insurance, etc.) fit together to form a cohesive picture. I went on to get licenses and certifications to further my technical expertise but also realized that financial planning is about much more than numbers — there is an emotional component to money.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

Years ago we had a client pass away suddenly and I was working with his daughter to settle his estate. Three months after her father died, her husband asked for a divorce. This made an already emotional period of her life far more challenging. I enjoyed guiding her, serving as a confidant and helping her evaluate the various financial implications of her situation with objectivity. This is something that is hard for anyone to do in the midst of turmoil.

From a physiological standpoint, emotionally charged events affect the quality of our decision-making. The emotional portion of our brain takes over. We may think we’re making rational and objective decisions when the fight-or-flight response may actually be in play. Having an objective third party helps to reduce mistakes and any unintended consequences when we react emotionally.

Because her father had done good planning, her inheritance was not included in the divorce settlement. I saw first hand the necessity of combining both the technical and emotional aspects of financial planning.

Throughout my career, I naturally gravitated to working with women finding themselves in similar situations — highly emotional life events surrounded by uncertainty. It’s a privilege and an honor to stand beside someone during their darkest days and see them emerge with confidence and resilience.

It seems obvious now, however, only after doing my own reflective work did I make the connection between my personal story and my desire to help women in similar circumstances. I knew I had to cater my services to women.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

It’s ironic but my biggest mistake was playing it safe out of fear of making mistakes. Despite my desire to provide financial planning to women, my fear of failing prevented me from making it my focus. Instead, I stayed in my comfort zone, supporting other financial advisors and their businesses. I found myself feeling unfulfilled. I came to a point where I couldn’t deny the dream that was in my heart to build my own financial planning practice catered specifically to women going through major life events. There is a quote by Ernest Shackleton that sums up how I felt: “I believe it is in our nature to explore and to reach into the unknown. The only true failure would be not to try at all.”

As a result, I linked my passion for helping women navigate financial challenges to my desire of having a business that provides meaning and serves the life I want. I used to think that I stumbled into this profession by accident. I now believe, wholeheartedly, that finding this profession was no coincidence. This is absolutely the work I am supposed to be doing and God has had His hand in guiding me the entire time.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I have been blessed to work with some amazing people over the course of my career — colleagues and clients alike. The widows and divorcees I’ve been able to serve have especially impacted me. They have shown me the courage to be vulnerable and also the resilience of the human spirit.

My previous employer and mentor, Tom Duncan, with whom I worked for 14 years gave me the opportunity to learn, freedom to make decisions (and mistakes), and encouragement to grow professionally. Under his leadership, I was able to gain experience in all aspects of this business which has been instrumental in my ability to run my own firm.

Last, and most certainly not least, my husband of 18 years, Jeff. He has been a source of unending love, confidence and support. Because of him I understand the massive power behind the phrase, “I believe in you” and have depended on that belief in moments when it was hard for me to believe in myself.

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

It’s important to expand our definition of wellness. I firmly believe that our financial wellness contributes to our overall sense of well-being. It’s just as important as our physical, emotional, spiritual, and social health, etc. The opposite of this is also true: financial stress impedes our ability to feel happy and fulfilled.

Year after year, money is cited as the leading source of stress among Americans. Stress has far reaching implications. It leads to physical health issues (migraines, heart disease, diabetes, difficulty sleeping and more), emotional issues (anxiety, depression), and social issues (affecting relationships with loved ones).

To complicate matters, most of us aren’t adequately taught how to manage money by our families and schools. In fact, our culture views money as taboo. Furthermore, we all tend to have what is known as “Money Scripts”, a term coined by psychologist Dr. Brad Klontz, which are the unconscious money beliefs that stem from our childhood and shape our current and future financial state.

And yet, we can’t escape the fact that money touches every single one of our lives every single day. We must intentionally and proactively address our financial wellness like we would other aspects of our health.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

1.) Identify Your Core Values: Financial wellness goes beyond numbers and investments. Knowing our values helps clarify the “Why” behind our money. It allows us to establish meaningful goals which determine the financial decisions that need to be made. When our goals are aligned with our values, we are more likely to achieve them and we feel more fulfilled as a result. Keeping our core values top of mind when making any major decision (not just financial) can contribute to optimal wellness. I like to start client engagements with a values identification exercise. To do this yourself, you can search online for a list of values. Identify the 15 that resonate the most with you. Reduce the list down to 10 and then to your top five core values. Post them somewhere conspicuous so that you see them on a regular basis.

2.) Consider All Dimensions of Wellness: Wellness can be viewed as a multi-dimensional approach to living life to the fullest — by cultivating and engaging the mind, body and spirit. To do so requires conscious and deliberate attention to what is referred to as the eight dimensions of wellness. Here’s a brief summary of each dimension:

  • Physical Dimension — recognizing the importance of physical activity, good sleep, and proper nutrition
  • Emotional Dimension — identifying, understanding and respecting feelings (both in ourselves and in others); managing emotions in a constructive and healthy manner; promoting positivity and resilience
  • Social Dimension — developing and maintaining meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging with others and our communities
  • Intellectual Dimension — expanding our knowledge, skills and creativity; maintaining curiosity
  • Spiritual Dimension — connecting to a sense of purpose and meaning in life — with or without organized religion; aligning our actions with our beliefs and values
  • Occupational Dimension — finding satisfaction and fulfillment by contributing our unique gifts, skills and talents in a meaningful way
  • Financial Dimension — managing our money in a responsible way; feeling confident with current and future financial conditions
  • Environmental Dimension — seeking pleasant, healthy and stimulating environments — both in our personal surroundings and global environment.

Each dimension is interconnected and makes up our overall sense of well-being. Disruption in one dimension can have ripple effects in other areas of life. Although each dimension requires focus and awareness, it’s important to note that there doesn’t have to be equal balance among them. Rather, thoughtful contemplation and assessment on our level of satisfaction within each dimension can identify areas needing attention. As humans, we are constantly ebbing and flowing. Regularly evaluating each dimension allows us to determine different areas that require our awareness as we grow and change.

3.) Take an Active Role in Your Finances: Even if the day-to-day financial activities are delegated to a partner as a way to divide and conquer household tasks, you can stay on top of what is going on through regular reviews of budgets, accounts and mutual goals. Regardless of your marital status, understand how much it costs you to live, put some money aside for your future self, protect yourself from the financial devastation of various risks. This also sets an awesome example for children. In the event you should become fully responsible for your finances, being familiar with your situation will put you in a much better position.

4.) Seek Out Professional Help. There is an abundance of information available on personal finance. Educating yourself is a good place to start; however, it can be daunting and the information isn’t personalized and curated to your unique circumstances, goals and values. Not to mention, some people simply do not have an interest or the time to do it all themselves. Similar to hiring a trainer when we want to get in shape or a therapist to help us through a difficult time, hiring a financial planner is a great way to develop financial wellness. When looking for a financial planner, take some time to consider your needs and desires. More and more planners are specializing in a specific niche such as a specific occupation or industry, stage of life, and more. Furthermore, don’t be too quick to let physical location prevent you from working with someone who would otherwise be a perfect fit. Thanks to technology, many financial planners are effectively serving clients nationwide. Simply entering your needs into a search engine could help you find a great match.

5.) Practice Mindfulness. Mindfulness exercises such as meditation and journaling provide a whole host of benefits not the least of which include exploring and improving our relationships with money. They are a great way to resist impulsive purchases, reconnect with core values, and explore your history around money and any prevailing money scripts. These practices can help to redirect our attention away from external influences, such as advertisements and social media, instead allowing us to focus on our internal motivations, goals and desires.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

Without a doubt, I encourage people, especially women, to take a much more active role in their finances and to consider it another form of wellness. Women, in particular, face unique financial challenges including the long-term effects of the gender wage gap, time out of the workforce to care for family members, and longer life expectancies — all of which can be compounded by a death or divorce. Unfortunately, despite all the advances in women’s power and equality, it is incredibly common for women of all age groups to defer financial matters to their partner. According to a 2019 UBS study, 58% of women globally — including millennials — defer to men on important financial decisions. Yet, life expectancies and divorce rates suggest that more and more women will be responsible for their own finances at some point in their lives.

Even though “money can’t buy happiness” I firmly believe that when our financial resources are used intentionally and in alignment with our values and goals, they can be a tool to enhance our lives as we seek fulfillment.

Even though “money can’t buy happiness” I firmly believe that our financial resources can be a tool to enhance our lives and seek fulfillment when used intentionally and in alignment with our values and goals.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  1. Emotions can often trump facts. The financial planning industry is improving, however, much of the education and training has been mostly technical in nature. There has been very little focus on the emotional relationships people have with money or how to help them address those emotions. When left unchecked, strong feelings will often influence decisions despite knowing better or being presented with strong analytical evidence to do otherwise.
  2. Living life in fear of failing, isn’t really living at all. Failure is part of the process, an opportunity to learn, evolve and experience joy. It isn’t something to be avoided at all costs.
  3. Progress not perfection. I’m a huge fan of Brené Brown and her work on courage and vulnerability. I love her quote “Perfectionism is a 20-pound shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight.”
  4. The Universe is working for you. However,…
  5. Anything worthwhile takes time. In a world of instant gratification it’s easy to lose sight of this. I think it’s the Universe’s way of testing how bad we want something.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

Definitely mental health. Especially as it relates to our relationships with money — which are often complex. We all have individual histories and beliefs around money that ought to be examined as part of our pursuit to financial wellness. Human beings can’t be boiled down to numbers and spreadsheets.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

They can find me on Instagram and Facebook with the handle @cultivatemyfw. Or for deeper insights they can sign up for my email newsletter through my website.

Thank you for these fantastic insights!

Thank you!


