Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Leslie Hsu and Greg Besner of Sunflow

Greg — Make Time for your Relationship: Leslie and I always make time to celebrate our relationship and our love for each other. We have a weekly date night — whether we go to dinner, have some cocktails, or just sit in our pajamas by the fireplace watching our favorite show or movie. Also, after we were married, we started a tradition to honeymoon every year, not just the first year. Sometimes it is simply a weekend road-trip, and sometimes a more extravagant trip to what always seems like paradise.

Leslie — Be Adoring: Never stop expressing deep affection, love and admiration for each other. Greg still writes me love poems and sends me flowers. Often an unexpected big hug, kiss, or a smile is adoring.

As a part of our series about lessons from Thriving Power Couples, I had the pleasure of interviewing Leslie Hsu and Greg Besner.

Leslie Hsu is the co-founder and Chief Creative Officer of Sunflow, Inc. Three years ago, while relaxing on the beach with her family, Leslie had the vision to reinvent beach products creating more comfortable, beautiful, and thoughtful solutions. She envisioned SUNFLOW as a modern brand focused on both function and fashion. Just in time for Summer 2020, the SUNFLOW brand was unveiled. It features beautiful chairs at the center of the collection, as well as an assortment of complementary accessories to create a full outdoor solution.

Leslie’s design career was launched more than two decades ago when she joined the Calvin Klein design team. In 2000, Leslie started her own namesake handbag brand, Leslie Hsu New York, which sold in hundreds of stores around the world including Neiman Marcus, Henri Bendel, Fred Segal Melrose, Stanley Korshak, Intermix, and Takashimaya. Later she launched accessories collections for high profile brands such as UGG®, True Religion Brand Jeans®, and Jonathan Adler.

Leslie attended Penn State University and earned a BS in International Business. For 21 years she has been happily married to Greg Besner, the co-founder of SUNFLOW. They have two teenage daughters Willa and Lana, both of whom helped bring SUNFLOW to the world.

Greg Besner is the co-founder and CEO of Sunflow, Inc. The founder of four companies, Greg is a serial entrepreneur, as well as an adjunct professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and the author of The Culture Quotient: Ten Dimensions of a High-Performance Culture (Ideapress 2020). Greg started his career as a fashion executive completing the Macy’s Retail Executive Training Program, later becoming the United States Sales Manager for Giorgio Armani Fashion Corporation.

In 2018, Greg was ranked in USA Today as the eighth-best CEO in the United States among a pool of fifty thousand companies. He was also named the EY Entrepreneur Of The Year® in New Jersey in 2003. Greg is frequently published in business and leadership publications and podcasts, and is a keynote speaker at leadership conferences around the world on topics of business, culture, and the future of work.

Greg completed six years of the Harvard Business School Presidents’ Program in Leadership, as well as his MBA from the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania. He earned his BA from Rutgers University. Greg has been happily married to SUNFLOW co-founder Leslie Hsu for 21 years.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you two to your respective career paths?

Leslie: When Greg and I were newlyweds, we always wondered what our life would look like at this point — after 22 years of marriage. When we met, I was a fabric designer at Calvin Klein Collection working on Fashion Avenue in Manhattan, and Greg had been running sales and marketing for Giorgio Armani USA. As we talked about having children, we also dreamed of being entrepreneurs together, constantly sharing so many crazy ideas. We dreamt of having a home-based business so that we could be with our family, but also have our careers. Soon after we were married, we both took the leap of faith, leaving our jobs to launch our first handbag company called Leslie Hsu New York®. Our plan was for me to use my fabric design experience and my sourcing contacts in Italy, France and NYC to create very unique and beautiful handbags, and then with Greg’s sales experience and connections, together we would market to high-end boutiques around the world. It worked! Neiman Marcus, Bloomingdales, Henri Bendel, Stanley Korshak and hundreds of amazing retailers around the world purchased our handbags, and our growing business took over our small West Village Manhattan apartment. As our business grew, so did our family and our home. Over the next few years, we moved to Short Hills, New Jersey and welcomed our daughters, Willa and Lana.

Next we licensed the UGG® and True Religion brands to exclusively launch their handbags just as these two brands were taking off. Our UGG® and True Religion handbags were an overnight success. Greg recalls that our sales that first year were 1,400% ahead of our projections (he’s the numbers guy). We quickly grew our team and raced to keep up with the global demand. It was exhilarating and we learned so much over the three years that we licensed these brands. Our daughters were always front and center in a stroller, or in our arms, every step of the way. Our dreams of balancing work and life had come true.

Flash forward to 2017. Our daughters are teenagers, and our family’s happy place is most definitely the beach. Our beach days, beach weekends, and beach vacations have forever created our most cherished memories — from belly laughs with our friends, to strolling along the shoreline holding hands with my husband, to just playing in the sand with our girls. This is also where the idea of SUNFLOW came to be.

During one of these family trips, our family packed up for a short walk from our beachside rental to find our spot on the beach for the day. The process of loading up our gear for the day and dragging it to the beach was nothing short of a comical parody. It was truly laughable how cumbersome and clumsy this seemingly simple chore was. I kept thinking, why aren’t there friendlier beach accessories; easier to carry, more comfortable, more thoughtful and much, much more beautiful? After unpacking our beach chairs, umbrella, towels and other assorted necessities, I collapsed into my uncomfortable and not-very-pretty chair and thought, there has to be a better way! I turned to Greg and said “Someone should design more comfortable, beautiful, and thoughtful beach products.” Greg looked around and said to me, “We should design more comfortable, beautiful beach products.” And voila! SUNFLOW was born. Actually, it took almost three years to reinvent, redesign, and produce and launch SUNFLOW, but the vision is now a reality, and we are so thrilled by the response.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you two got married?

Greg: On our daughter Willa’s fourth birthday, she was unexpectedly diagnosed with Type One Diabetes. Our sick daughter took priority over everything else, so our life was turned upside down. We learned everything that we could about this life-changing disease to keep our daughter alive and safe. It was a very emotional time, but 15 years later, Willa is in college and manages her own health amazingly well. This experience inspired us to help other families impacted by Type One Diabetes.

Nine years ago we founded the Willa’s Wish Foundation with the mission to raise and donate $1 million to help other families dealing with children that have the onset of Type One Diabetes and to fund research to help develop a cure. Willa’s Wish has raised almost $900,000 thanks to the generosity of our family and friends. We are optimistic that a cure will be developed for the millions currently suffering with this disease, and for those who will be diagnosed with this life-threatening disease.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Leslie:

Last year we were so excited to unveil our first SUNFLOW chair prototypes to our best friends, so we brought some to the beach to share. There is nothing more embarrassing than your best friend sitting on your top secret prototype and watching the chair break as they fall to the ground with a thump! Lesson learned… test, test, and test again.

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

Greg:

Our goal with SUNFLOW is to create thoughtful outdoor solutions. We want people to have the same “aha moment” that Leslie and I had when they go to their own happy place. When they use SUNFLOW, we hope they feel it’s easier to carry, more comfortable, more thoughtful, and much more beautiful. We hope to make people smile.

Last year we opened two pop-up stores, one in the East Hampton Village, New York, and one at the Mall at Short Hills, New Jersey. Nothing is more satisfying than to watch people gasp with awe as we push the button on the top of our chair to expand and retract it from lounge size to backpack size. It’s such a thrill to see customers smile as they imagine being in their happy place using SUNFLOW.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

Leslie:

I’m very excited to be designing additional outdoor solutions that will be announced this summer, so stay tuned on those! We hope to solve more customer problems and bring even more smiles to the world.

What advice would you give to other CEOs or founders to help their employees to thrive?

Leslie:

Greg literally wrote the book on this topic. His book, titled The Culture Quotient: Ten Dimensions of a High-Performance Culture, was published November 2020. Greg always highlights the importance of aligning company culture with company strategy, and to share and celebrate the mission and values. It’s important for a company to use its mission as its north star, and their core values to lead the way there.

How do you define “Leadership”?

Greg:

Leadership is leading by example, inspiring success and team building, and above all… always being humble.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

Greg:

Several friends and mentors have had a profound impact on my life, in particular, Tony Hsieh. Eighteen years ago, when Leslie and I were still newlyweds with two new baby daughters, I founded my first startup company. Leslie and I had no savings, so we used a home equity loan to help fund my business. We had a beautiful young family, but no financial security and no safety net. I also had no mentors to help guide my way, and at that moment Tony and I met through a mutual friend. I had no idea the impact that his friendship would have on me. For the next 18 years our friendship grew stronger and stronger, always showing up big for each other’s important life events. Tony’s encouragement and feedback over the years gave me great confidence and conviction along my journey. Fortunately my initial business and subsequent startups were successful, but Tony tragically passed away last year. I’ll miss his friendship and mentorship very much.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

Leslie:

Greg and I feel that everyone deserves downtime, which we equate to spending time in your happy place with family and friends. Over the past year, due to the COVID-19 pandemic, most of us have stayed at home unable to visit the people and places we love. It has brought us joy to see that our customers are mailing SUNFLOW to their closest family and friends, encouraging their loved ones to enjoy downtime outside. We hope that SUNFLOW is part of making people smile, laugh and love.

What are the “5 Things You Need To Thrive As A Couple”? Please share a story or example for each.

Greg:

1.) Make Time for your Relationship: Leslie and I always make time to celebrate our relationship and our love for each other. We have a weekly date night — whether we go to dinner, have some cocktails, or just sit in our pajamas by the fireplace watching our favorite show or movie. Also, after we were married, we started a tradition to honeymoon every year, not just the first year. Sometimes it is simply a weekend road-trip, and sometimes a more extravagant trip to what always seems like paradise.

Leslie:

2.) Be Adoring: Never stop expressing deep affection, love and admiration for each other. Greg still writes me love poems and sends me flowers. Often an unexpected big hug, kiss, or a smile is adoring.

Greg:

3.) Be Patient: A relationship only works when you celebrate your partner’s differences as much as what you have in common.

Greg:

4.) Be Authentic: It’s important to be able to be your true self with your partner. Living an authentic life is where what you say, what you do, and what you think are all aligned.

Leslie:

5.) Always Be Thoughtful: Greg and I have been married for 22 years, but he still opens the car door for me. I pride myself on being an independent woman, but I love that Greg is even more thoughtful today than he was 23 years ago on our first date. A few weeks ago. Greg was away. While he was traveling I completed a full makeover of his home office. He was so excited and surprised when he returned. It took me forever, hours of painting and building furniture in PJ’s… but it was more than worth it to see his face when he saw it. Be thoughtful and do things that show your heart.

You are people of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Greg:

A few months ago Leslie and I lost our very close friend, Tony Hsieh, the author of Delivering Happiness and longtime CEO of Zappos.com. Tony inspired us because he always looked for ways to give to others. When I visited Tony, I would always see hundreds of post-it notes on the walls of his home, with each post-it listing someone’s life-dream that he was helping to come true. Tony’s example inspired us to always look for ways to give to our family, to our friends, and to our community. We would love to inspire a movement in which everyone gives more than they take. As Martin Luther King Jr. once said “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?”

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

Leslie:

“Be happy. Not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything”. — Author unknown.

Greg and I try to live life by this philosophy, always trying to see the good in the people around us, and the good in the world. We find that positive energy brings us fulfilment.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

Leslie:

Michelle Obama inspires me with her words, actions, and grace.

Amanda Gorman inspires me and gives me hope that our next generation will say and do amazing things to make our world a better place.

How can our readers follow your work online?

Subscribe to our Website: getsunflow.com

Follow us at Facebook: @getsunflow

Follow us on Instagram: @getsunflow


Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Leslie Hsu and Greg Besner of Sunflow was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Tori and Nick Donnelly of WorkClub

Honesty — A key component to any successful relationship, business partners or not. One thing I love about Nick is that he’s not afraid to correct me when I’m wrong or tear apart a piece I’ve worked hard on for the better. Oftentimes, I’m defensive at first, however, our goals are aligned and honesty generally leads to a better end-product. We have each other’s best interest in mind and we are both fully aware of that.

As a part of our series about lessons from Thriving Power Couples, I had the pleasure of interviewing Tori and Nick Donnelly — founders of WorkClub, productive workspaces and meeting rooms for remote employees across the UK and beyond. The couple met at University in a small town of Winona, Minnesota and since, have married, founded a business and had a baby girl, Scarlett. They wanted a life & career that ‘worked for them’, not the other way around, and the rest is history.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you two to your respective career paths?

We moved to London after having spent a few years together in Minnesota. For Nick, it was home, however, for me, it was a big change! I was at school every day in Kensington completing my MBA while Nick was working full time. I used to escape the chaos of the student library on campus to study across the road at a local hotel — oftentimes where I’d meet Nick who was then working remotely. It was this first experience of seeking a quiet, productive workspace that got us interested in creating a business that could help others do the same. This period of our lives heavily influenced our decision to embark on the WorkClub journey.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you two got married?

We had a busy end to 2019 as I was having a baby, while we were raising our first round.

I actually went into labour the night before our Crowdcube campaign went live. Thankfully, the team pulled together and all went well. 4 days later we had closed the round at £350k and had a new baby daughter — all around a very exciting time in our lives.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Early 2018, Nick and I were visiting a number of hotels to sell the WorkClub solution. This one particular meeting was with the owner of the hotel and he wanted to meet at seven. We assumed 7am. The following week, we left our flat in Surbiton at 5:30am to make sure we were in London for 7am. We arrived in good time, looking sharp and we sat down where instructed. By 7:30am we were wondering what was going on and now the waiters were feeling so sorry for us that they were offering us a free breakfast. We declined, and continued to wait. By 8am we still had heard nothing from the hotel owner. At around midday Nick gets a call from the owner to say he meant drinks at 7pm. Lesson learned that day, always get an electronic confirmation of date and time. We still turned up for 7pm cocktails and we did sign a partnership with the hotel the next day.

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

For us, what has always stood out is our company values and our drive to change the way people work, for the better.

However, from an outsider’s perspective, a lot of people speak highly of our incredibly diverse team. We have team members from across the world and it’s incredible to see everyone engaging and thriving together on a daily basis.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

Yes, our B2B proposition will soon be going to market, introducing a set of new features that will make it easier than ever for teams to transition into a hybrid-workforce.

What advice would you give to other CEOs or founders to help their employees to thrive?

Let people be people, give them all the support they need to thrive.

What are the “5 Things You Need To Thrive As A Couple”? Please share a story or example for each.

Support — We are both each other’s number one fan, through thick and thin. We feel most connected when we accomplish things together, rather than separate.

Honesty — A key component to any successful relationship, business partners or not. One thing I love about Nick is that he’s not afraid to correct me when I’m wrong or tear apart a piece I’ve worked hard on for the better. Oftentimes, I’m defensive at first, however, our goals are aligned and honesty generally leads to a better end-product. We have each other’s best interest in mind and we are both fully aware of that.

Communication — Nick and I have very different working styles. He likes to be transparent about what he’s working on and bounce ideas back and forth along the way, while I’m very much the opposite. I like to get on with my work in my own space and talk about and review the finished product. We’re both very aware of each other’s working styles and we very much respect that.

Balance — It’s all about a good work-life balance, am I right? Whatever that may be or look like to your own personal situation.

Boundaries — With our busy lifestyle, alongside our 1-year old baby girl Scarlett, we make sure to set boundaries as to when we will ‘unplug’ together. After all, we are business owners and our business does take up a majority of our time (and energy!), so some nights it’s just ten minutes to unplug and chat.

You are people of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Work is a mindset, not a destination.

Get up, commute, get to work, make coffee, settle in at your desk, turn your computer off, commute, workout, get home, make dinner, go to bed, and repeat. Sound far too familiar?

Now is the time to stop and consciously ask ourselves what we can do to ensure our careers continue to provide us with the fulfilment we need in the years and decades to come.

WorkClub is the way forward and we want to enable remote professionals across the UK and beyond to work from anywhere.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” — Winston Churchill — This quote speaks to the both of us.

WorkClub, like any startup, has had ups and downs. Times were not always ‘easy’, however, together, we kept pushing forward because there’s always another day to press on. And so happy we did so!

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

Airbnb’s CEO, Brian Chesky would be a great pick. Nick and I take a lot of inspiration from Brian and his company. Brian doesn’t seem like your typical startup CEO, which is probably why he is recognized as one of the worlds greatest leaders. In addition to his dynamic personality, Brian is obviously a very determined guy that doesn’t give up. If Brian does read this, let’s grab a bite at Al’s Breakfast in Minneapolis.

How can our readers follow your work online?

Follow @workclub for your daily dose of workspace inspo!

Thank you so much for joining us. This was very inspirational.


Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Tori and Nick Donnelly of WorkClub was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Cliff and Angela Osbon of Office Evolution

Time Together — We enjoy spending time together. We travel (when possible!) and enjoy getaways to the mountains, the beach or other fun destinations we love, like New Orleans and Las Vegas. We can’t wait to travel internationally again (soon hopefully!). We also love live music — both small venues and concerts.

As a part of our series about lessons from Thriving Power Couples, I had the pleasure of interviewing Angela and Cliff Osbon.

Angela and Cliff Osbon, co-owners of Office Evolution of Flowood, are longtime Jackson area residents and serial entrepreneurs. They have four children and one grandson. After their careers in legal and health care professions, they are excited to be participating in the growing flexible workspace industry and thrilled to be supporting other dreamers, risk-takers and doers in their community.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you two to your respective career paths?

In the Spring of 2019, Cliff saw a segment on the CBS Sunday Morning Show about the growth of coworking and flexible workspace providers. Having seen fractional ownership of various other things — like Uber and Lyft for cars, or like AirBnB or VRBO for vacation homes — we thought that business model, which is similar to fractional ownership, offered a lot to entrepreneurs like us. That set us off to investigate various franchises that would align with our lifestyle. Ultimately, we found Office Evolution and attended Office Evolution’s Discovery Day. We saw an opportunity to offer close-to-home, flexible workspace to the businesses in the greater Jackson area.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you two got married?

After negotiating the sale of a business in 2017 that Cliff had co-founded in 2002, we thought that we were entering into a period where things would be slowing down. But nothing could be further from the truth. After our marriage in 2016, it was just a few short months before we learned that we were to become grandparents! Soon after that amazing addition to the family arrived, we completed the sale of the previous company and rapidly participated in the launch of three more businesses with a fourth coming soon! As entrepreneurs, we have many stories, so it’s a little hard to nail down just one “most interesting” story!

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

Well, opening in early 2020 at the front end of a global pandemic might count as a mistake! Or, better yet, a challenge that we were up to tackling. We pushed forward and became part of Office Evolution’s Ohana — Hawaiian for family. Even though we could not participate in face-to-face events like we normally would have, we, along with our Business Center Manager, sought every available virtual opportunity to engage with the community and prospective member clients. We even hosted virtual conferences in our business center, where the leaders and presenters could still socially distance but also present to hundreds or thousands of people via a web conference in real time. We learned to be innovative and think about creative win-win ways to support our members.

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

We are entrepreneurs serving other entrepreneurs. We are not successful unless our members are successful. It is in our DNA to support our members as they move forward during this pandemic. Our business center stayed open during the pandemic to ensure we were providing the support our members needed while following safety protocols. We hit the ground running every day, with this mission in mind.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

We are partnering with local businesses that work virtually with others during the pandemic and beyond. We have clients in areas like telemedicine and life coaching that can perform their services from our state-of-the-art facility.

What advice would you give to other CEOs or founders to help their employees to thrive?

Listen to your team. If you have identified and engaged good team members and if you’ve equipped them with the technology and resources they need, they are usually more “client-facing” than you. Actively solicit their input and use it! Empowering them to make decisions is good for everyone.

How do you define “Leadership”?

Peter Drucker defined Leadership this way: “Leadership is lifting a person’s vision to high sights, the raising of a person’s performance to a higher standard, the building of a personality beyond its normal limitations”. We think that’s a great definition!

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

Cliff: I have a background in pharmacy. I attended pharmacy school and practiced in many non-traditional settings that used my pharmacy education, working with clients like pharmaceutical manufacturers, specialty pharmacies and health plans that provided pharmacy benefits to their members. I’m grateful for the two brothers that owned a local drugstore where I worked after classes in pharmacy school. “Johnny and Joe Sampognaro really taught me a lot about business and a lot about people. I always remember them fondly.”

Angela: I have a background as a paralegal. I have worked in multiple legal settings such as private practice firms, with the U.S. Department of Justice and for Entergy (Legal) Services. I am most grateful, both professionally and personally, to the late Frank M. Youngblood, Sr., who was my first employer in the area of law. His hard work, integrity and compassion with people was admirable. He was also an excellent “teacher” of the law.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

We have a real soft spot for the vulnerable. Some faith traditions talk about the need to help “widows and orphans”, meaning those who cannot help themselves. We currently support organizations that seek to provide food, shelter, medication and education for children and those who seek to rescue boys and girls from sexual trafficking. Recently, we worked to support a constitutional amendment passed in our state that would make medical marijuana legal for those who are sick, suffering or dying. Additionally, we support a local ministry that is highly active in serving inner city youth and their families.

What are the “5 Things You Need To Thrive As A Couple”? Please share a story or example for each.

  1. Time Together — We enjoy spending time together. We travel (when possible!) and enjoy getaways to the mountains, the beach or other fun destinations we love, like New Orleans and Las Vegas. We can’t wait to travel internationally again (soon hopefully!). We also love live music — both small venues and concerts.
  2. Time with Family — We have a blended family of four adult (and “almost adult”) children and one grandchild. With the kiddos living across several states, getting everyone together can be a challenge — and an adventure! Holidays and summer trips to the mountains keep everyone anticipating the next get together!
  3. Time Alone — We feel that “alone time” for exercise, self-reflection, reading, music and relaxation nurture the body mind and spirit.
  4. Time with Friends — With an active social circle, we share good times with a group of long-term friends regularly.
  5. Time to Grow — Growing a business (or three, as is currently the case) helps us learn together and continue to grow together while meeting needs and serving others.

You are people of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be?