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Women In Wellness: Chimere Holmes of ‘Be Ye Renewed Consulting’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That…

Women In Wellness: Chimere Holmes of ‘Be Ye Renewed Consulting’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

Create a daily routine- In order to overcome the monotony of quarantine and the woes of COVID fatigue, it is helpful to create some sort of daily routine, as structure allows people to feel focused, more energized, and lends the way to a daily sense of purpose. Try not to neglect the things you would do if this were life pre-COVID. Take a shower each day, drink plenty of water, write down a small list of goals for the week, maintain healthy eating habits, aim for 7–8 hours of sleep every night, and do not neglect your fitness routine. During these times of social distancing, it is important to mask up and take walks outdoors for fresh air and vitamin D-3 whenever you can.

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Chimère G. Holmes, LPC, founder of Be Ye Renewed Counseling.

Chimère G. Holmes, LPC, an ordained minister and licensed professional counselor founded Be Ye Renewed Counseling, a private counseling practice in center city Philadelphia. Chimère is also the co-founder of the forthcoming podcast, “Trust Us; We’re Almost Doctors!” Created with her classmate and friend who she met in her current doctoral program, the podcast will offer a fun and fresh perspective on mental health — particularly as it relates to Black women, men, and families. Chimère was also a 2018 recipient of Main Line Today’s women on the move cover feature and was named a 2018 Power Woman based on her clinical work and dedication to men and women struggling with mental health disparities as well as opiate addiction. She obtained her first Master’s degree in Theology and Pastoral Ministry from Villanova University (Villanova, Pa) and a secondary Master’s degree in School & Mental Health Counseling from the University of Pennsylvania (Philadelphia, Pa).

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

I have a background in journalism and majored in communications in college at Immaculata University. I have always been an avid reader and writer. I spent several years as an editor at a medical publishing company. Later, I pursued my first master’s degree in theology and pastoral ministry at Villanova University. This 3-year program was transformative, as it afforded me the opportunity to become a campus minister who educated prisoners facing life sentences who were obtaining their college degrees in jail. I learned a great deal about social justice and I will forever be changed from the international missions work I did in Kingston, Jamaica, El Salvador, and Guatemala. This program resulted in me becoming an ordained reverend and I practice ministry by serving as a keynote speaker, preaching at churches, and officiating weddings throughout Philadelphia. After Villanova, I pursued a secondary masters in counseling at the University of Pennsylvania and garnered diverse clinical experience throughout Philadelphia, before becoming a licensed therapist. To date, I oversee my private counseling practice, Be Ye Renewed Counseling. At Be Ye Renewed, I treat individuals, couples, and families struggling with depression, low self-esteem, family challenges, anxiety, and spirituality issues. My prior work as a minister informs my practice as a therapist, and I love the fact I can offer a unique and holistic scope of practice to people struggling with emotional pain and distress.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

Upon graduating, I spent the early years of my counseling career working in a very impoverished part of Philadelphia at a methadone clinic. This was one of the most humbling experiences I have ever had in my life. I was extremely fortunate to meet and serve some of the most resilient, intelligent, and special men and women who happened to be battling both mental health and substance use disorders. Working at the community agency in the throes of the nationwide opioid epidemic was rewarding and heartbreaking all at the same time. Most of the patients I worked with came from treacherous beginnings and had less than ideal upbringings riddled with various forms of trauma, abuse, and neglect. I learned firsthand about poverty, the crisis in the urban education system, and what it means to be a resilient human being. This role helped me to not only cultivate a tremendous sense of gratitude for the life my parents provided me, but it also humbled me and proved that at the end of the day, everyone deserves kindness, help, and to be loved. The addiction crisis is real and when you are poor and have a substance use disorder, it is harder to get quality care and long-term help. We need more efficient and quality rehabilitation facilities in this country.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Looking back, I think I treated much of my career endeavors like a sprint instead of a marathon. I tend to be a bit of perfectionist with my work, and this can be both helpful and harmful. I now have greater trust for the timing of life, how my career will unfold and ultimately learned that if certain opportunities are meant for me, they will always find me and vice versa. The 2020 pandemic stretched me to think outside the box and tap into my creativity. The quarantine also forced me to slow down and take a step back from all the busyness — which in looking back may not have been serving me in the first place. Biggest lessons learned have been to trust the process of life and savor everyday; the pandemic is a constant reminder just how precious life is.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

There are numerous people who have helped, trained, mentored, and blessed me to get to this point in my career. The one constant and my number one fan that has been “team Chimère” from the beginning is my mother, Kimberly. She epitomizes the definition of a stage mom — but in a fun loving and supportive way! My mother’s love, wisdom, support and faith in me have been invaluable. From the early years of taking me to dance class or attending my high school plays, she was always there for me. My mother saw to it that I received my education. She would drive me to television auditions, practice with me before big job interviews, and I will forever be grateful for my mother’s deep faith in God and the fact she always encouraged me to shoot for the stars and that I can do anything I put my mind to. I love to bask in every level of success with her now because she is a major part of it. I want to give back to her just as she gave so much to me — love you Mommie!

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

My work as a therapist is providing much needed counseling services to a generally underserved population — the African-American community. People of color must overcome several obstacles to get adequate therapy. My philosophy is that everyone deserves and can benefit from participating in therapy. Factors such as historical trauma, distrust and uncertainty toward the medical community due to maltreatment and systemic racism tend to keep African-Americans away from the counseling office. Generational trauma and the societal stigma surrounding all things psychology and psychotherapy also contribute to people not seeking professional help in a timely fashion. My work enables individuals and families to alleviate their emotional suffering and gain a fresh perspective — it gives them hope. People seek counseling when they do not feel well, need help making a difficult decision, or feel stuck, perhaps unfulfilled in their life and relationships. I strongly believe that human beings are tripartite — composed of a mind, body, and soul. I also think we are spiritual beings having a human experience here on earth. Assisting someone understand and manage their anxiety, trauma, and depression initially impacts their emotional wellness, and it can eventually improve their physical and spiritual health as well. I love journeying with people and watching them accomplish their goals. The more healthy men and women there are, the healthier families, children, communities, churches, and organizations become. Awareness is always the first step to psychological change, so essentially good therapy has the potential to strengthen and improve systems and communities — one mind at a time.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

  • Introspection- Find some quiet time throughout the day to think about the major takeaways of each day. Reflecting on key lessons learned in 2020 can set the tone for how we will all navigate 2021 and put things into proper perspective — e.g., the importance of health, family, friends, faith, social networks, and fulfilling your life’s purpose.
  • Maintain an attitude of gratitude- Research suggests that there are various mental health benefits of being thankful and grateful. Taking time to name, list, or write down daily wins, gifts, and blessings of the day improves the mood and rewires the psyche. There will always be things to complain about, why not combat the negative and concentrate on the things that are going right in your life instead.
  • Practice Mindfulness- Mindfulness is all about paying more attention to what is going on in the present instead of fixating on uncertainty or things beyond our control. Incorporating mindfulness exercises into your daily routine can greatly impact your mental and emotional health.

Mindfulness-based practices such as deep belly breathing and tapping into the 5 senses keeps us from going into “autopilot,” which can put us in a position where we are more likely to react out of stress or respond to stress with unhealthy coping mechanisms.

  • Focus on what you can control- We are all affected by the actions of others, but it is important to remember that we can only control our own words, thoughts, feelings and responses. Make it a point to focus on what you need to do in order to prioritize your own health and wellness.
  • Create a daily routine- In order to overcome the monotony of quarantine and the woes of COVID fatigue, it is helpful to create some sort of daily routine, as structure allows people to feel focused, more energized, and lends the way to a daily sense of purpose. Try not to neglect the things you would do if this were life pre-COVID. Take a shower each day, drink plenty of water, write down a small list of goals for the week, maintain healthy eating habits, aim for 7–8 hours of sleep every night, and do not neglect your fitness routine. During these times of social distancing, it is important to mask up and take walks outdoors for fresh air and vitamin D-3 whenever you can.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

If I could start a movement that would contribute to overall wellness to the masses it would involve accessible psychotherapy services for as many people as possible, particularly the marginalized. I am equally passionate about contributing to the healing of our nation’s racial divide and wounds that continue to linger and infect the way we treat each other. I can foresee myself presenting work on the psychology of racism and steps to achieving more racial justice and harmony — starting in the counseling room.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  • There is no such thing as perfection. If you make a mistake or fail, count it as a lesson that you would not have learned otherwise.
  • Always consider the “Why behind what you do.” Intentionality and having a clear understanding of the work you want to create and the people you wish to serve will help you forge forward when you grow weary and want to throw in the towel.
  • When building a business it is important to take risks from time to time. It does not always pay to play it safe and stay in your comfort zone.
  • Change is good! It’s okay to shift, reinvent, and fine-tune your vision. Human beings change and evolve all the time, so the same must be true for business endeavors.
  • Rest, rest, and rest some more. Our society has it backwards with the whole multitasking grind culture. Less really is more when you are trying to cultivate quality of life. None of us can pour from an empty cup and in order to be the best at your craft, you will need to unplug, get quiet, and recharge.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

I am most enthralled with all things mental health at this time. Being a mental health practitioner in the midst of a pandemic has been an incredible new aspect of my work. More and more individuals are reporting issues of isolation, anxiety, stress, and depression. Perhaps one of the many gifts of the pandemic is that a lot of people have had to address their mental health challenges and give their emotional wellness time, attention, and the help it deserves. When it comes to mental health, I think we are only seeing the beginning of the ramifications of collective trauma from COVID-19. There will need to be emotional supports in place for the first responders and frontline professionals who are in the thick of fighting this virus. Telehealth has been a revolutionary new way to conduct therapy. I am hopeful that the stigma that has always surrounded mental illness and mental health will start to fade away. Hopefully, mental health will be all the more normalized and embraced like any other health or medical discipline for the long haul.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

For more information please visit my website: www.chimereholmes.com and please follow me on Instagram: @beyerenewed_counseling

Thank you for these fantastic insights!