Considering the world today, we feel that inspiring others to treat one another with more kindness, less hostility and more grace and compassion would be a benefit that would trickle into every part of our personal and professional lives. We love to encourage people to be less reactionary and more thoughtful and slower to respond to stresses and agitations in their lives.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

Cliff: my favorite verse, was written about 2,500 years ago by a man name Micah in a small village called Moresheth in the Middle East. Micah wrote, “He has shown you what is good and what does God require of you? To act justly, to love mercy and to walk humbly with God.” I believe that people of all faiths (or none) can hopefully agree that to act justly, to be merciful and to be humble is a lifestyle that could be good for us all.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

Cliff: I would love to meet American novelist James Lee Burke. Burke is America’s best living novelist. I’d be happy to meet him anywhere in the country for breakfast and coffee! I’ve read everything that Burke has published — forty novels or collections of short stories so far!

How can our readers follow you online?

We both maintain various social media accounts but our LinkedIn accounts are best:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/angela-reeder-osbon-048849163/ (Angela)

and

https://www.linkedin.com/in/cliff-osbon-94084a5/ (Cliff).


Lessons from a Thriving Power Couple, With Cliff and Angela Osbon of Office Evolution was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Lessons From A Thriving Power Couple, With Brittany Merrill-Yeng and Steven Yeng of Skrewball…

Lessons From A Thriving Power Couple, With Brittany Merrill-Yeng and Steven Yeng of Skrewball Peanut Butter Whiskey

Steven Yeng — Find ways to enjoy each other. Running a business can be all encompassing, especially when you live with your business partner. We try to keep a pulse on that and when we’ve had a particularly bad day or week, we set up as much time as we can spare — even if that’s a few minutes or an hour — to focus on something positive in our lives. Sometimes that just means dinner with the family where we aren’t allowed to discuss business.

Brittany Merrill-Yeng — Respecting each other’s time alone. With the pandemic, everyone is seeing that there is such a thing as too much time together. It is so important to have time to do something for just yourself. In the evenings, we take turns giving the girls a bath while the other has time to reset.

As a part of our series about lessons from Thriving Power Couples, I had the pleasure of interviewing Brittany Merrill-Yeng and Steven Yeng, co-founders of Skrewball Peanut Butter Whiskey, the original peanut butter whiskey. This husband-and-wife duo spearheaded one of the fastest market rollouts in the history of the spirits industry and have transformed their small family-owned company into an award-winning, international sensation.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you two to your respective career paths?

Brittany Merrill-Yeng: While I was in college, Steven worked with his family to develop a restaurant and bar. The only way for us to spend time together was for me to help him on this project. So, when I wasn’t at school or working, I’d be volunteering my time helping him build the restaurant.

Steven continued to build more restaurants that were featured on Food Network and TruTV while I continued my education receiving a master’s in chemistry and a law degree. I moved on to practice as a pharmaceutical patent litigator for one of the largest firms in the world.

At the restaurant, Steven developed many great cocktail recipes throughout the years. Peanut butter whiskey became his signature cocktail, and we knew there was something there.

Steven Yeng: From a personal perspective, we were ships passing in the night with me getting home just before sunrise from the bar and Brittany leaving at the same time to start work on east coast hours. When our daughter was on the way, we wanted to do something that would bring us together, so we jumped all in and created Skrewball Peanut Butter Whiskey.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you two got married?

BMY: We’re in the middle of it right now. We’ve been in this whirlwind of building this brand for the last few years and every time we get a chance to step back we just say — we’ve got to write a book someday. There is too much to do any of it justice right now. (And we don’t know how it will end yet!)

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

SY: In our first distillery, we had to climb in the tanks to clean them. Never afraid of getting my hands dirty, I jumped in without hesitation. I was immediately hit with all the alcohol fumes. I was about to pass out and I hadn’t done a pull-up in years, but I mustered all my energy to pull myself out. Needless to say, I learned to air the tanks out before cleaning them.

BMY: The mistakes that you learn the most valuable lessons from are hard and painful ones that you will not look back and laugh at. We’ve made many of them, but it’s made us so much better.

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

BMY: Standing out is in our DNA. Our entire brand embraces the qualities that make you stand out. When we started there was no such thing as peanut butter whiskey on the market. No one thought there was a market for it, especially not at a premium price. Steven and I did not have the typical background in the liquor industry and the list goes on of the reasons why Skrewball shouldn’t have worked. We owned all of that — creating a brand that celebrates us going out on a limb. Now, there are dozens of companies trying to get a piece of the category we created. We continue to connect with our customers because we developed an amazing product with a brand they can relate to and a real story and people to connect with.

Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?

SY: We’ve been working on bringing Skrewball international. As we expand our footprint, we hope to be able to expand our charitable efforts as well.

What advice would you give to other CEOs or founders to help their employees to thrive?

BMY: Help build their resume. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but we believe this keeps people engaged and growing in their current position. We want people to stay because they are learning and growing with us, not because we’ve pigeonholed them into one task. When they feel like they are making a meaningful contribution, it’s a win for everyone.

How do you define “Leadership”?

Both: Leadership comes from people wanting to join you — not a title or force.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

BMY: We have always said that meeting each other so young has allowed us to focus on building something greater. We started dating in high school, so we did not have to worry about dating and all the drama and could focus on school and work. But, more importantly, we’ve constantly had someone beside us to ground us and tell it to each other straight.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

SY: A huge part of our inspiration was to enable us to give on a bigger scale. When we owned bars and restaurants, it was always important to us to donate and work with local organizations to give back. When the shutdowns began at the beginning of the pandemic, we naturally donated everything we could to helping the bar and restaurant community. For us, it we did not just want to write a check. We used connections to get a hold of much needed supplies to give to those in need and went on the road donating to various organizations and trying to bring back a sense of community. We look forward to expanding these opportunities as we grow the brand.

What are the “5 Things You Need To Thrive As A Couple”? Please share a story or example for each.

SY: Find ways to enjoy each other.

Running a business can be all encompassing, especially when you live with your business partner. We try to keep a pulse on that and when we’ve had a particularly bad day or week, we set up as much time as we can spare — even if that’s a few minutes or an hour — to focus on something positive in our lives. Sometimes that just means dinner with the family where we aren’t allowed to discuss business.

SY: Letting each other shine.

Each of you are both the star and the supporting actor — just not at the same time. We have a very complimentary skill set and fully leveraging that has been the key to our success. As we grew the business, we saw which areas each other excelled at and allowed that person to lead that department. For example, Brittany had a natural handle on the marketing, while I gravitated towards sales. We both challenge each other to be better in our respective areas, but ultimately let the decision rest with the leader of that area.

BMY: Be flexible.

We have divvied up tasks to keep everything running, but sometimes plans change and you need to take double duty. I usually get our girls ready in the morning, but sometimes there’s an early morning conference call and Steven (or Grandma) need to step in to fill the gap. We try to keep an open mind and not tally these as long as on a whole everyone’s contributing.

SY: A Great Support System.

Just like our business, going it alone will only take us so far. We need a support network that includes helpful family, friends and outside help to keep our house running smoothly. We typically travel a lot, which would normally mean a lot of time away from our young girls. We are so fortunate that Grandma is willing to travel with us to allow our girls to join us on the road so that we always have dinner together as a family.

BMY: Respecting each other’s time alone.

With the pandemic, everyone is seeing that there is such a thing as too much time together. It is so important to have time to do something for just yourself. In the evenings, we take turns giving the girls a bath while the other has time to reset.

You are people of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

BMY: Finding real joy and happiness through embracing yourself — “flaws” and all. We are lucky to live in a time where we recognize the importance of accepting others and embracing their differences, but real happiness and change will come when we learn to truly embrace our own perceived failures and shortcomings. This is what I had in mind when I came up with the Skrewball brand. It’s about having fun and being your real self — the one that attracts real friends and makes us live life to the fullest. In fact, when I met Steven, I saw the epitome of someone owning one’s Skrewball qualities and saw how attractive and refreshing it can be. It was only fitting to capture that in the brand.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

BMY: “Your real friends are the ones running in to help you as everyone else is leaving the room.” We have seen the best and the worst in people as we have grown this business. Everyone has your back when things are good, but when things take a turn you find out who really had your back the whole time. While there are ups, there have been many headaches, setbacks and challenges along the way that have shown us other sides of people.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

BMY: We would love to meet with Bill and Melinda Gates to thank them for all the work they have done to eradicate polio. Having seen firsthand the impact that polio can have (with Steven having caught it as a young child) we would not want any other families to have to suffer for a from a preventable disease.

How can our readers follow your work online?

SY: Please check out skrewballwhiskey.com or follow us @skrewballwhiskey on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok.


Lessons From A Thriving Power Couple, With Brittany Merrill-Yeng and Steven Yeng of Skrewball… was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Danielle Gronich of CLEARSTEM Skincare: 5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before Became A CEO

Your business partner is your new spouse. My life is completely intertwined with my business partner. Luckily that has worked beautifully for us, but that is not always the case. Imagine being in a marriage of sorts with your partner, because legally, you kind of are. That relationship needs just as much work and open communication as any other.

As part of my series about the leadership lessons of accomplished business leaders, I had the pleasure of interviewing Danielle Gronich.

Danielle Gronich,The Acne Guru™, is the formulator and CEO of CLEARSTEM Skincare, a breakthrough clinical skincare line whose formulas are all anti-acne and anti-aging at the same time. Danielle studied cellular biology and genetics throughout her education and has had a passion for solving acne as she consistently struggled with her own skin for over 10 years, despite going through three rounds of accutane and multiple laser treatments. She took a leap of faith and decided to leave the corporate world, dove into clinical research, and went back to school to find the answers for herself, earning her license as a clinical esthetician and launching San Diego Acne Clinic in La Jolla, California. After years of evaluating the skincare market she saw that acne products cause premature aging while anti-aging products caused acne. As an expert formulator she created a line that targets both concerns simultaneously and with zero toxins.

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

After years of struggling with acne and seeing more than 10 dermatologists, I finally got fed up with the traditional western ways of treating acne. The only real solutions offered were antibiotics, hormones modifiers, and Accutane, which is incredibly toxic. I knew there was more to the biology of acne that wasn’t being discussed, so I set out to figure it out! I left the corporate consulting world and opened San Diego Acne Clinic after doing field research and working with other skin professionals. I was able to identify all of my triggers and create a playbook to evaluate and show others their triggers (sometimes up to 10 at once!). The clinic grew rapidly, and shortly thereafter I started doing product development with a reputable lab. I made an anti-acne stem cell serum and partnered with a clinic patient to create a skincare line (CLEARSTEM Skincare). Because many people with acne don’t want toxic products that age them faster, we created a line where the formulas are simultaneously anti-acne and anti-aging! It has been a complete breakthrough in the industry and we are strong educators healing acne holistically when prescriptions have failed. The need to help others avoid what we went through is what motivated my partner and me!

Can you tell us a story about the hard times that you faced when you first started your journey?

The hardest part was deciding where and how to spend my time. I was at capacity at one point seeing 10 patients a day, and I just didn’t have the help or bandwidth to maintain my personal life the way I used to. I worked on Saturdays and until 9:30pm most nights, and trying to hire was an extremely difficult learning curve that created even more work and stress when it didn’t go well. Hiring was for sure the biggest challenge, but thankfully I have that dialed in now!