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Women In Wellness: Megan Faller of The Aligned Cycle on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help…

Women In Wellness: Megan Faller of The Aligned Cycle on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

The power and beauty of a woman’s cycle goes beyond her ability to get pregnant. So often when we discuss menstrual cycles, the focus is on periods and trying to get pregnant or avoid pregnancy. But our menstrual cycles provide us with critical information about our health, our mood, and our energy. We can get a baseline picture of health from a single charted cycle. With continued charting, we can predict when the next cycle (period) will begin, we can evaluate the impact of dietary or lifestyle changes on a particular person’s health, and we can go deeper into understanding our own unique patterns.

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Megan Faller.

Megan Faller is a Menstrual Cycle & Productivity Strategist and Founder of The Aligned Cycle. As a Certified FertilityCare Practitioner she spent years helping women understand their bodies and chart their cycles so they could make important decisions about planning their families and scheduling medical procedures. She stumbled into using the power of her cycles and hormonal waves to schedule her work and now she helps other women put their cycles to work for them, so they can make an impact and grow their businesses with flow and ease.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

In my early 20s I was introduced to fertility awareness and it blew my mind. How I’d gone through over 10 years of menstrual cycles, sex education, and hundred of women’s magazines and never come across this foundational health knowledge still confounds me. Eventually I took a class to learn more about tracking and interpreting my cycles and then I went through an education program to teach other women fertility awareness. While I personally used the power of my cycle to interpret my health and plan my family, it wasn’t until I stumbled into resting during menstruation that I realized the full potential and beauty of my cycle and hormonal patterns. Now I use my cycle to plan my schedule so that I can enjoy more flow and ease in my work, and I help other cycling female entrepreneurs to do the same. As a homeschooling mom of 3 boys, I want to use my work time to the fullest, so that I have energy, time, and attention to give me family, home, and health.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

During a session, a client exclaimed that she had to call her mom and tell her about what she just learned about her cycle and reproductive health. She wanted to fill her mom in! Not on the details of her health, but on general reproductive knowledge that she thought her mom needed to know. The client herself was almost thirty years old, and yet there she was, wanting to fill her mom in on this important information. The main takeaway is that we can do so much better. We should equip all women with the facts of their health and fertility, and do it early on.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I was scared to pivot, so I kept doing the same work, in the same way, for too long. It was safe and familiar, but I was approaching burnout. I knew I wanted to continue working in the fertility and wellness space, but the way I was working wasn’t aligned with my highest skills. I wanted to be energized by my work and to find ease and flow. I wanted energy and attention to give when the work day was done. I have found these things now, but I had to let go of something good to discover something better. The lesson is — don’t be afraid to pivot or change course. There is power in leaning into the unknown. Also, tune in to your unique patterns of energy and mood and work in accordance for maximum flow.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

The other women in the world of women’s health and cycle/fertility awareness. Their passion for, and commitment to, serving women and empowering them to make informed choices is an inspiration. The work they do, in spite of many obstacles and objections, inspires me. Our work as entrepreneurs can be lonely. On particularly hard days, the collaboration, community, and encouragement of women doing similar work make it possible to keep going.

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

I believe that women have incredible gifts to share with the world. Sometimes women can feel like their biological design keeps them sharing their gifts on a larger scale. I want all women to have the tools and support they need to make an impact. Our womanhood allows us to create, grow, and nourish human life. It also gives us an advantage when it comes to building and sustaining businesses and movements that change the world. We should know how to tap into, and maximize, that advantage.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

The following tweaks are good for fertility and cycle health, but also overall wellbeing.

  1. Optimizing your sleep by limiting unnatural light. We can do this by avoiding screens in the hours prior to bed (or wearing blue light glasses when screens are unavoidable). Sleeping in total darkness helps increase our sleep quality and supports our hormonal health, so get the lights and devices out of the bedroom and invest in some blackout curtains.
  2. Find your favorite fast, good-for-you food options. Instead of being tempted to grab processed foods focus on keeping some easy, nutrient dense options on hand. Some of my favorite options include bone broth and sweet potatoes. All you need to do is warm the broth or roast the sweet potatoes and then add in what you have on hand. For bone broth, this may be veggies, herbs, or spices, along with a scoop of coconut oil or a splash of coconut aminos. And for roasted sweet potatoes, consider hummus or avocado, a pickled veggies for gut health supporting probiotics, and a sprinkle of seeds.
  3. Dry brushing. It is super accessible and can help with lymphatic flow and detox. As an added bonus, it feels amazing and exfoliates the skin. I like to dry brush prior to a shower. You simply use a dry body brush to brush your skin, beginning at your feet and brushing toward your heart with long, gentle strokes.
  4. Find your favorite way to move and do it, often. We all know exercise is good for us, but sometimes we get caught up in how it should look. But the thing is, movement does so much for our bodies — releases stress hormones, increases blood flow, supports digestion and detox. We don’t need fancy classes or equipment to move our bodies. We just need to find a way of moving that brings us joy and to incorporate it into our day. This could be as simple as stretching, hiking/walks, or jumping jacks.
  5. Take a few slow, deep breaths before meals. It helps your body shift into rest and digest and allows for better digestion and nutrient absorption and it supports hormone health by reducing stress.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

A cycle awareness and tracking movement. Understanding that our cycles are an important indicator. Charting our cycles provides a to monitor and optimize our wellness. Cycle awareness gives menstruating women a powerful way to connect to their health and wellbeing — both their physical and mental health. Thankfully, I think this movement has already begun, but I would love to see if spread like wildfire. My vision and hope is that we are equipping younger women with this critical self knowledge and that they can pass it on to future generations. While cycle tracking directly impacts the health of cycling women, I believe that women who understand and care for themselves are better able to care for the health and well being of those around them, both young and old.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

  1. The power and beauty of a woman’s cycle goes beyond her ability to get pregnant. So often when we discuss menstrual cycles, the focus is on periods and trying to get pregnant or avoid pregnancy. But our menstrual cycles provide us with critical information about our health, our mood, and our energy. We can get a baseline picture of health from a single charted cycle. With continued charting, we can predict when the next cycle (period) will begin, we can evaluate the impact of dietary or lifestyle changes on a particular person’s health, and we can go deeper into understanding our own unique patterns.
  2. No matter how much you have on your plate, as a woman there are times of the month when it will all feel like too much. This is what hormones do to cycling women. They rise and fall. And when they plummet, right before your period begins and on the first few days of your period, you aren’t feeling your best. You may experience overwhelm, exhaustion, or mood swings. Your inner critic may come out. This will pass. Give yourself grace and keep on going.
  3. Managing your energy is key to preventing burnout and achieving your goals and our cycles provide a guide. So often we focus on managing our time and our money, but our energy is a critical resource. We need periods of rest. Tune in to when and where you most need a break and focus on the activities that actually restore your energy versus the ones that deplete your energy.
  4. There are answers out there to whatever challenge we face. When we are faced with challenges — health, work, or personal — sometimes it can feel like we’ve hit a dead end. But just because you haven’t found the answers yet doesn’t mean they aren’t out there. During my time as a FertilityCare Practitioner, women would come to me after months or years of not finding answers or solutions to their health issues. They were thrilled at the chance to have someone look at their issues in a new way and, often, answers were found. Try asking “What haven’t I tried?,” “Who might be able to help?,” etc. to keep yourself open to new paths.
  5. The way we work is equally important to the work we do. We often come to our work with a paradigm of the right way to work. We internalize a standard that may not be right for us. Ambitious women can get really good at self motivating and taking action, so much so that they find it challenging to take a break. When we work with our cycles we tune into our unique needs, whether they encourage us to go out and make things happen or to retreat and recharge. And as we work with our cycle, we can take our break with peace of mind, knowing that our time to move and do is just around the corner. We can also push hard during mid cycle when our hormonal waves are increasing our energy and drive.

Sustainability, veganism, mental health and environmental changes are big topics at the moment. Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

Mental health is such a huge issue and can be more closely related to our cycles and hormones. We hear jokes about women being hormonal, but our hormones, or more specifically, hormonal imbalance, can cause a variety of mental health related symptoms ranging from mood swings to suicidal thoughts. There is a condition called premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) that can cause severe anxiety or depression in the week or two before the beginning of a woman’s period. Tuning in to our cycles and connecting it to our moods and mental health can really help women to understand themselves and to seek help and support where and when we need it most.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

Follow me on IG @thealignedcycle to learn how to tune in to your cycles and to grow a business with flow and ease.

Thank you for these fantastic insights!


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Mary Fain Brandt: How to Use LinkedIn To Dramatically Improve Your Business

ROCK your BRAND! There I said, Rock out your Brand on LinkedIn! Yes, it’s a professional platform , but people do business with people. Be relatable! Be authentic. I have a saying, “It’s too hard to be two different people: one online and one offline. You should be the same online as you are offline.” Authenticity creates empathy and helps you be relatable to your audience. Remember there is a person behind the profile, speak to that one person. One of my highest viewed posts was me sharing a personal story and being authentically myself. Do not apologize for who you are, embrace it and work it into your brand. For me, I am energetic ,fun and informative, casual and conversational, joyful, bright,and strategic. All of this is weaved into my brand with colors, copy, and the tone and style of my LIVE shows.

As part of my series of interviews about “How to Use LinkedIn To Dramatically Improve Your Business”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Mary Fain Brandt

Mary Fain Brandt is the CEO and CIO (Chief Inspiration Officer) at the LinkedIn Bakery and Mary Fain Brandt Coaching & Consulting where she serves up Bite-Sized Tips on how to turn your LinkedIn Profile into a lead magnet. She is an International LinkedIn Strategist, Speaker and Consultant who works with savvy business women who want to stand out as experts in their industry and get more clients through LinkedIn. She is also the co-host of LinkedIn Local San Diego.

Entrepreneurs, business leaders and sales teams call Mary when they’re ready to use LinkedIn to increase their visibility, boost their credibility, and fill their pipeline with qualified leads.

Having worked with over 300+ clients worldwide, hosting the multi-platform LIVE Show, “Bite-Sized Tips for Busy Entrepreneurs”, as well as creating a multitude of online courses has equipped Mary with the knowledge and understanding of what it takes to create successful summits.

In 2019, Mary started producing LinkedIn Live summits for other experts, allowing them to focus on what they do best: be a host and expert in their field. She brings in thought leaders from around the world and various industries to provide the latest trends and hot tips for a variety of attendees and target markets.

Known for her fun and informative style, she is an energetic remote live producer, emcee, workshop facilitator and speaker who creates engaging learning environments for attendees with actionable tips they can implement immediately.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

Truth is I never wanted to be an entrepreneur. I saw my Dad go through “highs” and “lows” when he owned his own appraisal company. I started my business in 2014 when my mom got sick. She was officially diagnosed with Alzheimers. I was working full time and taking care of her and it all came tumbling down when she went missing on a cold raining Friday night.

Luckily for us, we found her. But it was that event that made me realize I needed to be there for her and a J-O-B wasn’t going to give me the flexibility I needed to do that.
So I started off as a career coach for women understanding first hand their pain points of finding a purposeful career that aligned with their talents and skill set. I worked with women over 40 looking to pivot in their career. One thing that ALL of my clients had in common? They needed to create or revamp their LinkedIn Profile… so I did what I do best, research and learn.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started this career?

Professionally, Facebook showcased my company at their Facebook Community event in San Diego, that was pretty awesome! Out of the blue Facebook contacted me and said they were impressed with my business page and the value that I was bringing to my audience.

A few years ago, I volunteered for Social Media Marketing World (you know when in-person events were a thing) and I did a video in the morning about how excited I was to be volunteering and giving back my time and what a great conference it was.

During the training session while in the lunch line, Michael Stelzner (Owner of social Media Examiner and Founder of SMMW) turned to me and said, “Nice video Mary” to which I replied, “You watched my video? You know who I am?” insert big smile on my face. I was

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I had someone reach out to me that was pretty well-known. She was a best-selling author and international speaker.

She asked for a proposal for LinkedIn Training for her and her team. I thought OH MY this is it, my big break! I’d been working with clients one-on-one at this point and only had a few clients under my belt.

I wrote up the proposal (first one I had ever done) , sent it off and waited. She got back to me rather quickly to let me know that I misspelled her name! Imagine my embarrassment! I’m dyslexic and always need to double check everything. My brain works twice as fast as my fingers, and my eyes don’t catch typos. I actually have to say it out loud. Lesson learned, re-read everything before you hit send!

Which social media platform have you found to be most effective to use to increase business revenues? Can you share a story from your experience?

All social media platforms have their purpose and place. But for me, wanting to have more professional connections and work with specific types of professionals — LinkedIn hands down is the most effective platform to do both of those things; build a strategic network and find qualified leads. With over 700 million users and the average user making over a 6 figure income — -well those are people who can afford my services. Sure, I’ll buy make up for $29.99 on Facebook or Instagram, but I’m not hiring a coach from there. I vet everyone over on LinkedIn.
For example, I ask clients when onboarding them how they heard about me? 80% say, “ Oh I’ve been following you on LinkedIn for 6–7–8 months and decided I was ready to work with you.
LinkedIn is a long game, not a short game. You use the platform to build a strong and strategic network, showcase your experience, highlight your talents and provide value (tips and industry trends) to your audience.

Let’s talk about LinkedIn specifically, now. Can you share 5 ways to leverage LinkedIn to dramatically improve your business? Please share a story or example for each.

  1. Communicate: Stories are a great way to engage with people. Truth be told, I wasn’t a fan when they came out. I thought “Oh no, LinkedIn is going to become just like Instagram and Facebook!”. But then I replied to a story by Judi Fox and we ended up setting up a Zoom call to get to know each other better. It’s through the conversations with others which can lead to future opportunities. It’s a great way to start a conversation with someone that you might not otherwise have the opportunity to engage with.
  2. Comment: By engaging on your connections posts you are opening a door to connect on a deeper level with them. Don’t just hit the like button. Read their post and comment on what resonated with you. By doing this the author will see your name, it’s also great a conduit to sending a formal connection request to someone that you are not connected with. You can mention a post of theirs that you enjoyed reading or learned something from and if you commented on that post, they just might recall your name and accept your request to connect. If content is King, then Engagement is Queen (said by Mari Smith at SMMW19, but still true now.)
  3. Cultivate your Connections: Don’t connect and forget. Where’s the value in that? Wait, let me answer that for you- there isn’t any value. Each month choose 3–5 connections that you don’t know well or haven’t connected to in a while and reach out to them. You’d be amazed at the magic that can happen in a conversation. Each month I have a goal of setting up 3–5 Zoom calls with people from my network. It also becomes a piece of content for me. I snap a photo of us on Zoom and then create a post on LinkedIn about how great it was to learn more about them and tag them in the photo. I also challenge my audience to do the same thing. Now more than ever, we are in need of connecting with people. WFH has isolated many people and this simple act of reaching out to someone can brighten their week and strengthen your network.
  4. ROCK your BRAND! There I said, Rock out your Brand on LinkedIn! Yes, it’s a professional platform , but people do business with people. Be relatable! Be authentic. I have a saying, “It’s too hard to be two different people: one online and one offline. You should be the same online as you are offline.” Authenticity creates empathy and helps you be relatable to your audience. Remember there is a person behind the profile, speak to that one person. One of my highest viewed posts was me sharing a personal story and being authentically myself. Do not apologize for who you are, embrace it and work it into your brand. For me, I am energetic ,fun and informative, casual and conversational, joyful, bright,and strategic. All of this is weaved into my brand with colors, copy, and the tone and style of my LIVE shows.
  5. Stay on top of new features and use them! Instead of sending a text style message through InMail, send a voicemail or even better a video message. I frequently do this after a call with a potential client or collaboration partner and everytime they are surprised and delighted! Stand out.

Because of the position that you are in, you are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

In college I wrote a paper titled, CSR: Corporate Social Responsibility. I believe that ALL businesses of any size should have a Volunteer-Give-Back component. Whether that be one hour for an employee to volunteer, or one day. If everyone in the world gave back with their time and talent, we could solve some of our biggest problems: elderly care, tutoring to children to help them succeed in school, community clean ups, etc.

From day one, I set up to give back a percentage of sales to the Alzheimer’s Organization and I hope to increase what I give as well as add other organizations into the mix. I also regularly volunteer where I roll up my sleeves and clean out parks or paint classrooms.

Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

Ellen DeGeneres- She’s overcome obstacles set by society, stayed true to herself, created her own space where she has had great success, gives back to many and is funny and a great dancer!

Business: Amy Porterfield- just love her and the way she shares her success without it being all about her. I had the chance to meet her at SMMW and she was just as great in person.

Thank you so much for these great insights. This was very enlightening!


Mary Fain Brandt: How to Use LinkedIn To Dramatically Improve Your Business was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Lisa Kavanaugh of REBELxLABS: The Future of Travel in The Post Covid World

The crux of the adjustment in travel is and has been around staying longer and traveling slower in destinations. I’ve seen hotels offer long term remote work stays as slow travel is much more of an interest to nomads. Travelers are expected to stay longer in one place, allowing them to stay at accommodations longer and adapt to the culture in different ways. Expect to see more regulars at local spots for longer periods of time. Residency visas are allowing for longer stays. Airlines are also lowering travel change fees, to be more understanding of the situation for travelers who may be impacted by sickness.

As part of my series about “developments in the travel industry over the next five years”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Lisa Kavanaugh.

As a former CTO, Certified Coach and Digital Nomad for 7+ yrs, Lisa combines decades of experience to partner in the creation of more meaningful impact in her client’s personal and professional lives.

She primarily works with:

⋙ Those who are looking to shortcut their path to working-from-anywhere or using travel to facilitate a major life reset.

⋙ Organizational leaders stretching into new opportunity, helping them to navigate with confidence and authenticity.

Using design thinking and an awareness-based approach focused on aligning action with individual values and sense of purpose, Lisa strives to empower her clients to maximize capacity, satisfaction and impact. She is known for listening between the lines, insightfully reflecting what she sees and challenging clients to probe deeper for new awareness that enables them to play bigger.

Lisa has been quoted & featured in Fast Company, FOX News, ZDNet & VentureBeat, has spoken at conferences and events including SxSWi, Web2.0 Expo, MLB.com Speaker Series and Pandora’s Women in Business Series. She was also named in FOX Business’ Little Pink Book’s Top 10 Women in Technology for 2012. She received her B.S. in Computer Science from UC Santa Barbara, and her ICF coaching certification from The Coaches Training Institute.

A true global citizen, she holds US & EU passports, and is proud to call herself a digital nomad. She loves to snowboard, learn new languages, and host boisterous costume parties.

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

I was born in Italy and lived in Germany, Texas, Michigan and Alaska before I turned 18. As a multinational (German/American) I moved and traveled a lot as a kid and I believe it helped me develop a sense of comfort in transitions. I enjoyed living in different places, having friends around the world, and speaking different languages. These experiences are innate to who I am and how I’m programmed.

Early in my career, after a few years at HP I moved to San Francisco and joined Ask.com (it was Ask Jeeves at the time, remember that guy?) I started as a mid-level software developer and left as CTO and Chief Product Officer. These were very high demanding jobs and extremely stressful. It wasn’t a coincidence that I ended up in the hospital with Crohn’s disease during this time. I decided to take a pause from my stressors, take a year off and backpack around the world with my husband. It changed my life.