Where did you get the drive to continue even though things were so hard?

Creating major change for people always kept me going, I love it so much. I struggled for years because of my skin, so I am continually motivated when I am able to help a stressed out bride before her wedding, help pinpoint a major internal issue for someone and send them to the right person, or have someone hug me with tears of joy because they finally have their mental health back. I get to be a unique aid to people at a very vulnerable time for them, and I take that responsibility extremely seriously. Seeing the results come in after a couple weeks and knowing that I am helping people with their overall health in a holistic way that they didn’t have before is what has kept the fire going even when I was dead tired. Also, not reporting to a boss was the sweetest thing and its own motivator.

So, how are things going today? How did grit and resilience lead to your eventual success?

Things are going fantastic now! COVID aside, both businesses are thriving and CLEARSTEM is growing leaps and bounds! My partner and I work so well together and we have grit like no other. We have had major learning curves, gotten through them as a team, and we always show up stronger and more focused each week.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

The funniest mistake in CLEARSTEM’s early days was when 2,500 bottles arrived from overseas with pink metallic labels. Our labels were white and blue. We had no way to reverse this and the company had an 8 week lead time, so we just had to roll with it, and, luckily, people went nuts over it!!! They loved it and still ask for it sometimes!

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

We stand out because everyone who works with us started as a patient at San Diego Acne Clinic. We have all lived the struggle and have overcome the depressing side of acne to turn it into an empowerment anchor!

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?

Eat right, eliminate toxic relationships immediately, be unapologetic with your boundaries, have boundaries, stay focused on your personal emotional growth and make time for nature. I walk nearly every morning and it grounds me before things get intense at work.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

I am grateful to my ex-boyfriend who was also an entrepreneur. He helped me think bigger and take notice of my limiting beliefs and always stayed supportive when I needed to work late or had a stressful event. He taught me that business can be described as moving from problem to problem with no loss of enthusiasm and I remember that attitude to this day!

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

We are saving people’s mental health by helping them feel confident in their skin again!

What are your “5 things I wish someone told me before I started leading my company” and why. Please share a story or example for each.

  1. Immediately get out of any contract or relationship that isn’t in your favor. We got ripped off by a website company and shipping company that took almost all our profit. We stayed with them WAY too long and should have cut ties months sooner.
  2. You will be ridiculously judged. The perks of being a CEO come with major pressure and constant self-scrutiny. Before you can feel good about your leadership, you’ll go through rollercoasters of emotion wondering if you’re doing things right.
  3. Your business partner is your new spouse. My life is completely intertwined with my business partner. Luckily that has worked beautifully for us, but that is not always the case. Imagine being in a marriage of sorts with your partner, because legally, you kind of are. That relationship needs just as much work and open communication as any other.
  4. Make sure you have mentors that intimidate you. I like being thrown into the mix with the big companies. You learn a ton from the leaders who have built empires. Being shy about where you are is normal, but it also ignites a fire and shows you what the next level will look like.
  5. Make time to travel. This is super important to plan out. Some owners rarely let themselves take a break and I know I function better when I get to take a couple weeks off, explore other countries and completely change the setting. Time far away makes you come back with so much renewed energy and keeps the passion alive.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

A movement idea is National No-Makeup Day! Celebrities and models included. It would inspire everyone and connect us all in such a powerful way!

How can our readers follow you on social media?

You can follow my personal Instagram account @danielle.the.acne.guru and also @clearstemskincare and @sandiegoacneclinic.

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Danielle Gronich of CLEARSTEM Skincare: 5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before Became A CEO was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Female Disruptors: Amanda Rolat of Bramble On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

Andy’s second bit of advice is to stop comparing Bramble to other companies. I have a habit of looking at where other companies are — how many stores they’re in, how many followers they have on Instagram, how much money they’ve raised. Andy hears me do this and immediately tells me to stop and just focus on getting people to love Bramble. If people love your product, the rest will follow. Not the other way around!

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Amanda Rolat.

Amanda Rolat is the Founder and CEO of Bramble, the first and only pet food company that serves dogs a fresh, whole food plant-based diet developed by board-certified veterinary nutritionists. When her search for high quality, sustainable, and ethical options for her two rescue dogs left her dissatisfied, she was compelled to hire a board-certified veterinary nutritionist to develop something she could trust. This early creation in her kitchen ultimately fueled the development of her own direct-to-consumer brand. In 2020, Bramble was 1 of the 8 companies, out of more than 450 applications, accepted into the esteemed Food-X accelerator. Before starting Bramble, Amanda practiced law in New York City for a decade.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

My current career path as a founder grew organically out of my interests and personal pursuits. Ever since I was a child, I have always deeply empathized with and loved animals. But I always viewed animal rescue and welfare as a hobby as I pursued other things professionally.

I knew I wanted a career that I deemed impactful, which ultimately led me to work in wrongful convictions as an attorney. Throughout my time as an attorney, I was becoming more involved with animal rescue work and was moved by the injustices I saw playing out in my career to my clients, as well as in my personal work with animals.

In addition to animal welfare, I grew to be very passionate about health and wellness — specifically, the connection between diet and degenerative diseases. The more I learned, the more I understood that the food we eat is making us sick; and, the food we eat can also operate as medicine. This led me to adopt a more plant-based lifestyle, which was so much less restrictive and more enjoyable than I ever imagined. I think people look at “healthy” eaters as deprived, but I find that people who are mindful about what they eat have a real passion for food and cooking. These hobbies and interests collided when my dog, Harry, got cancer, and I started to apply all of the knowledge and concerns about my own diet to my dogs. I could never have imagined turning what I was cooking for my dogs into a business, but I just started putting the pieces together and figuring it out.

My parents were both immigrants; my father is from Poland, and my mother is from England. They placed a lot of emphasis on education and provided me with a lot of opportunities. However, as immigrants, they were not opening doors for me and making introductions because they didn’t have that. So I learned from an early age how to go after what I wanted on my own and make it happen. That served me very well during my first job after college as an assistant in the movie business: whatever your boss wants or needs, you figure it out and deliver. I applied this same grit to my work as an attorney, and now to Bramble.

Can you tell our readers what it is about the work you’re doing that’s disruptive?

We’re giving pet parents the first opportunity to feed their fur children in the healthiest way, through a whole-food, plant-based diet. We’ve worked with expert animal nutritionists and board-certified veterinary nutritionists to ensure our recipes are packed with protein and yummy superfoods that dogs go crazy for. We’re making it convenient and delicious for dogs to eat in a way that’s healthier and also better for the environment and other animals.

The bulk of the commercial pet food industry consists of dry, highly processed kibble. Like all processed food, it’s loaded with chemicals and preservatives. Even “premium” kibble can contain unbelievably low-quality meat, which can contain what is known as the “4 D’s:” dead, dying, diseased, and disabled animals.

In much the same way we have become savvier and more thoughtful in our own diets, we need to do this with respect to our pets’ diets by reading ingredient labels and questioning slick marketing. Words like “holistic” and “human-grade” don’t carry any meaning, and they often mask inferior ingredients.

We’re taking what we know from our own diets — that we thrive on non-processed food, full of high-quality ingredients from plant rich sources — and applying that to our pets.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I don’t know how funny it is, but when I first decided to make homemade plant-based dog food, I looked online for recipes. My dogs loved being fed real food, but one of my dogs lost a lot of weight fast, likely due to the higher fiber content. I quickly realized that I needed to hire a board-certified veterinary nutritionist to do this properly. It made me understand the importance of a carefully and expertly formulated diet for pets that balances all of the specific nutrients needed to live healthily. It’s very well-intended to prepare homemade meals for your dogs, but I learned firsthand why veterinary nutritionists caution against it and favor commercial pet food.

One of my favorite moments, which actually happens quite often, is how many Bramble customers have told me that they also tasted the food! It’s not a mistake, but I love how people are curious about what their dogs are eating!

We all need a little help along the journey. Who have been some of your mentors? Can you share a story about how they made an impact?

I have had some incredible mentors, and I realize that the best professional mentors are also the greatest personal ones. My former boss, Claudia, who hired me to work for her in wrongful convictions, has had one of the most significant impacts on my life. I learned so much from watching her in all aspects of her life, not just as my boss and colleague, but also as a mother, wife, friend, professional, and writer. She is so thoughtful and consistent in her morals and beliefs in all these areas. Claudia had confidence in herself and her judgment, so she was able to mentor people and allow them to be themselves without making it about her or a reflection of her. When I think about what kind of environment I’d like to create for my employees and what type of boss and person I try to be, I think of Claudia.

Because I believe mentors are so important, one of the very first things I did when I hatched the idea for Bramble was seek out great mentors. In fact, I cold-emailed Andy Levitt, the founder and CEO of Purple Carrot, to tell him what I was attempting to do, and asked for his advice. I couldn’t believe that he emailed me back, and ever since then, he has been so generous with his time and has become one of my biggest champions. I approached Ethan Brown, the founder and CEO of Beyond Meat, and similarly told him my plans for Bramble. The fact that both Andy and Ethan have helped me and mentored me speaks volumes about what incredible people they both are and how committed they are to the mission of changing our food system for the greater good of health, the environment, and animal welfare.

In today’s parlance, being disruptive is usually a positive adjective. But is disrupting always good? When do we say the converse, that a system or structure has ‘withstood the test of time’? Can you articulate to our readers when disrupting an industry is positive, and when disrupting an industry is ‘not so positive’? Can you share some examples of what you mean?

Testing norms, being thought-provoking, and shedding truth and light onto something is positive. But it has to be grounded in honesty and genuine concern for well-being.

I think Bramble is a great example. Animal agriculture is a pretty devastating industry. It operates largely in secrecy, punishing whistleblowers via Ag-Gag laws. It involves systemic abuse of both people and animals and wreaks havoc on both local communities and the environment at large. And the end product, factory-farmed meat, is making people — and pets — unhealthy. The pet food industry is responsible for up to 35% of the meat that is consumed in this country; yet, the pet food industry is often left out of the conversation that we have to reduce our overconsumption of animal products for the sake of health, the planet, and animal welfare.

We are looking to change that by offering a super healthy, savory alternative that dogs love. We seek to educate consumers on the dangers associated with commercial pet food, and some of the falsehoods underlying clever marketing. And our mission is grounded in truth and compassion.

Being disruptive just for the sake of grabbing attention or making money, in my mind, is not productive. Especially because it can be difficult to tease out intentions early on, these kinds of disruptors can gain a lot of traction and following, and ultimately not for the overall good.

Can you share 3 of the best words of advice you’ve gotten along your journey? Please give a story or example for each.

Andy Levitt has given me two of the best pieces of advice I’ve received thus far. First, he tells me to focus on getting 20 people to love your product. When raising money, you’ll be asked about additional product lines, scaling into multiple channels, search engine optimization, among many other things. It’s important to think these things through early on, but they can also distract from the most important thing: make your product outstanding and get consumers to love your product; then get those consumers to tell their friends and so on.