I never went back to my old job or career but I did create a new career in coaching. I took what I learned from my own leadership experience, my newfound obsession with learning as much as I can about what makes great coaching, as well as what I learned from several amazing coaches I worked with during my executive career. These coaches had a tremendous impact on my growth as a leader and helped me discover what I wanted. Ultimately, I realized I want to be on the side of serving others.

Now I serve leaders in their growth through REBELxLABS. I help them lead with more alignment so they can have the impact they want to have without ending up in the hospital like I did. The people I work with are ready to step away and start optimizing for more time, connection and freedom in their life. We work together to determine how to work and play from anywhere in the world.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

The impetus for starting REBELxLABS happened when I was living in Lake Tahoe for a 5th season. I often hit the mountain from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. midweek. I’d meet people during this time, tell them what I do and I’d see people light up with the possibility of how they, too, can redesign their life. So many people live within the confines of a very rigid work and play paradigm. It became evident to me that I need to expand beyond leadership coaching and be of service to those who seek to unlock their version of freedom.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

It’s unlikely funny to others but I think many can relate, especially those of us who work so hard to kick bad habits to the curb. When I started REBELxLABS, the old Lisa creeped in and she’s not peachy. I ramped up this new business in addition to leadership coaching and I decided to do everything in 6th gear, thinking I had to do it all at once. In fact, I was doing everything the opposite of what I was recommending to my clients. Instead of following the life I designed for myself, I was short tempered and stressed all the time, thinking that everything had to happen yesterday, and now, and perfectly done. Luckily I had my husband to point out my old patterns and decades of recovery practices to get me back in alignment with what brings me joy and reduces stress while still creating my vision.

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”? Can you share a story about that?

Learn to say no. And not only how to say no, but when to say no. It is a real skill to learn and understand the sense in your body when something is a yes for you versus a no. Learn what activities, people and environments light you up and give you energy — and which drain the life from you. Be intentional with how you manage your energy.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

It may sound cliche but without question it is my mother. My parents divorced when I was 6 years old, and my mother, at 33, went back to medical school. Everyone told her she was too old and she was crazy to take this on as a single mom. She did it anyway and went on to build a very successful Urgent Care business and sell it. She was able to pay for my schooling and help my husband and I buy our first home. Lack of debt may be the biggest help anyone can receive.

Through leading by example and the many ways in which she shaped me, she taught me it’s never too late, you’re never too old, you can always say no to a situation that is no longer serving you and say yes to reinventing yourself. She also instilled in me the love for travel, experiencing new and different cultures and finding something to celebrate every day.

Thank you for that. Let’s jump to the core of our discussion. Can you share with our readers about the innovations that you are bringing to the travel and hospitality industries?

REBELxLABS is about the intersection of leadership and life design. I work with so many inspiring professionals and leaders who have taken the leap to work and travel from anywhere in the world, while taking the lead in how they design their own life.

Which “pain point” are you trying to address by introducing this innovation?

Too many people have heard my story and said “I wish I could do that but my job would never let me be remote or I would never have the courage or … ” Through my coaching programs I aim to unlock the path to freedom for those that wish to leap. With the pandemic, remote work has never been more accessible. Yes, it takes discipline. And, yes, digital nomadism takes courage and resilience and some creative planning, but I believe anyone who wants to do it, can and should. My mission is to make it easier for more people to step away from the status quo and design a life worth living.

How do you envision that this might disrupt the status quo?

The disruption is all in the numbers and increased interest in a differently designed life. Digital nomads are taking the world by storm and I hope to meet some aspiring ones in 2021. A recent survey found that 4.8 million independent workers currently describe themselves as digital nomads, while many more (17 million, in fact) aspire to someday become a digital nomad.

As you know, COVID19 changed the world as we know it. Can you share 5 examples of how travel and hospitality companies will be adjusting over the next five years to the new ways that consumers will prefer to travel?

The crux of the adjustment in travel is and has been around staying longer and traveling slower in destinations. I’ve seen hotels offer long term remote work stays as slow travel is much more of an interest to nomads. Travelers are expected to stay longer in one place, allowing them to stay at accommodations longer and adapt to the culture in different ways. Expect to see more regulars at local spots for longer periods of time. Residency visas are allowing for longer stays. Airlines are also lowering travel change fees, to be more understanding of the situation for travelers who may be impacted by sickness.

You are a “travel insider”. How would you describe your “perfect vacation experience”?

My perfect vacation experience involves moving my body through nature (like hiking, surfing, snowboarding, and more) so at the end of the day I’m physically exhausted versus mentally exhausted. It would also include little to no screen time, while experiencing a new and foreign culture, where I make meaningful connections and relationships.

Can you share with our readers how have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

While I love working with many of my peers, some of my most memorable experiences have been with teaching and mentoring youth. I traveled to Jerusalem to volunteer with a great program called MEET (Middle East Entrepreneurs of Tomorrow) where I taught high school seniors Python, Flask, Bootstrap, basic databases and data structures. It was a great experience to work alongside them as they created their senior projects using these technologies.

My husband and I a few years ago had a wonderful opportunity to volunteer and teach English in Cambodia. I wrote about my experience here.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I’d love to see a movement in which each and every person believes they are enough, they stop comparing, and start loving themselves and those around them more deeply. Imagine what could be possible.

How can our readers follow you on social media?

LinkedIn Lisa Kavanaugh

REBELxLABS IG

REBELxLABS FB

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Lisa Kavanaugh of REBELxLABS: The Future of Travel in The Post Covid World was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Erica Hornthal of Chicago Dance Therapy: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness

Bring attention to your movement. Taking time to notice and become aware of how you are currently moving, or not moving, is the first step. It is imperative to acknowledge where you are and create a gauge or baseline. Some examples may be: texting on my phone, chopping onions, running, or sitting at my desk.

As a part of my series about the “5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Erica Hornthal.

Erica Hornthal, known as “The Therapist Who Moves You” is a board-certified dance/movement therapist and licensed clinical professional counselor as well as the founder and CEO of Chicago Dance Therapy and creator of the Dance Therapy Advocates Summit. As a licensed talk therapist, Erica knows that words only get us so far. Whereas, if we’re willing to tap into its power, the body can take us the rest of the way as we process emotions and strengthen our mental health

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the backstory about what brought you to your specific career path?

I remember being at a crossroads when it came time to choose a career. Attending my high school’s career fair, I was frustrated when the only dance-related field was “Dance Studio Owner”. I was told I could teach dance or try my hand at becoming a professional dancer, but I knew that neither were my true passion. I yearned to help people, but also loved how dance made me feel. Dancing since the age of 3, I thought that I had to choose between dance and science. What I found as a freshman in college was that I could have both! Thanks to an advisor, I was introduced to the world of dance/movement therapy; a profession and field that not only excited me, but spoke to my very soul. I declared myself a psych major and dance minor and upon graduation 4 years later found myself enrolled in graduate school for dance/movement therapy and counseling. Since finishing my coursework, writing a thesis, and completing over 3600 hours of supervised work, I decided to create my own practice and business and never looked back. A decade later I have found a niche for myself; advocating for the field I love and educating the world on how the way you move makes you who we are.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

The most interesting story on my mind these days has to do with how I refocused my work due to the pandemic. My full caseload went completely virtual and I found myself at a loss since many of the tools and resources I use in session have a great deal to do with being in person. While we can use our bodies and its innate healing potential anywhere, I like using visuals, markers, paper, and sometimes instruments. I thought to myself, “If I never see a client in person again, how can I replicate some of these interventions, and empower my clients to do them at home?” This resulted in my first workbook; Body Awareness for Mental Health. The interesting part of this is that I pitched my workbook to an editor at an educational publishing house who ultimately offered me a contract to turn the workbook into an academic course. Additionally, the course to be released in 2022 is intended for the K-12 curriculum. It will allow educators and administrators to harness the power of body awareness for mental health not only for themselves, but to then pass it onto their students and integrate it into their classrooms. The amazing part is that this isn’t a population I focus on, but now I can share this vital information with students and schools across the world.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

I’m not sure this qualifies as a humorous mistake, but a powerful lesson, nonetheless. When I was early on in my career, I had only a business card and my relentless self promotion. I will never forget when after a presentation someone asked me for my brochure. The voice inside my head said, “You are an imposter! You don’t have a pamphlet!” The voice that came out of my mouth said, “May I send you an electronic pamphlet?” I went home and worked for 3 hours making a professional pamphlet. Not only did I pivot in the moment, but I created a new marketing tool and launched my mailing list. The lesson for me that day was never say “no.” Look at everything as an opportunity and see what you can create to manifest your dream or reality.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

While I am so grateful to my family, educators, and fellow therapists who have supported and challenged me, I have to thank the individual who introduced me to dance/movement therapy; my college advisor who recognized my passion for dance and my love for psychology. Had she not mentioned those three words, I don’t know what my career would look like today. Perhaps I would have found it on my own or eventually found a way to incorporate movement and the body into mental health as so many people are doing these days.

What advice would you suggest to your colleagues in your industry to thrive and avoid burnout?

Practice what you preach. Don’t just tell your clients, but live by your words. Find ways to increase your awareness and listen to your body. It gives you plenty of warning signs when you are on the verge of burnout and provides the path to positive mental health.

What advice would you give to other leaders about how to create a fantastic work culture?

Get out of your head and into your body. So much of work culture perpetuates the silencing and minimizing of our inherent body wisdom and knowledge. How we sit, interact, and perform on the job can contribute to and exacerbate the stress we experience. Incorporating and normalizing opportunities for movement in the workplace will support your employees, allowing them to set healthy boundaries while maintaining or even improving productivity and morale.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. Mental health is often looked at in binary terms; those who are healthy and those who have mental illness. The truth, however, is that mental wellness is a huge spectrum. Even those who are “mentally healthy” can still improve their mental wellness. From your experience or research, what are five steps that each of us can take to improve or optimize our mental wellness. Can you please share a story or example for each.