Andy’s second bit of advice is to stop comparing Bramble to other companies. I have a habit of looking at where other companies are — how many stores they’re in, how many followers they have on Instagram, how much money they’ve raised. Andy hears me do this and immediately tells me to stop and just focus on getting people to love Bramble. If people love your product, the rest will follow. Not the other way around!

Last, hire people better than you and different from you. Every kind of diversity — in race, gender, personality, thinking — drives a company’s success.

We are sure you aren’t done. How are you going to shake things up next?

It’s just beginning! We are launching our first two fresh dog food recipes, followed by our treats and supplements. I can’t wait for more dogs to try Bramble and show their parents how much they love it!

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

I think that the bar is still set higher for women to have to prove themselves and their product. We have to show a bit more to get people to believe in us. It shouldn’t be the case, but it is.

On the other hand, I see a real camaraderie among female founders that I find so inspiring, and I think it outweighs the challenges I’ve experienced as a woman thus far.

Do you have a book/podcast/talk that’s had a deep impact on your thinking? Can you share a story with us?

There’s a Masters of Scale episode, the Ten Commandments of Startup Success, that is so full of incredible advice and stories from founders such as Facebook’s Mark Zuckerberg and Airbnb’s Brian Chesky. I have listened to it so many times. Brian Chesky tells a great story about the early days of Airbnb when he would personally show up to rented apartments to get to know his customers. I think startups can sometimes want to make themselves look bigger than they are in the early days. But in the early days, you can access your customer and get to know what they want in a way that you won’t be able to scale. His story about showing up to talk to his customers, asking about their Airbnb experiences, made me realize how founders should use the early days to build a better product and company going forward.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

The movement that I am just a small part of is animal liberation. People are so disconnected from the way we treat and view animals, and the consequences are so far-reaching.

I don’t know any other issue that touches on all of the following:

Health — disease prevention and treatment, which implicates healthcare costs and over-reliance on antibiotics and pharmaceuticals;

Environment — everything from deforestation to climate change; and

Animal welfare — the horrific pain and suffering inflicted upon sentient farm animals.

People are becoming more and more concerned about these issues individually, yet still, resist acknowledging that the solution runs across their plates. Eating less meat could yield strikingly positive effects on all these fronts.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

Right where you are in this moment is where you are supposed to be. I’m not one to get complacent, and I often question decisions and choices I have made, but I always come back to this. It reminds me that, despite the imperfections or hard times, where you are is the product of choices and thoughts and mistakes and achievements, and you really are always right where you are meant to be.

How can our readers follow you online?

On twitter and instagram: @amandarolat and @bramblepets

https://bramblepets.com/

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Female Disruptors: Amanda Rolat of Bramble On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Women Of The C-Suite: Cory Jo Vasquez of Realty ONE Group On The Five Things You Need To Succeed…

Women Of The C-Suite: Cory Jo Vasquez of Realty ONE Group On The Five Things You Need To Succeed As A Senior Executive

I would remind other women leaders that you are valuable. You have experience, great ideas and so much to offer that no one else can. Don’t fear making mistakes and pass your success on.

Mentors, career coaches, life coaches, books, friends, workout buddies, whatever it is — you need a healthy support system. Make sure you surround yourself with people who lift you up so can lift up others.

As a part of our series about strong women leaders, we had the pleasure of interviewing Cory Vasquez.

Cory Vasquez is a 23-year communication professional whose experience spans across non-profit fundraising, media relations, digital marketing, crisis communication, social media and beyond. She’s a national speaker and published author, and has won a number of awards for integrated public relations and marketing campaigns.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”? What led you to this particular career path?

I began pursuing my undergraduate degree at the University of Colorado as a Political Science major, believing I had an ambitious political career ahead of me. But, during a long night studying in the library I had a gut check. I realized I had no chance of passing the Bar exam — I’m a fabulous essay writer but a miserable test-taker — and that I cared incredibly (and still do, to a fault) what people think of me. That a politician does not make. Eventually, I graduated with a double major in Political Science and Journalism and started a career that I have loved and cherished in the always-changing world of communications.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you joined Realty ONE?

See below for the same answer!

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

I had been with Realty ONE Group for only a year when our CEO and Founder, Kuba Jewgieniew, and President, Vinnie Tracey, called me in to a meeting unexpectedly. Kuba asked me if I wanted to be an executive of the company, at which point I launched into a long diatribe about my professional goals and the steps I was taking to one day join the C-Suite.

I mistook their question as hypothetical but, I soon realized — after a long, awkward pause — that they meant now. Like now, I would become an executive. They were promoting me to Chief Marketing Officer after only a year with the company.

I learned two important lessons that day. One — it won’t take long for the right people to recognize your potential and to see your worth. And two — I still don’t have enough faith in myself. I have a lot of work to do to believe in myself as much as others do.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

My family and my faith are the reason I’m able to do what I do every day. I would not be here without them. But beyond that and an amazing group of friends, I’ve made it a point to have spirited, insightful mentors who coach and guide me along the way.

One of those mentors is a successful entrepreneur, a devoted family man and a spiritual leader. But Kerron Stokes is also what I would call a fire-starter. I’ve seen him repeatedly ignite flames in people that become all-out brush fires. He’s certainly done that for me.

He’s taught me that I have certain God-given talents that I need to share with the world, and that I have no excuse to not use them. Because of him, I know that I have an obligation to explore those paths that I’m passionate about and that will help me impact others.

Kerron and other mentors, like Kathy Baker, who I’m privileged to work with at Realty ONE Group, have immeasurably influenced my career and my life. And because of them, I will continue to plead with others to seek out their own mentors.

In my work, I often talk about how to release and relieve stress. As a busy leader, what do you do to prepare your mind and body before a stressful or high stakes meeting, talk, or decision? Can you share a story or some examples?

One of the keys for me in learning how to deal with stress has been to accept it. It sounds simple, but it’s been a game-changer for me. I used to absolutely dread the onslaught of stress, and I know now that looking for ways to avoid it and waiting for it to hit probably only made it worse.

Now, I tell myself daily that I will encounter stress, while at the same time, reminding myself that I can manage it. Stress, in the form of challenges and change, actually helps us grow. It’s a simple affirmation, but it’s made all the difference for me.

Also, I believe in the Laws of Attraction and that we create our own reality. So, I spend a lot of time focusing on the world I create. Some of my favorite authors, Jen Sincero, Joseph Murphy, and Joyce Meyer, will help you build the world around you too if you believe in it and work at it.

As you know, the United States is currently facing a very important self-reckoning about race, diversity, equality and inclusion. This may be obvious to you, but it will be helpful to spell this out. Can you articulate to our readers a few reasons why it is so important for a business or organization to have a diverse executive team?

U.S. companies and organizations serve a beautifully diverse nation, and I believe, whole-heartedly, that we can’t do that without representing and promoting that same diversity from the inside out.

For example, Realty ONE Group recruits thousands (soon to be bazillions) of real estate professionals in markets everywhere, and we seek to represent them in everything we do, just as they seek to represent their very diverse buyers and sellers. But we can’t do that if we don’t fully represent them in our messaging, branding and really, in our purpose and beliefs.

It’s my job to continue to encourage this through our company and brand, and I take that responsibility very seriously. It’s a challenge because the only minority population I represent is women in business. So again, I can’t possibly assume how others feel and what they want to see from our brand. I’ve spent a lot of this past year just listening, and I encourage others to do the same.

I believe the self-reckoning we’ve had to do this year was a reminder that we can’t passively tackle issues of diversity, equality, race, and inclusion. It needs to be an active, always-on mentality. We have a lot of work to do.

As a business leader, can you please share a few steps we must take to truly create an inclusive, representative, and equitable society? Kindly share a story or example for each.

One of the theories I’ve heard and whole-heartedly subscribe to is, “we can’t think we know.” We can’t think we know how it feels to be someone of a different race, sexual preference, religious ideology, etc. It’s that assumption that blinds us to their realities.

So, step number one for me is to talk less, listen more. One of the most powerful things I’ve heard and will continue to share is that we need to ask to hear from others; ask them to share their experiences and their perspective.

For example, when George Floyd was killed in Minneapolis, the outstanding Broker/Owner of our Andover, MN, Realty ONE Group office didn’t rush to make a statement or even take action. He listened. He simply listened as his agents came to him with their thoughts and concerns. He created coffee meetings, even virtual, to allow all of his agents to have a voice. He and his wife have since invited them to take action together, creating a foundation called ONE Voice, meant to help close the racial homeownership gap. I couldn’t be prouder of what they’ve done and of their ongoing commitment to change.

(A recent REALTOR® Magazine article on Realty ONE Group Choice.)

And that, is step two — to take action. But it can be the most difficult. Knowing how to make real change — change that can even save lives — is daunting. But we have to try.

Ok, thank you for that. Let’s now jump to the primary focus of our interview. Most of our readers — in fact, most people — think they have a pretty good idea of what a CEO or executive does. But in just a few words can you explain what an executive does that is different from the responsibilities of the other leaders?

An executive of a company has to be more than just a doer, implementer, executer. An executive has to be the influencer, innovator, motivator, riser-upper, inventor, level-setter, budgeter, sometimes therapist, never a friend (ahh shucks!) and more.

One of my beloved teammates recently sent me a graphic that you can find all over the internet. It has two pie graphs. The first pie graph is completely filled in with grey and is titled “What people think leadership is.” The one, full piece is ‘telling people what to do.’ Juxtaposed, is the second pie graph which is cut in varying pieces of all different colors and is titled ‘What leadership really is.” The legend of colors shows the various attributes as integrity, cast a vision, use of influence, use of power, praise your team, self-awareness, listen first and speak last, and empathy.

I’ll be vulnerable and tell you that leadership is scary, and I’m not convinced I’ve got it right. But if I can do all these things on this pie chart, I hope I can affect people positively and permanently while helping this company and all of our beautiful, talented real estate professionals succeed. What an accomplishment that would be!

What are the “myths” that you would like to dispel about being an executive. Can you explain what you mean?

I think one of the biggest myths about being an executive is that it’s all first-class flying and fine dining. I’m sure in some circumstances it is, but I think for most of us, it’s a lot of hard work, late hours, and stress. I can tell you this, I’ve been in a VIP hotel suite maybe once or twice, and was way too tired to enjoy it.

Another myth about being an executive is that we’re all done learning. I’ve actually found a tremendous amount of joy in getting older. I never thought I’d say that, but I have. As we get older, we get wiser and for me that’s led to a lot more peace in who I am and what I’m doing. I know more and more every day that a higher power is in control and that I have survived rough waters and can do so in the future.

In fact, the older I get, the more I know how much more I have (get) to know and learn.

I see myself helping teammates through challenges that don’t feel that difficult to me. Then I imagine my grandma, at 97, laughing at the things I think are challenging and scary. It actually makes me excited about getting older as it’s a chance to learn and do more and be even more at peace.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by women executives that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

This may sound crazy, but it still frustrates me to board a plane and see the entire first class filled with middle-aged businessmen. I mean look, I know they’ve earned their place there- if first class is still a seat to be coveted — but I’ll celebrate the day when I get on a flight where first class is even half filled with gritty, ambitious, slightly salty women professionals.