Movement is such a powerful took for improving and sustaining mental health. Here are 5 steps you can take to incorporate more movement into your life.

  1. Bring attention to your movement. Taking time to notice and become aware of how you are currently moving, or not moving, is the first step. It is imperative to acknowledge where you are and create a gauge or baseline. Some examples may be: texting on my phone, chopping onions, running, or sitting at my desk.
  2. Keep a movement journal. Writing down or documenting how you are moving; not just the frequency, but the quality and nuances of your movement, holds you accountable and highlights what areas we can improve. This would entail writing down the aforementioned examples.
  3. Challenge your movement. This involves beginning to play with our ingrained movement patterns. Ask yourself why you move a certain way and change it up. Try engaging your non-dominant hand more often, play with the different rhythms or timing of your movement.
  4. Diversify your movement. This means broadening your movement vocabulary, or the movement currently at your disposal. Try a new form of exercise, preparing your own food instead of carrying out, or simply finding ways to move more throughout your day.
  5. Practice makes habit. All of these things must be practiced and incorporated into your lifestyle. It is not temporary and not a quick fix. Set timers that remind you to think about your body and movement. Create a schedule that allows you to bring this practice into your daily life.

See the video here.

Much of my expertise focuses on helping people to plan for after retirement. Retirement is a dramatic ‘life course transition’ that can impact one’s health. In addition to the ideas you mentioned earlier, are there things that one should do to optimize mental wellness after retirement? Please share a story or an example for each.

All of these tips apply to anyone, regardless of age and ability. Early on in my career I worked mostly with older adults diagnosed with dementia. This is where I really started to understand the need for movement and how movement supports mental health. Retirement is a very important phase of life, a transition as you mentioned. One of the best ways to transition into different roles is through our movement. Embodying the transition that we want and living it in our bodies is a powerful way to make them come to fruition.

How about teens and pre teens? Are there any specific new ideas you would suggest for teens and pre teens to optimize their mental wellness?

All of the above pertain to teens/tweens as well. I would recommend my Body Awareness for Mental Health Journal. The journal is all about finding ways to highlight how our physical sensations influence our mental health.

This free journal is an easy way for young adults to practice these vital tips at a young age so by the time they reach adulthood it is part of their everyday lived experience.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

Move Your DNA and Movement Matters by both Katy Bowman continue to have lasting impacts on me. It was the first time I saw in print how our movement or lack thereof is changing our evolution. This gave me the encouragement to write my own book (coming out Summer 2022) that continues the discussion on how our mental health is impacted by these changes in movement.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

This is the Body Aware Movement. Being body aware is about looking at our own movement habits and patterns and how they impact our mental health which ultimately influence our relationships and environment. When people embrace a body aware existence, they become more resilient, compassionate, and understanding.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.”- Vivian Greene

This is what I have learned keep me going through even the hardest or most uncertain times. I can stop and wait, but truthfully life goes on. Things continue to change and I can be present to it or watch opportunities pass me by. We must learn to “dance” in the storm and keep moving for that it what helps us manage the stressors that the storm brings.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

Instagram: @the.therapist.who.moves.you

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!


Erica Hornthal of Chicago Dance Therapy: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Ben Marcus & Cyrus Sigari of UP.Partners: The Future Of Air Travel In The Post Pandemic World

Some of the tech will exponentially increase flight safety through intelligent object avoidance, or deconfliction with other aircraft. Other technologies that interest us will help connect rural communities separated by bad infrastructure; or making safety inspections of things like bridges, wind turbines, radio towers safer for people. Still more are about making cities more intelligent; improving connectivity with base stations and traffic controls; network optimization; marketplaces, like multi-modal trip discovery, fleet risk mitigation, and more.

As As part of our series about “The Future Of Air Travel”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Ben Marcus and Cyrus Sigari.

The firm’s leaders are Ben Marcus, who also founded AirMap, and Cyrus Sigari, who founded JetAviva and a slew of other companies. They’ve been business partners for almost as long as they’ve known each other, which goes back to when they were 11. Both got their pilots licenses at age 17, then Cyrus went on to become one of the youngest U.S. flight instructors at 18. Both went to the same engineering school, worked for the same companies, founded companies together, and have now started UP.Partners.

Cyrus’ and Ben’s passion for flight quickly transitioned into a lifelong profession. They graduated from Purdue University with degrees in Aeronautical and Astronautical Engineering. After graduation, Cyrus worked as a propulsion systems engineer and flight test engineer for Eclipse Aviation, where he was credited with leading the team that certified the first new aircraft fire suppression system in more than 50 years. His work at Eclipse earned him several EPA awards.

In late 2019, Ben and Cyrus launched a venture capital investment firm focused towards the enablement and acceleration of this new industry called UP.Partners. UP.Partners accelerates and positively affects the movement of people and goods in all three dimensions by building a virtuous ecosystem. The unique community of sector-expert entrepreneurs, executives, corporates, and co-investors equals unparalleled access, the right decisions, and the best support and synergies between our portfolio companies and their founders.

Thank you for joining us in this interview series. Can you share with our readers how have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

The world needs innovation in how people and things move. This is why helping humanity to go UP has always been our North Star. Moving people and goods in the 3rd dimension will become a part of everyday life for much of humanity over the next 20 years and we believe that key technologies enabling aerial mobility are needed for continued advances in terrestrial mobility. By investing in these technologies and services, we are helping humanity go UP.

Consider this: almost 80 percent of the world’s population has never left the ground. If you live in the developed world, that statistic sounds absurd, but it’s true; the majority of the world’s population has never been flying. But new technologies can address that now. Just like wireless technologies brought communication to regions that don’t have a well-developed wired infrastructure, electric vertical takeoff and landing (eVTOL) aircraft will be a boon for rural communities lacking advanced road infrastructures, in addition to addressing traffic and pollution problems in cities.

UP is helping innovators accelerate the development of these life-changing technologies so they can get to market sooner and begin making the world a better place for the people benefitting from them.

Let’s jump to the core of our discussion. Can you share with our readers about the innovations that you are bringing to the Aviation and Air Travel industries?

UP.Partners partners with amazing entrepreneurs who are building companies that develop enabling technologies for multi-dimensional mobility. Yes, the UP community includes companies that build electric vertical takeoff and landing aircraft (eVTOLs), but we also invest in technologies like machine vision, hydrogen cells for power (which sounds crazy for a flight application but the technology is super solid and the power output is superior to standard batteries); autonomous technologies for inventory management, electric autonomous crop dusting aircraft, mapping technologies, and on and on. These are typically intended for the aerial mobility space, but they often have secondary and tertiary use cases as well.

Some of the tech will exponentially increase flight safety through intelligent object avoidance, or deconfliction with other aircraft. Other technologies that interest us will help connect rural communities separated by bad infrastructure; or making safety inspections of things like bridges, wind turbines, radio towers safer for people. Still more are about making cities more intelligent; improving connectivity with base stations and traffic controls; network optimization; marketplaces, like multi-modal trip discovery, fleet risk mitigation, and more.

Which “pain point” are you trying to address by introducing these innovations?

Simply: technology which will help humanity go UP.

How do you envision that this might disrupt the status quo?

Moving people and goods in the 3rd dimension will become a part of everyday life for much of humanity over the next 20 years. We believe that key technologies enabling aerial mobility are needed for continued advances in terrestrial mobility.

We’re seeing drones being used for a broad array of valuable use cases today — food and medical supply delivery, public safety, infrastructure inspection, agricultural spraying, etc. The vast benefits these technologies bring are not dependent on urban air mobility.

The future of urban air mobility promises to fundamentally change how people get around cities and more rural communities. Along the way, other industries will be transformed, for example freight will start to move on autonomous aircraft, reducing cost and enabling more efficient point-to-point logistics.

Are there exciting new technologies that are coming out in the next few years that will improve the Air Travel experience? We’d love to learn about what you have heard.

Sooner than a few years from now, and not just improve the air travel experience, but add a completely new sector designed for on-demand, short distance travel. Uber Air, for example. You’ll be able to hail an eVTOL from your phone and go from downtown to uptown or do short commutes that would otherwise waste hours in a car. That’s the most obvious promise of this technology, but there are far more use cases being developed.

As you know, the Pandemic changed the world as we know it. For the benefit of our readers, can you help spell out a few examples of how the Pandemic has specifically impacted Air Travel?

As for air travel itself, the pandemic has been a disaster. Commercial airlines don’t anticipate getting back to pre-pandemic business levels until sometime in 2024. However, the pandemic has certainly been a forcing function for the advancement of autonomous technologies, which might have developed more slowly if the pandemic hadn’t hit us.

We’ve already seen companies like Wing and Amazon advance their drone delivery business for consumer goods. Wing itself famously started delivering library books to children in Virginia after the quarantine started, and more people than ever began to order comfort food, coffee and toiletries through the service. It’s convenient, and it’s touchless, which underscores autonomous air delivery’s importance right now.

The increased use of these technologies in everyday life has had the benefit of proving them out — more flights in these circumstances means the technologies that have made them commonplace will soon go into advancing manned eVTOL-type air travel. We’ll have had the benefit of refining the technologies needed to make this a very safe proposition.

Can you share five examples of how the Air Travel experience might change over the next few years to address the new realities brought by the Pandemic? If you can, please give an example for each.