I’m grateful for a number of women I know personally, as well those with a prominent, public platform who have put splinters in the glass ceiling. But we still have some work to do.

First, while I think women are slowly finding their seat at the table, it’s still difficult for us to be heard when we’re there. We need to be strong, be brave and to continue to speak up. Some of us are born ready to do this and others, like me, have to learn. I have a career coach who is teaching me actual strategies so that I can be a more assertive and meaningful part of the conversations. By the way, my friends, it’s not a weakness to have a career coach. I think it’s a weakness to not seek out others who can make you better.

Second, we have to ask for what we know we deserve. You know what I’m talking about. It’s money. The right pay for the job. I’ve read so many articles and so many chapters in books that explain how women make less because we don’t ask for it.

Third, we need to not accept being treated any less than we deserve. I actually had a salesman visit last year who did not want to shake my hand. Cleary he was hoping that he would be meeting with a male executive “who’s in charge of decision-making.” I spent a brief 15 minutes with him, thanked him for his time, ushered him out, and will not be doing business with him.

What is the most striking difference between your actual job and how you thought the job would be?

I devote an exceptional amount of time to encouraging, mentoring and sometimes even counseling members of my team and organization mostly because I love them and want them to succeed. (PS — it’s also not a weakness to love your team members and people who work for you). But also, I do this because I sincerely believe if they feel needed and appreciated, they’ll give the very best of themselves and be the kind of employees, and people, I know they can be. While it is something I absolutely take the most pride and joy in doing, it is one of the most challenging parts of my job and that is building up my team and others.

Beyond this, being an executive is a lot more challenging than I imagined it would be. Always looking at the bigger, broader picture, knowing that most of your decisions matter and that the success of your department and the company begin and end with you, and knowing that you can and probably should make mistakes is a boatload of pressure. Luckily, like I said, age and wisdom has afforded me a sort of peace about it. Knowing that unless you actually have a person on an operating table, your decisions are most likely not life or death.

Certainly, not everyone is cut out to be an executive. In your opinion, which specific traits increase the likelihood that a person will be a successful executive and what type of person should avoid aspiring to be an executive? Can you explain what you mean?

I’d really hate to think that someone doesn’t have it in them to be an executive. Maybe it’s naïve, but I feel like people can do just about anything if they really want to.

I do think some of the characteristics of an executive are, as mentioned before, to be a constant learner, empathetic, decisive, innovative, and impassioned among others. But, just like other members of the team, I think a diverse team of Executives can really move a company forward. Like our Realty ONE Group Executives, who bring their own, individual flavor of experience, wisdom, and leadership to the table. We each contribute in our own meaningful way and complement each other so well. I’m so proud to be a part of this awesome team.

What advice would you give to other women leaders to help their team to thrive?

I would remind other women leaders that you are valuable. You have experience, great ideas and so much to offer that no one else can. Don’t fear making mistakes and pass your success on.

Mentors, career coaches, life coaches, books, friends, workout buddies, whatever it is — you need a healthy support system. Make sure you surround yourself with people who lift you up so can lift up others.

How have you used your success to make the world a better place?

I once worked as a Development Director at an animal shelter and became a foster for dogs needing a home. At one point, a lovely woman and her husband from Greely, Colorado, adopt a beautiful black chow I was fostering. Years later, she wrote me and said that not only was the dog thriving in her new home, but that the woman had become an active volunteer at the local shelter. In fact, she began driving the spay and neuter van, recruiting more fosters and volunteers and served on the shelter’s board of directors. My one act of fostering that dog and connecting with her new owner somehow exponentially, positively impacted so many others — dogs and people!

So, while I’d love to be helping so many on a much bigger scale, saving the world doing something incredible, I’m hopeful that there are things I’m doing now, and will do, that will make an impact.

What are your “5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Started” and why? (Please share a story or example for each.)

№1 — Mistakes are a must. You literally have to make mistakes to learn and grow. If not, we’re stagnant. I was a figure skater for nearly twenty years and realized that I spent my life training to get a perfect score. And while that works for the sport, that doesn’t work in life.

№2 — By letting go, we’re empowering others. I’m both a people-pleaser and a lifelong codependent, which I learned, only years ago, is not serving myself or others. In fact, I’m usually doing more harm than good. I’m still working on shedding these qualities, but I hope to enlighten others like me in the process.

№3 — Confidence looks different on different people. I spent so much of my young professional career trying to mimic the characteristics and mannerisms of other professionals who I thought embodied confidence. Learning that confidence looks different on different people has literally changed my life. I’ve cried at work. I’m a hugger (of course not now, during the pandemic). And, I have no problem admitting when I’m wrong (and will do it sometimes even when I’m not). Now I know clearly that confidence comes from within and that none of these things that I do or even say determine my level of confidence.

№4 — Getting older is pretty freaking cool. It really is. Normally we just think of our physical and mental decline when we think about getting old. I still believe a lot of that is within our control. But now I know that getting old means we’ve had more adventures, made more beautiful memories, learned more, and had more time to grow and to be at peace with who we are.

№5 — Kindness matters — We’ve actually always been told that, but it’s something I wish we could all live every day. And while it’s also cliché, no act of kindness is too small. Period.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good for the greatest number of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.

See, even then, I shudder. I don’t consider myself a person of great influence and yet, I do think we all have the power to influence and do something monumental.

Because we all have passions and causes near and dear to our heart, if I could contribute to the greater good, it would be uniting people with shelter pets. I’d love to find a way to end pet overpopulation, not only in the US but across the globe. Obviously, we’d save animal lives but also, I’ve seen so many people become better human beings with fuller, richer lives because of their pets.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

We are very blessed that some very prominent names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them

Brian Buffini is one of the preeminent coaches in real estate, but his words truly touch my soul. I’ve watched him speak in large auditoriums before and I’ve literally been the last one sitting, softly crying. I’ve read his books and listen to his podcast because he literally just speaks to me. My friends tease me that I may be a bit of a stalker but when you find someone that moves you, you follow.

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We greatly appreciate the time you spent on this.


Women Of The C-Suite: Cory Jo Vasquez of Realty ONE Group On The Five Things You Need To Succeed… was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Roula Selinas: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness

Be in the here and now. Most of us tend to live in the past, present in our problems or the future. It’s really important to become aware of your thoughts and observe them for what they are. Be mindful, accept them and stop resisting them. When we learn to observe them from a distance, we learn to detach. We can get back to focusing on the here and now the present- what we are doing.

As a part of my series about the “5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Roula Selinas.

Roula Selinas is an author, inspirational speaker and life coach. Roula’s tenacity is evident in the huge adversity she has faced with two cancers, facing complications, setbacks physical, mental and emotional challenges. What could have easily broken her made her stronger. Having triumphed in the face of adversities Roula inspires and empowers with techniques to overcome self-limiting beliefs and challenges helping you overcome any crisis and transform your life to thrive again.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the backstory about what brought you to your specific career path?

After I got leukemia in 2007 I wanted to write a book to help people overcome crises, and their darkest days to have hope that things do get better if we are committed, resilient, persistent and determined. We can thrive again. Stronger, You Can Overcome and Bounce Back from Adversity is a 7 step guide to heal from within was published in 2015. I spent years training to become a speaker and had to overcome my fear of public speaking. Since then my aim is to help others, inspire and empower them to have self-belief and learn tools and resilience techniques to reach their goals. If I can do it so can they. Mental health, depression, anxiety and substance abuse are at all time highs. We can learn ways to become unstuck and move forward. It took me many years to learn these techniques and I am a real-life experience teacher with a diploma in life skills counselling. I know the dark days, I know what it’s like to be physically weak and have to deal with chronic fatigue and two cancers, constant setbacks, complications with the bone marrow transplant, viruses, infections, almost going blind having to have four eye operations, damage to my kidney, a near-death from pneumonia, a mini-stroke and a second cancer ten years post-transplant due to the radiation to name just a few. The list is exhaustive and I have built resilience. I believe resilience is a skill that needs to be learnt it’s not something we are born with. It’s a skill we can cultivate and build just like a muscle. The life skills are essential to cope with life and any crisis and be able to thrive again. I am living proof they work. I have spoken at Herstory Women’s Global Empowerment conference, Ignite Brisbane, podcasts, radio, webinars and other platforms. I have just released my second book ‘The Perfect Storm’ it’s a book of hope part of an anthology for the Herstory Women’s Empowerment Conference.

None of us can achieve success without some help along the way. Was there a particular person who you feel gave you the most help or encouragement to be who you are today? Can you share a story about that?

My parents are my rocks they were there for me during my hardest times, their emotional support helped me. I read a lot and got inspiration from many authors. Leon Nacson from Balboa Press was very helpful in publishing my first book. Rostrum GC Club 27 were very encouraging and offered a lot of support when I started public speaking and so did Sam Cawthorn from Speakers Institute.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

I had a girl come up to me once after I had spoken at an event and she asked me if it was really true did I go through all of the things I said as she couldn’t believe it as I looked so healthy. I started laughing and said ‘Why would I make that up, I wish it wasn’t true’ and she said I was so inspiring and it had given her hope again.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

I never had a book launch I was going through a very traumatic and difficult time as I was separating from my husband and moved house three times. It would have been better to have a book launch to promote the book but I had too many things going on.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

My parents are my rocks they were there for me during my hardest times. I read a lot and got inspiration from many authors. Leon Nacson from Balboa Press was very helpful in publishing my first book. Rostrum GC Club 27 were very encouraging and offered a lot of support when I started public speaking and so did Sam Cawthorn from Speakers Institute.

What advice would you suggest to your colleagues in your industry to thrive and avoid burnout?

I had to learn to press the stop button, because I am a very goal orientated, driven and motivated person. Learn to take time out, rest if you’re too tired or exhausted. Remember there is always tomorrow. I have chronic fatigue but it’s better than it was after the cancer it took a long time for that to get better. Take some down time and listen to your body as clues whether you’re pushing yourself too hard.

What advice would you give to other leaders about how to create a fantastic work culture?

Be encouraging and if you want to get the best out of people, be thankful and appreciative for everything they do for you or your company. Praise and show your appreciation instead of constantly picking the faults. Treat others the way you want to be treated. In counselling the client is the expert, recognise the divinity and strengths of those around you.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. Mental health is often looked at in binary terms; those who are healthy and those who have mental illness. The truth, however, is that mental wellness is a huge spectrum. Even those who are “mentally healthy” can still improve their mental wellness. From your experience or research, what are five steps that each of us can take to improve or optimize our mental wellness. Can you please share a story or example for each.