  1. On-demand short distance flights / Uber Air
  2. Touchless delivery of goods; faster, life-saving delivery of medicines/medical necessities, etc. Wing / Zipline
  3. Quicker access to goods and services for rural communities: Lilium
  4. Software that offers flexible navigation — the ability to alter flight plans in real time to take advantage of favorable winds, avoid routing around storms, etc.
  5. Less reliance on fossil fuels for air travel. The bulk of short distance trips will be electrified.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. :-)

Helping humanity go UP is what we’re about. We’ve already started the movement and recruited some of the world’s most influential people to help with the mission. We’re aligned with Ross Perot Jr., who is an aviator himself, and the Waltons of Bentonville, AR, who each host one of our UP summits every year, which assembles the aerial mobility ecosystem to compare notes, make deals and investments, and bring these exponential technologies to market.

We also publish a newsletter called TransportUP, which chronicles the latest in aerial mobility — it’s like TechCrunch for flying cars. We have our fingers on the pulse of this industry, and the technology is very advanced. If we could get help with anything, it’s with the regulatory sector — public policy tends to move much slower than the advancement of technology. What we need is a way for these two sides to work together better so everyone can take advantage of this amazing technology sooner.


Ben Marcus & Cyrus Sigari of UP.Partners: The Future Of Air Travel In The Post Pandemic World was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Women In Wellness: Brita Ostrom of ‘Esalen Institute’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help…

Women In Wellness: Brita Ostrom of ‘Esalen Institute’ on the Five Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Help Support People’s Journey Towards Better Wellbeing

You don’t need to make big plans. Just put one step in front of the other. Big plans paralyze me. In others, they often seem misplaced.

As a part of my series about the women in wellness, I had the pleasure of interviewing Brita Ostrom.

Brita Ostrom, Esalen Institute, Big Sur, California, is one of the founders of Esalen® Massage, a massage that turned into a movement of personal growth, heart-to-heart contact, massage as an art form, and a recognition of our birthright impetus toward health and healing. She’s been at it for fifty years.

Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series! Our readers would love to “get to know you” better. Can you share your “backstory” with us?

I grew up on an island in the Pacific Northwest where everyone knew each other well and stayed a respectful distance apart. Tired of riding the ferry, I jumped to the urban East Coast for college and social work. Yet this sense of shared community stayed with me. The protests against the war and for civil rights anchored my desire to live life in an intentional manner. A surprise hitch hike to Esalen showed me the creative community I sought in a restful natural setting, with a small salary was included. I found space for my wildness here, too. While religion took a back seat, a recognition of spirit in many manifestations caught hold. After I learned massage, I joined a small cohort of fellow practitioners who recognized the power in non-judgmental touch as a means to heal personal and social violence. Connection counted. We inspired each other, we taught together, we dreamed a school. Massage acceptance nationwide stepped out of the parlors and into respectful homes and medical practices. It became okay to touch. It improved both mood and health. Most important, it felt good to give. We developed programming to fill the growing need for laypeople to learn to touch and ease family and friends and for professionals to dive deep. Personally, I undertook an advanced somatic psychology degree and combined body awareness with insight and change. I realized the body and mind were always linked in every thought and need. I started to teach Esalen Massage abroad. I bring these cultures — Asian, rural Canadian, European– into my work. I’m seventy-seven years old and I don’t see an end in sight.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career? What were the main lessons or takeaways from that story?

The daily experience of giving massages to the guests at Esalen is the best story of all. Just imagine this: a stranger signs up for a massage with me and we meet outside the room on the edge of the Pacific, he or she clad in a towel. I can see the New York-style tension in tight hip movements, or the pain of recent widowhood caught up in the body posture and voice tone. We speak briefly, and the client says “I just want to catch up, to get back in my body again, and my neck is really killing me.” He/she lays down on the table, uncomfortable to take their identity off to this degree. I cover them carefully and begin slow strokes, not deep. I monitor my own breath and pace. They ask a question, still feeling they should be doing something. Yet — and here is the miracle that happens daily — within twenty minutes their breath has expanded, their tissue has softened, their limbs move freely. I can easily go deeper, work into tightly bound muscles. They’ve surrendered to the experience. Meanwhile the sea continues its song. At the end of the massage, they rest, unmoving, perhaps with the smallest hint of a smile at the corners of the mouth. When they sit up, they don’t need to say a word. I can see they have dropped the stress of work deadlines, accepted the pain of losing a loved one. They’ve stepped back into themselves, into their whole potential. He/she manages a full smile. “Wow!” Pause. “That was amazing.” I smile and almost give one of the slight bows I see in Japan. This is the beauty of massage; it brings us back to our fullest self, our most beautiful self, and I ride along on the journey and help clear the way. The human being has this uncanny trajectory toward wellness, toward grace and beauty. I could tell many stories of trauma unwinding from the body during a massage, or great creativity untapped, but really, it’s the everyday miracle of coming home to oneself that keeps me going.

Can you share a story about the biggest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I grew up in a culture that either ignored touch and the body or sexualized it. I was part of that culture, and yet I thought I was cool about the body, and touching strangers. Therefore I easily laid the “uptight” label on clients who couldn’t relax or friends who refused massage. I wouldn’t recognize my own areas of concern. I didn’t acknowledge the state of others; I just thought they should get over it and act natural. It was only after I learned to say “I’m a little nervous about….” that others could really open up to me and visa versa. I’ve no need to be so perfect!

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

I’ve lived in community and associated with an education center for fifty years, so singling out one person is tough. The aspirations of Esalen’s co-founders, and the lifetime of support they have given the institute is immense. Yet I will point to my good friend and coworker Peggy Horan. She has the most amazing ability to get the story straight and then accurately access “we can do this” or not. She’s my main cheerleader. “Would you like to lead that massage group,” she asked me 50 years ago while I stammered and stepped back. “Sure, you can do it. I’ll be right here to help.” She brought me into teaching, into leading a movement class, encouraged me to jump in and make a mistake and enjoy it. She keeps on learning new things. She gave up massage for midwifery for a while, starting out with the delivery of my own daughter. When she managed the massage staff, she always sought out what was each person’s strength and built on that. Yet she knows her own worth and teaches me daily to ask for what I deserve. The best part: we have easy fun together, always happy to meet up and share our innermost joys, failings, and fears. When we disagree, it’s about the topic and not about our friendship, so I’m comfortable arguing with her. Usually I take her advice and sometimes she tries mine on. I love her sense of color. We’ve grown 50 years together. She just turned 80 and I’ve followed her lead and just joined a mindfulness meditation teacher training. She’s always encouraging me to take a taste of something new.

Ok perfect. Now let’s jump to our main focus. When it comes to health and wellness, how is the work you are doing helping to make a bigger impact in the world?

The biggest impact my work has made is through the adage: Own your own body. We are taught to give away our body wisdom. “You can’t be cold, you have on a sweater already,” to ignore it in favor of didactic learning. Religion in the West wants us to sidestep the body, and early thinking talked a lot about sins of the flesh. We are taught to source information from without rather than to also reach within. As a counterbalance, massage brings us in touch with our body, our connection to others and to our natural selves. We begin to inhabit our own space, physically and metaphorically. The result: We access the wisdom of our body, we acknowledge our thoughts and recognize our insights, and then give them energy, direction. We move to make a difference. I find so much heartache and anger are caused by people not paying attention to themselves, not taking themselves seriously, “whatever…” . I’m not talking in that romantic way here — that can be just another ploy to seek affirmation — but rather in accessing that deep-down impulse to do the right thing. The place that this has most clearly manifested is the medical setting, where patients no longer give all their power to their doctor, but rather take an active role in their own healing, using imagery to relax during office and surgical procedures, take responsibility for lifestyle changes in diet, exercise, and relationship, and work with the process, rather than just take it like a pill. As the human body becomes accepted rather than hidden, perhaps we can come to terms with our sexuality. Can you imagine a world where women feel comfortable acknowledging their sexual feelings in a safe way to themselves and to their partner and the male is free from the predatory role! This is a future dream, yet acceptance of the wondrous human body could inspire this revolution.

Can you share your top five “lifestyle tweaks” that you believe will help support people’s journey towards better wellbeing? Please give an example or story for each.

The “come to your senses” lifestyle tweaks

• Start each day slowly. Don’t rush the transition from sleep to wakefulness, but savor it.

• Do a nighttime rolldown. Stretch, shake out the day and the evening, maybe take a short walk, and let the cares of the day roll off you.

• Drink water and love its wetness.

• Notice signs of withhold in your breathing, a sure sign of tension, and backtrack to the cause. Do what you can to remedy.

• Self massage your hands daily, your feet as often as you reach for them, and massage someone else’s shoulders. Be open to change.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of wellness to the most amount of people, what would that be?

I’d encourage people to live in community, help each other, do things together, reach out to welcome guests. Grow gardens, make art, share the harvest.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why?

• You don’t need to make big plans. Just put one step in front of the other. Big plans paralyze me. In others, they often seem misplaced.

• Respect what you have to offer and offer it fully. I’m shy and I’m also sensitive to envy and so pull back. Also, I want to be perfect.

• Say yes first. Then consider any questions you have. I tend to say no first and then work my way to yes. This leaves me in the dust.

• Invite guests over. Take that first step. Somehow I expect them to just drop in.

• Its fine to be quiet and alone. If nothing else, the pandemic has confirmed this.

Which one of these causes is dearest to you, and why?

Of these topics, sustainability meets me daily. The effects of our economic practices are coming to ugly fruition: racial disparity in housing, health and potential, vast workforce income — CEO/Worker — disparity, the shame of the homeless encampment, the suicide of a friend due to overextended credit, my own work habits. Sustainability means paying attention to the effects of one person’s actions on this generation and generations forward. Sustainability links to a thriving world.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

Good question! I’m not on social media, so Google me. A podcast or similar may be in my near future. For Esalen, www.esalen.org

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Aziz Kaddan of Myndlift: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness

First, change your perception of stress. I read a book called “The Upside of stress” and it absolutely changed mine. It shows why stress can be good for you, how it can help you grow, keep you challenged, and how to balance it out. I recommend reading that book and that’s the first step. So, embrace stress, in a balanced way of course .