  1. Be in the here and now. Most of us tend to live in the past, present in our problems or the future. It’s really important to become aware of your thoughts and observe them for what they are. Be mindful, accept them and stop resisting them. When we learn to observe them from a distance, we learn to detach. We can get back to focusing on the here and now the present- what we are doing.
  2. Let things go — don’t sweat the small stuff it’s not worth it. I have learnt not to waste my time on trivial petty things and waste my energy on them. Life is too short.
  3. Eat a balanced diet, increase wholesome and natural foods. I know we have all heard this but it’s so important to help us feel better and clearer and have more energy and mental wellness. I find I can concentrate longer and better when I eat well, I feel clearer and I am more productive when I eat well.
  4. Exercise or do something active. I find I cope better with things when I exercise. Doing yoga, Pilates, going to the gym or walking helps my mental and emotional state and I feel better for it and I find I am in a much better mood. Also I am not as anxious or stressed when I exercise, so for me exercising helps me mentally as much as physically and emotionally. So whether it’s zumba, kayaking, getting on your bike or walking, do what you enjoy.
  5. Acceptance — learn to accept the things that have happened in our life that we may not like, or wished they didn’t happen. It doesn’t mean we have to like what’s happened to us, but we must eventually accept them to make peace with it and move forward. Don’t play the victim. It’s not what happens to us, but who we become that is the most important in life. You will find you will be a lot happier and peaceful when you can do this.

Much of my expertise focuses on helping people to plan for after retirement. Retirement is a dramatic ‘life course transition’ that can impact one’s health. In addition to the ideas you mentioned earlier, are there things that one should do to optimize mental wellness after retirement? Please share a story or an example for each.

  1. Keep busy doing something you enjoy. Have a hobby, it so important whether it’s gardening, sewing or painting.
  2. Keep active physically, use it or lose it.
  3. Read or learn something new, you’re never too old to learn.
  4. Don’t focus on the past, live in the present. Accept and make peace and forgive people, not for them but for you, so you can have happiness and peace.
  5. Don’t isolate yourself, join a social group

I worked for My Aged care for a while and the healthiest, happiest people did most of the things themselves, they were active, they walked or exercised, they cooked and cleaned their house or kept their garden, and went to social groups or had family help and interaction. Those who didn’t have help had interaction with others socially in meetup groups. Those were physically challenged or couldn’t do all of the things or drive anymore had help and went to social groups. We all need each other for survival and support.

How about teens and pre teens. Are there any specific new ideas you would suggest for teens and pre teens to optimize their mental wellness?

  1. Learn life skills and resilience skills. Resilience is a skill we can learn to build and cultivate. Life is not fair or easy and we need to have the coping skills to be able to endure, overcome and get through life’s challenges, crisis and obstacles to reach the goals that we want. Remember the bad days don’t last, things really do get better when we persist and find a light at the end of a dark tunnel. Believe, hold onto hope and have faith and you can do anything you set your mind to, you are much stronger than you think, I am living proof of this. Don’t believe your negative thoughts they are just thoughts, it doesn’t mean they are real, your mind will trick you to believe things. Many times they are irrational thoughts.
  2. Find what you want to do and go for it.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

There are so many books that made an impact on me. Jim Rohn ‘The Five Major Piece of Life’s Jigsaw Puzzle’, Napoleon Hill, Florence Scovel Shinn, made a big impact on me and resonated with me. I have read their books over and over. Every time I read it I understood it better, or it just reminded me. Study and find out everything you can about what you want to learn.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

It’s really important to teach young children, pre-teens and teens life skills and resilience skills. I had to learn all these things myself through years of study and also through life experience. It will help decrease suicide, help with mental health to be happier and give them the tools they need to cope with life, because life is not fair and it’s not easy. There are many obstacles, challenges and mountains to climb to achieve what we want in life.

My resilience program would be in schools as part of the curriculum and my books would also be available in primary, high schools and universities as part of the curriculum across Australia. To help arm children and teens with life skills and resilience skills to be able to deal with life better. Our children are our future these skills need to be taught as young as possible. Achieving our dreams and goals also has many obstacles and challenges to overcome.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

‘Stand Guard at the Door of Your Mind’ Jim Rohn. It’s really important what you let into your mental computer as this affects the way you feel, which determines your outcomes. I’ve been through very dark days in my life, losing my friend, in school my brother and also when I was going through cancer twice and the separation from my partner of 28years and the family unit after cancer. This resonates with me because we can manage what we let into our mental computer. We can become aware of things so when we recognize when we are having negative thoughts we can slowly change them back to better feeling thoughts. We are human and we have a range of emotions, awareness is key to changing what we let into our mind and what we focus on.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

facebook https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100011677152856

https://instagram.com/roulaselinas/ and LinkedIn https://linkedin/in/roulaselinas/

and they can subscribe to my website www.roulaselinas.com and YouTube channel under roula selinas

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!


Roula Selinas: 5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Female Disruptors: Maria Raquel Thomas On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry

“Give the people what they want.” Sometimes it is not always about you. For instance, when I was determining what I wanted to post on my Instagram cosmetics page, I wanted to post things that had cool videos and effects, but these days people are more focused on the actual product. So, I learned to give the people what they want.

As a part of our series about women who are shaking things up in their industry, I had the pleasure of interviewing Maria Raquel Thomas.

Maria Raquel Thomas is a 14-year-old Entrepreneur, Youtuber and Philanthropist. She is the owner of Maria Raquel Thomas Cosmetics.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your “backstory”?

Hello, my name is Maria Raquel Thomas, and I am a 14-year-old teen entrepreneur. I own a beauty brand called Maria Raquel Thomas Cosmetics. I am also the National Youth Ambassador for an organization called Stand-Up for Kids. It is a non-profit that focuses on combatting youth homelessness. In my spare time, I like to build robots and roller coasters.

What led you to this path at such a young age?

In January 2018, I started my first company, Ria’s Slime Shop. My goal was to produce products that helped calm anxiety amongst the Z-generation. As my business geared up, I noticed I started to have problems with my lips chapping. It was embarrassing for me and it did not make me feel confident. So, I came up with a solution. I went back into my business “science lab” and started developing items to help with chapping. In 2020, I started Maria Raquel Thomas Cosmetics. I am proud to state my first collection sold out in a week! I now have a second collection called Girl Power that has eyeshadows, lip glosses and lip care products.

Can you tell our readers what it is about the work you are doing that is disruptive?

I am disrupting society’s views on beauty. My goal with Maria Raquel Thomas Cosmetics is to enhance the natural beauty of girls and build up their self-confidence. For example, I used positive adjectives in the naming of the products to give girls reminders of how amazing the really are. I use words such as Beautiful, Confident, Adventurous, Dreamer, Determined, etc.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

When I first started my beauty line, my first collection, the D.R.I.P. Collection, was all handmade and I would have trouble filling the tubes up. There is an unwritten rule that when you fill up your lipgloss tubes, you only fill them up to a certain amount. If you do not, they could overflow. I did not know that until afterward and when I closed the lipgloss tubes, they would squirt out and get everywhere. I made a big mess of lipgloss all over my ‘science lab’. After the lipgloss spilled everywhere it was hard to clean up. Lesson learned, study up on your products.

We all need a little help along the journey. Who have been some of your mentors? Can you share a story about how they made an impact?

My parents have been my mentors and they have really helped me grow my business. My parents are Veterans, and, in our household, there is a rule that if you have a problem, you must come up with a few solutions. This was extremely helpful when it came to my lipgloss filling tube incident. My solutions were to buy a lipgloss filling machine, continue to use a filling tube, or have them professionally manufactured.

Can you articulate to our readers when disrupting an industry is positive, and when disrupting an industry is ‘not so positive’? Can you share some examples of what you mean?

Disrupting an industry can be both a positive and a negative thing. Disrupting an industry in a positive way is a good thing and it shows that you are doing something at a higher level. I am doing just that. I believe everyone is beautiful. So, my products are geared toward enhancing their natural beauty. Disrupting an industry in a negative way could hurt others. For example, if a company has a skin care line that does not protect the environment, it could cause a negative impact on our planet.

Can you share 3 of the best words of advice you have gotten along your journey? Please give a story or example for each.

1) “Give the people what they want.” Sometimes it is not always about you. For instance, when I was determining what I wanted to post on my Instagram cosmetics page, I wanted to post things that had cool videos and effects, but these days people are more focused on the actual product. So, I learned to give the people what they want.

2) “If it were easy everyone would be doing it. Having a business and then trying to grow your business is not the easiest thing in the world. There have been times when I felt down but once I received that advice, it motivated me. To be successful, I know I must work at it and keep working at it.

3) “Follow my heart and you’ll do great.” I believe that if you are passionate about something and you love doing it, nothing can stand in your way.

We are sure you are not done. How are you going to shake things up next?

We are now working on my new beauty collection. My goal is to continue to build girl’s self-confidence through my products. I am also working with Stand-Up for Kids to bring more awareness to the public about how we can combat youth homelessness.

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by ‘women disruptors’ that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

Women disrupters are more judged. Through my product line, I am telling girls that they are powerful and beautiful. Some people may feel that not every girl is beautiful and powerful. I disagree. Yes, we are.

Do you have a book/podcast/talk that has had a deep impact on your thinking? Can you share a story with us?

‘Reach for the Skai’ by Skai Jackson was a very inspirational book for me. It really motivated me to do something I love. This book told me that EVERYONE goes through ups and downs in life to be successful. Sometimes we do not always get to see the journey it takes for that successful person to be in the place that they are in. I think it is amazing to see another person’s point of view on success. The bottom line is that we must take the stairs and not the elevator to success.

You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

If I could inspire a movement it would be to help combat youth homelessness. I believe all kids should have an education because it will benefit not only the child but the planet. Who knows, one day they could be a scientist and find the cure for a disease.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?

My favorite life lesson quote is “If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.” This is relevant to me because this quote constantly reminds me that having a business may not be easy but if I keep pushing myself it will be worth it.

How can our readers follow you online?

You can find Maria Raquel Thomas Cosmetics products at www.mariaraquelthomas.com. To see all the products in action, check out my Instagram and Facebook @mariaraquelthomas!

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Female Disruptors: Maria Raquel Thomas On The Three Things You Need To Shake Up Your Industry was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Katie Wagner of KWSM: 5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Became A Founder or CEO

No one is going to tell you that you’re doing a good job.

As CEO, you don’t have a boss who can give you feedback about how you’re doing. It’s hard to find external guidance for how to improve, but for me it’s been even more challenging that there’s no one to praise you or celebrate with you when you’re doing a good job. You have to find that pride and motivation within yourself. That’s one reason that it’s been so important for me to regularly step away from my company — so that I can reflect on all the things I’ve accomplished.

As part of my series about the leadership lessons of accomplished business leaders, I had the pleasure of interviewing Katie Wagner.

Katie is the CEO and Founder of KWSM: a digital marketing agency. KWSM is a full-service digital agency specializing in content creation, social media management, digital advertising, videography, website design and SEO. Clients include Mitsubishi, Anthem Blue Cross, F45 Fitness Studios, Rakuten, Caesar’s Entertainment, and small to mid-sized companies across the country. The agency has offices in Orange Country, CA, San Diego, CA, Atlanta, GA and Las Vegas, NV.

Before starting KWSM, Katie spent 15 years as a television and radio journalist, working for news outlets including ABC, CBS, Fox, CNN & National Public Radio.

Katie lives in San Diego, CA with her husband and their 5 rescue dogs.

Thank you so much for joining us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?

I was working as a television journalist when social media started to gain popularity. We realized that people weren’t watching the 5 o’clock news the way they used to because they could get headlines on Facebook and Twitter and see videos on YouTube. It became part of my job to use these new channels regularly and try to engage our audience there. As more consumers embraced social media, I realized that business owners would need to understand how to tell their story there, and I could use the skills I learned as a journalist to help them. When I left my TV job, I thought I would become a consultant and had no idea I was building an agency.