As a part of my series about the “5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Aziz Kaddan, a mental health advocate who has been exploring the human brain for many years. He is a CEO and co-founder of Myndlift — a neurofeedback training platform. By the age of 23, Aziz was honoured on the Forbes 30 under 30 list.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the backstory about what brought you to your specific career path?

My background is in computer science. I started my degree early on and managed to get my first qualification when I was 19 years old. That allowed me to start working in the tech industry in Israel at a very young age. There I was exposed to the world of Neuroscience through various conferences and also through my father who is a pediatric neurologist. At that time I got to understand more about the field of mental health, neuroscience and the connection between them. When I saw that EEG and neurofeedback can be used as a way to improve mental wellness but it only existed in clinical settings around the world, I decided that now is the right time to use the current technology in the market to change it. I’ve noticed that new devices were emerging on the market that offer the ability to measure or sense brain activity by using wearables instead of going to labs or clinics. At that point I understood that there is potential here to create something big by bringing neurofeedback from the clinical setting into the home setting by using wearable devices. That’s what we did with Myndlift.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

When we first started the company we wanted to get some exposure and there was a conference happening in Tel Aviv which was covering the combination of Brain and Technology. It was called Brain Tech. Participation in the conference wasn’t cheap and we didn’t have enough to invest in it when we started the company, so I contacted the head of the planning for the conference and begged her to give us tickets for free. She felt sorry for us and just let us in. She even allowed us to have our own booth and show our technology because she liked what we had to offer and our entrepreneurial spirits. As a result of that conference we managed to get a lot of exposure and PR, also, a small investment that helped us take off. The funny thing is that five years later she became an investor through her own venture funds and became a board member of Myndlift. The one who helped us, when we were beggars, is now an investor in the company.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

Yes, when we were starting the company we were trying to get into the good tech accelerators. They get thousands of applicants, usually requiring them to record the video of themselves. We thought of ways to stand out, and we would spend days, sometimes weeks, on video production making these funny videos about the company and the founders instead of focusing on the business. Needless to say, these videos yielded no results and we didn’t get into any of these accelerators. That experience taught me to focus on the right things instead of creating funny videos for the company.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

I think it’s very important to have a mentor who’s a few steps ahead of you, but at the same time, not too far ahead because you need somebody who’s been there and still has the memory of what has been done and still remembers the lessons that they learned along the way and transfer these lessons to you.

Three years ago I was at a conference and I saw a man speaking in a panel. He was one of the hotshots in the digital health field in Israel. He created an amazing company called Early Sense. Right after the conference I went up to him and asked to be my mentor. It was a very straightforward approach and he agreed to talk. Since then he kept mentoring me for free for months until one day asked him to join Myndlift as our board member. He continues helping me to this day. During the three years I have weekly calls with him and sometimes he’s not only my business Mentor but a therapist as well.

What advice would you suggest to your colleagues in your industry to thrive and avoid burnout?

I suffered burn out myself three years ago and I’m grateful for my wife who helped me along the way to get out of it.

Everyone should find their escape spot. I started doing music. After a lot of stress at work I would dedicate the day or the weekend to do some music just to get out, keep my head out, and do something very different. Some other people hike, while others do sports.

We need to get creative, move our body and just find that balance between work and other hobbies.

It’s very important to get enough sleep. It’s been three years since I had that burn out. I go to bed very early, I wake up early to have a few hours before everybody else wakes up. This also helps enormously.

What advice would you give to other leaders about how to create a fantastic work culture?

I’m still striving to build a great company culture and we still have a long way to go. Essentially, we focus on:

  1. Transparency. We are transparent with our employees about everything concerning the company.
  2. Flexibility. If an employee needs a mental health day, just go and take it, rest. No questions asked. We try to avoid monitoring work hours too much and focus more on productivity and the sense of projects or goals achieved. It gives the people in the workplace the autonomy and responsibility that they strive for.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. Mental health is often looked at in binary terms; those who are healthy and those who have mental illness. The truth, however, is that mental wellness is a huge spectrum. Even those who are “mentally healthy” can still improve their mental wellness. From your experience or research, what are five steps that each of us can take to improve or optimize our mental wellness. Can you please share a story or example for each.

I’m going to start with the easier ones.

First, change your perception of stress. I read a book called “The Upside of stress” and it absolutely changed mine. It shows why stress can be good for you, how it can help you grow, keep you challenged, and how to balance it out. I recommend reading that book and that’s the first step. So, embrace stress, in a balanced way of course .

Secondly, everyone should have that doesn’t involve drinking alcohol, smoking or social media.

Find a positive escape, for example, mine is music. It can be art or sport, surfing or anything else you like. It can also be reading as it allows you to have a different experience.

Steps three, four, and five require some commitment, but the the moment you find your sweet spot it’s going to be smooth sailing from there.

The third one is move, and I’m not saying you should become a marathon runner, you can just start taking simple walks during the day or even doing yoga or stretching. Exercise gets more oxygen in your brain which definitely helps in your overall mental well-being. So that is a must.

The fourth one is nutrition. I’d recommend trying to cut down on things that contain sugar or carbs, with high glycemic index.These are the types of carbohydrates that turn into glucose really quickly in your blood and you get a boost of energy and then a drastic drop right after. Just like what happens when you eat a lot of chocolate, for example, you feel energetic and then an hour later you are super tired. This does not only impact your body but your brain as well. The way you feel impacts your mood. So, try to steer away from these kinds of foods as much as possible and you will see how it will impact your mental health.

The fifth one is sleep. Being able to adjust my sleeping schedule to be consistent has helped me a lot with regulating my mood or with preventing burnout. It is important to go to bed at approximately the same time every day. The more consistent your sleeping schedule is throughout the week, the more stable your circadian rhythm is which essentially plays a big role in the composition of hormones in your body throughout the day. Sleep is one of the most important, if not the most important, factors that you should keep an eye on if you want to optimize your mental well-being. It is also one of the most difficult because of all the distractions that we have around us.

Much of my expertise focuses on helping people to plan for after retirement. Retirement is a dramatic ‘life course transition’ that can impact one’s health. In addition to the ideas you mentioned earlier, are there things that one should do to optimize mental wellness after retirement? Please share a story or an example for each.

I believe the same steps that I described earlier will work for retired people and they should be even more consistent with them.

How about teens and pre teens. Are there any specific new ideas you would suggest for teens and pre teens to optimize their mental wellness?

Same here, I could also recommend them to be careful with choosing their escape activity, make sure it is something positive but not destructive.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

I have two books that have been very influential for me. One is the “The Upside of stress” by Dr Kelly McGonigal. It helped me to perceive stress in totally different way, helped me to see stress as the growth and accelerator. I got a lot of versions of this book and gave it to every single employee at my company so that they also understand that stress is not necessarily a bad thing and sometimes can be useful.

The other book is “Principles” by Ray Dalio. Ray says that whenever we make a decision we should try to understand why did we make that decision and if there’s a principle behind it, we should write it down as our basic principles. Then, each time that there’s a decision that needs to be made, we can go down to the basic principles and make the decision based on that.

I am journaling and writing down every decision that I make, big or small, and trying to extract principles to live by. It helped me a lot in trying to regulate the way that I make decisions.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

We already started the movement to help people improve their mental well-being using wearable and mobile technology. We are bringing something that existed only in the clinical setting called Neurofeedback into the home setting so that everyone can do it now at home in an accessible and affordable way. Through this we’re helping people to get directly into their brain activity and try to influence it using games or videos and, therefore, achieve better focus, lower anxiety in an objective and data-driven way. Right now there are lots of solutions that are not based on data, but on speaking, for example:

Talking to a psychologist is great, but we believe that more data needs to be added or included in mental health and that’s exactly what we’re doing: we are bringing brain data into the mental health equation in order to help people improve their mental well-being with tangible progress and information along the way.

That’s our movement and it’s already bringing good to people, and we really hope that more people will get exposed to it, understand the mission, and help us achieve this big dream to make Mental Health data-driven.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

I guess my most important life lesson and this might be a “cliche” but I think that good deeds travel fast and it is extremely important to help other people without expecting anything in return. I want to continue building Myndlift and grow this movement of better mental health. I had people along the way helping me push through and the more help I received from them, the more I wanted to help others myself.

Now I try to help other entrepreneurs that are at earlier stages than I am just because I’m also receiving help from other entrepreneurs that are more advanced in their businesses.

So here is one simple example that has nothing to do with the entrepreneurship world of mental health but it really got me into thinking. I was driving my car in Tel Aviv, which is a city that is extremely difficult to find a parking spot, especially on a Friday. We were going down the street and somebody jumps on the street and waves to us. We stopped the car thinking that something is wrong. I lower my window to try to understand what’s going on. He says: “I’m actually leaving my parking spot right now, and I wondered if you wanted to park instead of me”.

We were shocked because this was the first time that somebody just offered the parking spot because they are leaving and they want to make sure that you don’t get stuck looking for other parking spots. He was super helpful. Obviously, we took him up on his offer and we parked then. After that I started doing the same thing just because somebody else did it to me and, ever since, every time I get my car out of the parking lot I try to see if there’s somebody there looking for a parking and propose mine.

Crazy thing about this story is that week after that the same thing happened when somebody asked me if I wanted to take his parking spot because he’s leaving. That just shows that good deeds travel fast. There was nothing like that before in Tel Aviv and just one kind act created a chain of kindness.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

Official page: https://www.myndlift.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/myndlift/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/myndlift/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myndlift/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/myndlift?lang=eshttps://twitter.com/myndlift?lang=es

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!


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