Can you tell us a story about the hard times that you faced when you first started your journey?

Because my entire career had been in TV news, I had never run a company or been anyone’s boss before. I wasn’t well versed in how to find and hire the right people. The agency was growing quickly, and I needed to expand our staff in order to meet client demand. I ended up making some really poor choices. Once, while I was away on vacation, my team of 4 employees conspired to each take time off while I was gone, and cover for each other. (Ironically, I found out because they posted pictures of their trips on social media!) I knew I could no longer trust them and had to fire the whole team on the same day. I thought it would be the end of the agency, but my clients understood and trusted me to continue to serve them while I hired a new team. After that, I took hiring and training a lot more seriously, and learned that not everyone who accepts a job will be loyal to the company.

Where did you get the drive to continue even though things were so hard?

I was really inspired by my clients’ faith in me and the agency. I had worked hard to build relationships with them, and I was transparent with them about what had happened. They trusted me to recover quickly and keep moving forward — and that gave me the confidence that I could do it. I knew a lot about digital marketing, but I still had a lot to learn about building a company. I accepted that challenge and did everything I could to educate myself about management and leadership.

So, how are things going today? How did grit and resilience lead to your eventual success?

Today, I have a team of more than 35 employees that I trust and respect. Over the years we have refined our hiring process to include a personality test that tells us much more than what’s on a candidate’s resume. We’ve put strong core values in place for the agency, and we hire based on those traits, and not just on job qualifications. I can teach people the skills they need to excel at digital marketing, but I can’t teach them loyalty, integrity and to be a team player. At the end of the day, those qualities are what allow us to build a strong staff and do our best work for clients. I’ve also learned to be a much better boss and leader, and I’m grateful for the self-development that owning the agency has made possible.

Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?

When I first started the company in 2010, I named it Katie Wagner Social Media, Inc. I really believed I would just be a consultant and teach business owners how to use social media. That ended up being short-sighted, and as the agency grew it didn’t feel right to use my name in the title of the company. The work we do is made possible by a team of people — and I could never accomplish alone what we are capable of together. Also, we now do so much more than social media! So, in 2018, we rebranded as KWSM. As the agency continued to grow, clients didn’t have as much interaction with me because they were well taken care of by the team. One day, the team was onboarding a new client and I happened to walk by the conference room. I wanted to introduce myself and thank him for choosing the agency, so I popped in and stuck out my hand and said “Hi, I’m Katie. Thanks for being here.” The client looked very confused — he had no idea that I was the CEO! It was embarrassing at the time, but I also know it’s a sign of the strong company we’ve built and the fact that clients no longer hire us because of a connection to me, they hire us because of the work we produce and the relationships they build with every person on the team. Today we tell people the initials stand for Know Why Stories Matter!

What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?

From the very beginning, I’ve been committed to building a company with strong values and a people-first focus. When I started the agency a decade ago, digital was a new field, and there was a very low barrier to entry. Anyone who had a Facebook page could be an ‘expert.’ I was determined that we would be genuinely knowledgeable and helpful to our clients, and always treat them fairly. We work in an industry that sometimes takes advantage of the fact that digital is a foreign language to most clients, or charges companies more for services just because they have money. I don’t want to be that kind of agency. Internally, we are guided by the phrase ‘Integrity. Always.’ and I’m very proud of that. One way that’s shown up recently is that when the pandemic happened, we decided to let any client that was struggling out of their contract. I didn’t want to add to the financial stress and uncertainty that so many business owners were facing. We released 20 clients in the first few weeks of the pandemic, and many of them have come back now that things have become a bit more predictable.

I’ve also worked to maintain integrity with my staff over the years. I try to make decisions for the company we will be 5 years from now, not the company we are today. That means, from day one, team members were employees instead of contractors. (Because I knew that as the agency grew, providing good salaries and benefits would be important for attracting the kind of people we wanted to work with.) It’s unusual for an agency to have full-time, salaried employees instead of freelancers and contractors, but I believe that we do our best work because we all work together every day, and don’t assemble piecemeal teams — pulling in people only when we need them. Our cohesiveness is important for the work we do, and I am proud that we were able to honor those commitments to all our employees throughout the pandemic and didn’t lay anyone off.

Doing the right thing is hard sometimes and I’m sure we could have grown faster or made more money if we had cut corners, but I feel good about the company we’ve built.

Which tips would you recommend to your colleagues in your industry to help them to thrive and not “burn out”?

One of the best things I’ve done for both the company, and my own energy level, is carve out time to step away. Every 6 months I take 3 weeks off to work on strategic planning. This allows me to focus on the big picture and fine-tune our systems and processes — but it also gives me the opportunity to remove myself from the day-to-day duties of my job and remember why I started the agency and reflect on how far we’ve come and the good work we are doing. I always go back to work with a renewed sense of drive.

I also think it’s important as a leader to set boundaries. Digital is not a 9–5 job. The tools we use are ‘always on’ and we often work outside of regular hours. It’s easy to be pulled in a lot of different directions — either a client or a team member will always need you for something. I try to schedule white space in my calendar so I can focus on important projects and initiatives for the company, instead of responding to everyone else’s needs all the time. Otherwise, some of the most important work I do will be tackled at night or on the weekend, when I’m less productive. It’s hard to say ‘no’ sometimes, but it actually improves my team’s problem-solving abilities and boosts their confidence.

Also, for me, it’s been very important to continue my own education. As the world changes, leadership also changes and being the best CEO for my agency means continuing to learn new tactics, and constantly evaluate my own strengths and weaknesses. Knowing that I have the tools I need to perform well keeps me invigorated.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story?

When I retired from TV, I had been married to my husband for a year, but we lived in different states because of our jobs. When I moved to be with him, I knew I wanted to help business owners use the new digital tools, but I didn’t know what that would look like. Stephen was the one who pushed me to start a company. He believed that I could do it and supported me every step of the way. In fact, about a year after I started the agency, he quit his job to become KWSM’s Director of Operations! We’ve now worked together for more than 10 years, and I could not have built the agency without him. When he first joined the company, I offered to make him a partner. However, he reminded me that there could only be one chief decision-maker and that was me. He joined as an employee instead. His trust in me as not only a colleague, but as a boss, still helps me find strength on the tough days.

How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?

At the agency, the majority of our staff is female, and many of them are in the millennial generation. My personal sense of purpose and fulfillment comes from training, mentoring and promoting these young women in the workplace. I teach an in-house leadership program for members of our team and helping them navigate their career paths and become the leaders of tomorrow is one of the most important parts of my job.

What are your “5 things I wish someone told me before I started leading my company” and why. Please share a story or example for each.

Starting and leading my company has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life, but also one of the most difficult. I have learned a lot about my own strengths and weaknesses, what’s important to me, and how I want to contribute in the world. I don’t know if there’s any list that would have prepared me for this journey, but here are some of the things I wish I had known:

1.) Finding a peer group should be a top priority.

Being the CEO can be a lonely job. When you’re having a bad day or facing big decision, there’s no one on your staff that you can talk things over with. Being a good leader means reassuring your staff that everything is OK, and their jobs are stable, and that means you don’t complain to them or put your decisions on their shoulders.

I’ve found that it’s very helpful to have a group of peers — leaders at other companies — that I can confide in and look to for advice. About 5 years into my role as CEO, I joined a Vistage peer group, and that made a huge difference in feeling less alone and having resources for improving my leadership. No matter what the industry, many of the challenges CEOs face are the same, and I could not have built the company I have today without the friendship and support of my Vistage peers.

2.) No one is going to tell you that you’re doing a good job.

As CEO, you don’t have a boss who can give you feedback about how you’re doing. It’s hard to find external guidance for how to improve, but for me it’s been even more challenging that there’s no one to praise you or celebrate with you when you’re doing a good job. You have to find that pride and motivation within yourself. That’s one reason that it’s been so important for me to regularly step away from my company — so that I can reflect on all the things I’ve accomplished.

3.) The learning curve is steep, and continuous. Be ready.

Running a company will force you to use every skill you have and develop new ones very quickly. When I started the agency, I knew about digital marketing. But I had to quickly learn about hiring and people management, finances and balance sheets, sales, contracts, negotiating real estate, and numerous other aspects of running an organization. It can be exhausting and sometimes feel like you can’t get on top of everything. Because the world is always changing, and we always have new clients and team members, I am constantly learning and refining my skills as the business grows and evolves. Whether it’s tackling an interpersonal communication challenge I haven’t faced before, or implementing a new HR law, there are new problems to solve daily.

4.) This will be the hardest work you have ever done.

People sometimes say they want to own a business because of the freedom it provides — they envision doing only the work they love, working when they want to, and taking plenty of time off to spend with family and friends. That may be true if you’re a solopreneur, but when building a company, I find that this is the biggest myth of entrepreneurship. I work harder and longer hours now than at any point in my career. There is also added pressure on me to do good work and make wise decisions because dozens of families rely on their loved ones having stable jobs at the agency. This responsibility, coupled with the loneliness and constant learning mentioned in #1 and #3, makes the role of CEO the most challenging position I have ever held. It’s also the most rewarding — but that sense of accomplishment is earned through a lot of hard work. When you have a job, success is about your output on a daily basis. As the leader of the company, your focus is on long-term results, and success is about what happens over time. When the days get stressful, it can be hard to maintain that focus on the future.

5.) People and relationships are more important than systems or the work you produce.

I used to think that the agency would grow if we had the right systems and processes to keep things running smoothly, and we produced the best work in our field. While those things matter, I’ve learned that the true heart of a business is the people that work there, and the people that hire you. The relationships I have with my staff and clients are fuel for agency growth, and at the end of the day, how you treat people is the most important aspect of success. If you have mutual trust and respect with a client or an employee, it’s easy for them to forgive you when a mistake is made and keep moving forward. But no amount of outstanding work will make someone want to join your team or hire your company if they don’t believe you are operating with integrity.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I would like to see more resilience training in the workplace. As I mentioned, I work with a lot of younger team members and they haven’t yet learned how to care for their own energy levels and rebound after tough times. I see a lot of people quit their jobs and look for something new the first time things get stressful or difficult, because they think it will never change. I would love to see more transparent conversations in the workplace around stress and workload — and more training about how to recognize your own emotional needs and take steps to meet them, instead of pushing through because you feel like that’s what’s expected. We hear a lot about burnout, but that’s simply the result of depleting your energy stores and not feeling like you have anything left to give. Burnout is a serious condition, but it isn’t permanent or irreversible. I think better communication and leadership around these issues could build a workforce that is able to recognize the signs of depleted energy sooner and take steps so that burnout is avoided.

How can our readers follow you on social media?

I would love to connect and continue the conversation on any of these channels:

https://www.facebook.com/kwsmteam

https://www.linkedin.com/company/1873511

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwsocialmedia/

https://twitter.com/kwsmteam

https://www.instagram.com/kwsmteam/

This was very inspiring. Thank you so much for joining us!


Katie Wagner of KWSM: 5 Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Became A Founder or CEO was originally published in Authority Magazine on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.